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Callum & Clinton's wedding

“While this was such a personal and special day for Callum and I, we understand that what it represents is bigger than us. If sharing it helps anyone with their current views or encourages them to be brave, it was worth it.”

Surrounded by family and friends, Callum and Clinton’s gorgeous wedding happened at Dunbar House in Watson’s Bay on a rainy day last November.

The two initially met through a mutual friend back in 2004, but got together after Clinton arrived home years later from travelling. Within weeks, the couple were planning their new life together in Sydney.

They tell Same Same the sweet story of how their relationship began, and share photos and video of the event that formally united them in spirit.

How did you two meet and get together?

Callum: Clinton was so handsome that I was initially overwhelmingly intimidated and couldn’t bring myself to talk to him or even acknowledge his presence! So silly when I look back on it, but I was a very immature 21-year-old.

We never became friends while he lived in Brisbane, and he moved to London to pursue a career in hotels. We added each other as friends on Facebook, but this was the only thread of contact we had.

Once Clinton had moved back from London, I had completed my degree and was working in a design firm in the valley. I had also grown up an awful lot and finally had the confidence to talk to him. OK it did take a bit of booze, but whatever!

“We never take for granted our truly amazing families, whose love, support and acceptance has never wavered or compromised.”

I remember one of the first conversations we had was whether each other wanted kids (laughs). Yeah… we were definitely making up for lost time and made no effort to put on the brakes. Within a month, Clinton and I had met each other’s parents and our parents had also met. Within two months we moved to Sydney together.

Two months before our wedding we had a Civil Union at the British Consulate. It was nice to know that at least one government body could legally recognise our relationship as more than defacto.

Many people question whether Clinton and I have acted too quickly, too carelessly and not waited long enough to properly build a relationship. I can only quote a well known saying: “when you know, you know.”

Who proposed to who, and how?

Clinton: On July 16th 2011, after asking my father’s permission, Callum accompanied by a four-piece string quartet proposed at Centennial Park. I of course said yes.

While I was getting my head around what had just happened, right on cue, all of our friends arrived. Followed shortly after by both of our siblings and then our parents, having all flown interstate for the proposal.

When planning your wedding, what aspects of the ceremony were important to you both?

I think that the most important part of the ceremony and I guess the entire lead up to the day was our families’ involvement. We never take for granted our truly amazing families, whose love, support and acceptance has never wavered or compromised.

We’re so very lucky to say that we had our mothers walking us down the aisle, our fathers signed the witness certificate. My brother was my best man, our sisters did a reading in the ceremony and our nieces and nephews made up the wedding party as our page boys and flower girls.

Callum and I have been very fortunate in our lives to be surrounded by loving and accepting family and friends. Being gay has been as little importance in our lives as whether or not our hair was blonde or brown. We have never had to deal with a different set of rules or guidelines when it came to being introduced to each others families or being accepted as the partner of their son or bother. So for us having them be apart of our day was the most important thing.

How did it go on the day?

The day itself ran pretty smoothly. There were of course a couple of hiccups to keep us on our toes. We were planning to have our ceremony under a beautiful fig tree outside Dunbar House, but it rained on the day. So instead, we had the ceremony inside that looked out onto the bay. We also had a slight wardrobe malfunction (I won’t name any names), though I can say that five minutes before we were meant to walked down the aisle, a member of the wedding party had to be sewed into their outfit. Something that I’m sure we will laugh at in years to come.

What does it mean to you both now to be married?

We have always regarded this day as our ‘’wedding’’. Leading up to it, our families all referred to it as our wedding and the day that we would become husbands.

So now that it has finally happened it feels how we always imagined it to feel. Amazing, exciting, comfortable and stable.

What do you think is the key to making your relationship last?

Communication. It’s so important to talk to each other. Not just about the good thing but especially about the bad. Even when it seems hard to say, you should always talk to each other.

How do you feel about your marriage not being legally recognised yet in Australia?

We, like so many people in Australia, support marriage equality. When Callum proposed, we originally were going to wait until it became legal. There is just something special about exchanging vows that has more impact if they were legally recognised.

But the thought of waiting for 5, 10 or even 15 years for legalities to catch up with social opinion was just not an option for us. The thought of someone else deciding when we were ready for this next chapter in our lives didn’t seem to sit well – why should politics dictate when we feel that we are ready to get married, or at all?

To our friends and family this day is not a wedding between two men or even a civil ceremony, as it is most commonly called. But it is simply a wedding.

We hope that our day was an example to society of what a modern day wedding looks like. It’s not a man and a woman, a man and a man or even a woman and a woman… but two people, standing in front of the most important people in their lives expressing their love and devotion to each other, witnessed by family and friends and recognised my law.

