No sex relationship

[filip787]

:D

[ammonite]

hi :)
it must be really hard. i do think that people can make it work though.
you should check out this forum: http://www.asexuality.org/en/
http://www.asexuality.org/home/relationship.html

[filip787]

thx for the links ammonite

[Asherbella]

While you can't change a person, you can entice them to believe in their capacity to explore themselves, test their boundaries to include compromise, a higher level of physical intimacy & sexual expression.
What are the things that lead up ('erotic triggers') to an anticipated sex session for him?
If you're interested in my post, I'll elaborate.
Sexual intimacy is a pet topic of mine....

[barabin]

Hello Filip,

What a lot to come out with! I, unfortunately can relate to your feelings. In my last relationship I went a year 1/2 without sex. I used to get a lot of urges to have sex with other men but somehow supressed those feelings.

When it stopped I tried so many things - toys, the sluttiest talk you ever heard of but no avail.

Obviously I odn;t know your boyfriend so I am not sure what might help but mabe you could try those things? Waking up in the middle of the night and practically raping him in his sleep might work. Hopefully he goes with it ;)

I guess I also don't know you but sleeping with other guys if you are not in an open relationship I beleive will only hurt both him and yourself.

He might be really tired..the thing is a really good sex life will only help that aspect.

It's not nice having to wank on the side. We all need some lovin!

Hopefully it all works out :)

xx

[marky markywicz]

filip,

there are a number of possible reasons your partner is non sexual.
And they can include one or more of the following... low levels of testosterone, diet, overweight, smoking, depression, current medication/s.

Low libido in men or low sex drive is a common symptom of andropause.
Just as low levels of testosterone can inhibit erectile function, testosterone has a strong effect on sex drive in men.
In a man’s brain there are testosterone stimulating nerves.
Sex drive in men starts with the release of testosterone which stimulates the receptors in the brain to release nitric oxide.
Nitric oxide in turn relaxes the muscles of the penis to allow blood flow for an erection.
Low testosterone levels common in andropause result in reduced levels of the hormone available to stimulate the nerves in the brain and induce sexual desire and in turn erectile function.
Essentially, without adequate testosterone, low sex drive in men is common.
Ideally you should suggest he see his Doctor for the possibility of some simple tests.
its more common than you may think.