The gay way of life can be a battleground when we’re judging each other based on aesthetics and adherence to traditional masculine traits like gym-built arms, a burly voice and that distinctive straight lads’ swagger.
Possessing all of these aforementioned qualities is regarded as a passport into the pants of other men the nation over, yet there are many who misuse this privilege – those handsome albeit cold-hearted gay boys burning their way through treasure troves of sexual partners and romantic accomplices, leaving trails of rejection and resentment in their self-indulgent wake.
For the men bestowed with the gift of good looks, many of them feel a gravitational pull towards the dreaded ‘God Complex’ syndrome, seductively dividing and conquering as they see fit.
Yet some of us (the ‘cherries’ on the proverbial GLBTI cake) treat our fellow man as we would like to be treated and we’re shouldering our responsibility to spread acceptance and love with aplomb.
The currency of gay men is arguably sex appeal. Guys are lauded for their six-packs and taut posteriors, and being lisp-free and masculine will get you oh so many brownie points.
“We have an opportunity to completely change the face of the GLBTI community, and it all starts with unity.”
Yet the gay/bi beauties getting drunk with pink power and raising hell amongst their peers are majorly counter-productive to our main mission in society.
I often ask myself how this phenomenon reared its ugly head in the first place. A survival of the fittest mentality perhaps? Maybe there’s a generation of guys jousting with their sexuality and seeking salvation via the societal domination of others? Maybe they instinctually belittle their fellow man to justify their self-loathing?
Regardless, we have an opportunity to completely change the face of the GLBTI community, and it all starts with unity. It’s the only way we can pave a better future for a generation of gay men who (hopefully) won’t endure the same oppressive society we grew up in.
Because at the end of the day isn’t it all about evolution?
We want a better society to live in, we want a homelier, hornier, homo-centric world where we can be ourselves and live and love freely without societal constraints and oppressive ills.
So many guys are rapt with fear when approaching each other in bars and clubs because they risk being ridiculed and mocked, and how bloody sad is that!? Gay nightspots should be sanctuaries free from division and fear.
I’ve seen too many guys standing awkwardly at the bar, disheveled and alone, feeling as though they’re existing in a totally different dimension to the bevy of boys in their midst. They’re disconnected and frustrated by the malevolent gay pecking order, virtually invisible to their peers, and worst of all ostracised by the aforementioned kingmakers with gorgeous glutes.
Therefore the hotties with sleek cheekbones and luscious lips do indeed have a great responsibility to use their looks for the greater good, and we mustn’t abuse our privilege and position among our pink peers.
I’m calling on the current generation of studs to do their bit – stamp out discrimination and malice in GLBTI circles simply because we’ve suffered enough at the hands of homophobes and haters.
Robert Edward Smith is a Melbourne-based writer and aged-care ambassador.