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Anthony Mahera

Anthony Mahera said on the 4th Feb, 2013

What a beautiful wedding. Best of luck to both you boys. May all your dreams come true (although it looks like it already has :) ) peace and love xo

yesiam

yesiam said on the 4th Feb, 2013

I don't even know these two and was weeping like a blubbering idiot! Thanks for sharing boys!!

75Pony

75Pony said on the 4th Feb, 2013

Watching this made me want to do it all over again! My husband and I have been together for 8 years and getting hitched whilst we were living in London was the best decision I ever made! All the very best to you both!

Virgindirk

Virgindirk said on the 4th Feb, 2013

Excellent pictures of the groom and best man, but where is the bride??? :p

Jaffa12

Jaffa12 said on the 4th Feb, 2013

Absolutely beautiful. Beautiful wedding, beautiful grooms and beautiful family and friends. Perfect!!

pumkins18

pumkins18 said on the 4th Feb, 2013

cutest thing ever ! everything was great !

MonoGayMe

MonoGayMe said on the 4th Feb, 2013

This is what we should strive for, "Partners for Life". True Love.

MrAsh

MrAsh said on the 4th Feb, 2013

What songs did they choose for their ceremony and wedding waltz?

And what was the cake like?

MrAsh

MrAsh said on the 4th Feb, 2013



I agree. We need to know more about the particulars of the wedding. It's too straight without the detail! :)

Barrin

Barrin said on the 4th Feb, 2013



Clinton: On July 16th 2011, after asking my father’s permission, Callum accompanied by a four-piece string quartet proposed at Centennial Park....

Details like that are too straight. It makes me cringe. I doubt that many straight men ask their potential father-in-law for permission these days. And with a same sex couple just who asks who? I bet the proposer got down on one knee too. As if that proves anything.

Brightside05

Brightside05 said on the 5th Feb, 2013

You're just jaded Barrin from all the time you've spent on your knees at the CP beat.

Barrin

Barrin said on the 5th Feb, 2013

I get on my knees as a gay man, not a heterosexual wannabe. :)

MilesHeffernan

MilesHeffernan said on the 5th Feb, 2013

Just beautiful and brilliant photos too

MrAsh

MrAsh said on the 5th Feb, 2013

Clinton: On July 16th 2011, after asking my father’s permission, Callum accompanied by a four-piece string quartet proposed at Centennial Park....

Details like that are too straight. It makes me cringe. I doubt that many straight men ask their potential father-in-law for permission these days. And with a same sex couple just who asks who? I bet the proposer got down on one knee too. As if that proves anything.

Are you sure?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VTOEp7WQm40

Brightside05

Brightside05 said on the 5th Feb, 2013



You get on your knees as a social outcast. I know you must hate it because as an older gay you were all social outcasts and thus acted like it. Now gay is in the mainstream and we can do mainstream things that make us happy.

Barrin

Barrin said on the 5th Feb, 2013



Like looking down on people who should be your peers in order to make them feel guilty?
Thanks for showing that it's not the pastiche of a ceremony subject to this thread we need to be wary of. It's backward, narcissistic attitudes like yours, perpetuating the prejudice you claim the mainstream has rescued you from.

JimTy

JimTy said on the 5th Feb, 2013

All the best!
bless these couple..

The Otter Guy

The Otter Guy said on the 6th Feb, 2013

Such a beautiful story, thank you for sharing. Congratulations to you both!

Brightside05

Brightside05 said on the 6th Feb, 2013

Like looking down on people who should be your peers in order to make them feel guilty?
Thanks for showing that it's not the pastiche of a ceremony subject to this thread we need to be wary of. It's backward, narcissistic attitudes like yours, perpetuating the prejudice you claim the mainstream has rescued you from.

Ho Ho, don't try and play the victim now Barrin. You were trying to make everyone in this thread feel guilty for implying that we were all sell outs to heteronormative ideals. You haven't adapted, you haven't come with the times. And like anything that doesn't adapt you are now a dinosaur. You are no longer part of the modern gay community, you are now on the fringe.

mark_

mark_ said on the 6th Feb, 2013


Why are you SO grumpy?

You could use a personal message if you wanted to make a personal attack.

Barrin

Barrin said on the 6th Feb, 2013

They're irrational Mark. Talking as if it's a fait accompli will never make it so.
With marriage bills defeated in three different parliaments last year and the likelihood of Catholic Tony Abbot elected PM by the end of this year, there might be a few more dinosaurs around by the time the law is changed.

Ozmate

Ozmate said on the 6th Feb, 2013

That was a wedding!!!! Brought tears to our eyes. Also brought back memories of our own, much smaller, event a year ago.

MrAsh

MrAsh said on the 6th Feb, 2013



Barrin was just stating his dissenting opinion. He wasn't making anyone feel guilty and just because you conform with the contemporary status quo doesn't mean you are necessarily right.

