Feeling love sick at this moment. . .

[jimmy08]

I'm going through this phase. . . I don't know what exactly is wrong with me, but let me try to explain my feelings here.

When I used to be in high school, there was this guy who was probably interested in me, but at that time, I wasn't that keen on him.

Ten years from now, on Monday as I was on my way to work, I saw him walking out from the bread shop in the morning. I instantly recognised him, because his face looked the same.

Today, I planned to get some bread from the bread shop before I go to work. Usually I would get out of the car immediately when I parked my car, but instead, I was searching for my wallet in the car. As I glanced up from my car window, I saw him walking out of the bread shop... I was like kicking myself. If I had got out of the car, I could have said "hello" and talked to him.

I think Im developing a crush for him. . . how could I get out from this phase, knowing that this might just end up as a silly, time-wasting crush that is draining out my energy.

[Asherbella]

I'd say it's more draining to remain in a state of 'what if...'
Say hi if you see him again.

[TheOldie]

I'm going through this phase. . . I don't know what exactly is wrong with me, but let me try to explain my feelings here.

When I used to be in high school, there was this guy who was probably interested in me, but at that time, I wasn't that keen on him.

Ten years from now, on Monday as I was on my way to work, I saw him walking out from the bread shop in the morning. I instantly recognised him, because his face looked the same.

Today, I planned to get some bread from the bread shop before I go to work. Usually I would get out of the car immediately when I parked my car, but instead, I was searching for my wallet in the car. As I glanced up from my car window, I saw him walking out of the bread shop... I was like kicking myself. If I had got out of the car, I could have said "hello" and talked to him.

I think Im developing a crush for him. . . how could I get out from this phase, knowing that this might just end up as a silly, time-wasting crush that is draining out my energy.

The only way to get out of this phase is to make sure you get to that bread shop earlier and wait for him and most definately say hi.


Good luck !

[Baby]

Not to sound like a hopeless romantic, but maybe it's fate!

I agree with Oldie, try to bump into him again and see if you can strike up the old friendship. Find out if he's gay, and who knows maybe there's something there.

A crush is never a waste of time! You never know what could spring from it. If nothing else, maybe a friendship. At least explore it, if it turns out he's not interested then you can work on getting rid of the crush.

[Ash Rehn]

What a great story!
Can't wait to hear what happens next!

[jimmy08]

Strangely, I managed to overcome this crush very quickly. I actually sat in the car (twice) in the morning and waited for him, but I haven't seen him around in the bread shop . The experience was heartbreaking, but luckily, the past few days, I was so busy with work and moving houses, that I barely get to think of him anymore.

I guess the moment when I saw him walking out of the bread shop, it felt like I was reliving my high school experience again. I know I shouldn't look back. The past is no more; the future is unknown. What I should be doing right now is to focus on this present moment I have right now. I'm too old for those silly crushes.

[Ash Rehn]

You said these Crushes are draining of your energy. What do these Crushes have you thinking or believing about yourself?

[Baby]

I agree with Ash, why do you find crushes so negative? Crushes are supposed to be fun and exciting.

You're never too old for a crush, or rather in this case you saw someone you found attractive and thought you might have found someone you could start a relationship with. Keep an open mind if you run into him again, maybe there is something there, maybe not. Don't talk yourself out of it before it's even begun.

[Ash Rehn]

[QUOTE=Baby;161863]I agree with Ash, why do you find crushes so negative? Crushes are supposed to be fun and exciting.

They don't sound fun if they are draining of energy. I'm not sure if everyone experiences crushes the same way.

[jimmy08]

Well, this is not the first time I developed a crush on someone. . . Years ago, when I studied at Tafe, I had an immese crush on this guy named Justin. I had this impression that he liked me because he used to sit beside me in every classes. The funny thing was we barely talked because we were both shy students. Whenever he was absent, I blamed myself for being a snob towards him and told myself that I should have talked to him. However., when ever he was around, I was happy to see him but I just can't help myself by prentending that I wasn't interested in him.

Anyway, towards the end of the year, I caught him hugging this girl as I walked out of the library. That really hurt!. All those times I spend thinking about him were a complete waste of my time. I thought he was gay but it turned out he was straight.

I ended up failing a lot of subjects. Looking back, I was really foolish. I should have learnt from this experience by now. I have to remind myself stop falling in love!!!

The sad thing about being gay is that you don't know whether the other guy is gay also. . .

Anyway, I'm proud of myself that I no longer think of my old high school buddy anymore. Definitely not fate - just a conincidence that I bumped into him.

[Baby]

I know exactly how you feel, I'm in the exact same situation at the moment! My crush turned out to be MARRIED! But at the same time, don't let one failed crush put you off having feelings for anyone else. I think you'll find everyone has had a "Justin" experience - even straight people get crushes on someone who is not interested!! Yeah of course it's hard when you don't know if someone is gay or not, but then again even if Justin had been gay that wouldn't automatically make him like you. And maybe he was gay, but at the time too scared to act on it.

You never know Jimmy, the next time you get a crush maybe it WILL go somewhere, so try not to think of all crushes as bad. Maybe you're better off looking around gay bars or going to gay activities where you will know for sure the other guys play for your team?