Gays Are Better At On-Line Dating: Article

[Asherbella]

http://www.planetout.com/hot_topics/2010/02/virtual-love-61-of-gay-couples-met-online.html
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[rudeboy86]

Online dating is for the socially inept and has fucked up the bar scene...If you live in the urban areas and can get to a bar then bloody well go and partake in some social intercourse and see if you get somebody's number. Lazy shits.

For those who live in woop-woop I can understand the need to go online however.

[Light-Bearer]

I'm exceptionally bad at online dating.
Infact I've never even done it before.
At the moment, I'm single and seriously thinking of giving this Gaydar thing a try.

I'm just too computer spastic to actually do it- or lazy, or both.

I think if I ever found myself typing Squirt.com into my browser, I'd just take a gun to myself.

[rudeboy86]

I don't trust a jpeg or anything like that with the internet dating/hookup kind of thing.

I would rather take the risk and meet a guy at a bar without knowing sizes and cut/uncut status and all that shite...makes it more fun.

[Light-Bearer]

I concur.

But in Sydney people don't seem to enjoy conversing with strangers that much.

Infact - they swab me for DNA first.

[rudeboy86]

But in Sydney people don't seem to enjoy conversing with strangers that much.

Says more about Sydney people then doesn't it? Pitty.

[Flaneur]

I don't trust a jpeg or anything like that with the internet dating/hookup kind of thing.

I would rather take the risk and meet a guy at a bar without knowing sizes and cut/uncut status and all that shite...makes it more fun.
But ... how are beer goggles in a poorly lit bar that much better than a .jpeg (though they are lame, admittedly)? Especially when you can't always hear each other over music.

A gay bar is fine for hooking up but let's not pretend it's the holy grail for actually finding a decent date either.

[local_warming]

I'm single and seriously thinking of giving this Gaydar thing a try.
this gaydar thing??
you sound like my pop talking about "that bloody internet", when he is actually talking about the foxtel remote

[Light-Bearer]

Well I am probably his age.

[local_warming]

can you split your pension with me 50/50

[Light-Bearer]

You're going down bitch.

[rudeboy86]

But ... how are beer goggles in a poorly lit bar that much better than a .jpeg (though they are lame, admittedly)? Especially when you can't always hear each other over music.

A gay bar is fine for hooking up but let's not pretend it's the holy grail for actually finding a decent date either.

I met the guy I'm dating at Sircuit in Collingwood...worked fine for me and it has worked fine for masses of gay men before us.

I don't mind having a few drinks here and there but I am not going to waste heaps of cash so I can fit myself with some beer-goggles because that always is just shite.

Courtyards are there for people to chat, dancefloors are for dancing...last I checked.

If you can't hear somebody say hello then you are in the wrong place for conversation. Find a bar that will allow some sort of audible conversation...there is usually at least one or two...from my memory the Flinders Hotel was pretty good for that sort of thing.

[Anthony Mahera]

Don't do it. I'd rather have a relationship with a man not a computer. Besides online sex would SUCK!!!

[naughtylion]

Gaydar: Making ugly fags look hot since 1999.

[Nevarro]

If you can't hear somebody say hello then you are in the wrong place for conversation. Find a bar that will allow some sort of audible conversation...there is usually at least one or two...from my memory the Flinders Hotel was pretty good for that sort of thing.

not sure what the scene is like down your way but in Sydney most bars/clubs attract a certain crowd as do they play particular music.
Twinks hang out at this one
Bears over there
Older guys here and Asians over at that one

The only outdoor space is usually full of smoke and the people who like to inhale it.
Finding a bar that allows for conversation isnt necessarily going to work given that the guys one is attracted to are most likely in a sub level room next to the blasting speakers bustin a move

Online dating has its pros and cons
you can lie about yourself online
but
you can lie about yourself to his face also

the best part about going online is that you dont have to look your best to impress until it comes time to meet... and by then you've already gotten more info from his profile then you ever could have hoped meeting in a bar.

[Asherbella]

Gaydar: Making ugly fags look hot since 1999.
That's the problem with Gaydar, etc.
You look at one or two photos of a person & judge them as being ugly purely by virtue of the fact they're not your *type*. I can appreciate hot *boys next door* & hot *cubs* & hot guys over 40. I think if we get rid of this notion we all are stuck with searching for just one *type* we'll also get rid of the perception of *ugly*.
The opposite effect is this one: guys go dreamy over other men on Gaydar based on one or two photos & that photo becomes their *type* so they get stuck on the merry-go-round of thinking 'nothing compares to this profile until someone better looking comes along' without bothering to even try to get to know the person behind the profile. I call this thing 'short attention span infatuation dating' lol:p

[poolboy jackson]

My flatmate is superficially attractive but has OCD and is a sociaphobe.
He can use the onine dating thing for his half-hour 'transactions'.


I couldn't and wouldn't because I have retired from the merry-go-round of chasing men.

Besides I think most of the SS trendsetters have already said on another thread that on-line dating is an amusing pastime but ultimately unproductive. I remember them saying they toy with it but rarely actually meet.

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[Asherbella]

My flatmate is superficially attractive but has OCD and is a sociaphobe.
He can use the onine dating thing for his half-hour 'transactions'.


I couldn't and wouldn't because I have retired from the merry-go-round of chasing men.

Besides I think most of the SS trendsetters have already said on another thread that it's an unproductive idle amusement.


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Sometimes 'unproductive idle amusement' is all people want or can do.
Honesty.
If all you want out of Gaydar is *amusement* then don't give people the impression you want 'deep & meaningful'. :)

[gandolf69]

My experience definitely shows more success face to face meetings than internet hookups, when i use to go to Gaydar, Squirt, Gay.com all i seemed to get were timewasters who didn't really know what they wanted. My most recent success was totally unexpected at the rally last week and it wasn't planned for.