Also referring to older GLBTIQ people as 'dinosaurs' is disrespectful. If it weren't for their actions and fight for equality we would't be having this discussion freely or openly as we are today. It because of them we can fight for marriage equality, if they didn't do anything GLBTIQ culture would still be a secret society and at this moment we probably be in a psychiatric ward recovering from electroconvulsive therapy treatment!

Brightside05

Brightside05 said on the 7th Feb, 2013

Barrin was just stating his dissenting opinion. He wasn't making anyone feel guilty and just because you conform with the contemporary status quo doesn't mean you are necessarily right.

Also referring to older GLBTIQ people as 'dinosaurs' is disrespectful. If it weren't for their actions and fight for equality we would't be having this discussion freely or openly as we are today. It because of them we can fight for marriage equality, if they didn't do anything GLBTIQ culture would still be a secret society and at this moment we probably be in a psychiatric ward recovering from electroconvulsive therapy treatment!

Ash I was not referring to all of the older alphabet people as dinosaurs. If someone has fought for decades for something why would they slag it off like Barrin has done, or maybe he didn't fight at all.

Barrin

Barrin said on the 7th Feb, 2013



The fight all those years ago was to get the government's laws off of our private lives. Quite the opposite of what you're fighting for now. Or are you fighting at all?

NATEE

NATEE said on the 7th Feb, 2013

A lot has happened in the past 50 years for the Gay and Lesbian community for their civil rights as human beings to express who they truly are. It did take a lot of pain and sorrow by many activists over the decades to give the ability for gay men (including lesbians) like Callum and Clinton to get married. Marriage might be a primitive and institutionalized concept although it brings so much joy and happiness to so many couples whether heterosexual or homosexual. There is still more advancement to be made in the civil rights movement although you can tell progress is being made and peoples acceptance has never been greater thus far.

Good luck to any homosexual couple who wish to wed their partners. Personally for me marriage is not a big deal. I guess humans which are mammals NEED companionship in their lives. Everyone has a right on this earth to be happy, whatever that maybe.

Congratulations to them both. :)

Michael Tiyce

Michael Tiyce said on the 8th Feb, 2013

what a lovely lovely story, good luck to them both!!

Michael Tiyce

Michael Tiyce said on the 8th Feb, 2013

oh ash dont be such a cynic! it was a great story!

enzyme

enzyme said on the 8th Feb, 2013

Its nice that they are happy. IM all for total equality including marriage

MrAsh

MrAsh said on the 8th Feb, 2013



Michael, I agree it was a great story and they are a lovely couple. I just think the article is lacking in detail that's all. :)

sugarwalls

sugarwalls said on the 9th Feb, 2013

Next will come the surrogate mother and babies.. YUCK!
The straight life ain't for me!

homestarrunner

homestarrunner said on the 9th Feb, 2013

i think this is great and all, but i can't help but feel as though they are rubbing it in for the people in australia that want to be married but cant because of the backwards politicians and their policies.

sugarwalls

sugarwalls said on the 10th Feb, 2013

Gay honeymoons are cheap - just hire a suite at the nearest gay sauna!

Iam35

Iam35 said on the 11th Feb, 2013

Callum & Clinton, you looked so happy on your big day and I hope you will both be for the rest of your lives. I really hope I can become as lucky as you two one day, as of late, I keep thinking 'I'm now 35, am I ever going to find anyone and that I'm not the best looking person, will they like me'. I watch your movie and like others, I too cried, as you were both beautiful, the whole thing was! Good luck to you both and may your lives go without a hitch. Cheers.

timbo84

timbo84 said on the 12th Feb, 2013

Congrats boys! Bought a tear to my eye <3 xx

iianblanco

iianblanco said on the 12th Feb, 2013

Amazing! Truly amazing! I am now a blubbering mess and full of emotions.
Love it.

sugarwalls

sugarwalls said on the 13th Feb, 2013

@Iam35... Ugly people get married.. Look at the amount of heterosexuals and the dogs they end up with! Marriage is not about finding the hottest guy it is finding someone the most compatible.. Looks play no part and do not last in the long term!

Coast68guy

Coast68guy said on the 6th Apr, 2013

I was moved to tears while I was watching this Beautiful video, I wish you both all the happiness in the world ...

tristencys

tristencys said on the 8th Apr, 2013

Love never fails. Love conquers all.
Congratulations to the lovely couple on starting your new journey together. May your love for each other brings blessings to your relationship.

lonely_boy_83

lonely_boy_83 said on the 26th Oct, 2013

I am currently visiting Tasmania and came across this because frankly as impossible as it may seem to me right now, I am thinking of moving to this magical part of your country from Albany WA. I, like many above am a blubbering mess after watching this, and think it's amazing that these 2 found one another, and I wish you every bit of happiness this world has to offer you. I can only hope this will happen to me one day too, you are both so lucky to have found one another, so never take it for granted and love each other for the rest of your lives.