Coming Out WkShops

[Stouey]

Just wanting to ask a question, but before that, since this is my first post, would just like to say a friendly hi to everyone! Bit new to this whole thing and hoping to meet some great people with like minds on here too!!

So I've come out to a number of close friends, but have yet to tell the family. I have set myself a deadline to do it before i turn 25. Potentially the day before my birthday itself seeing as that is my day off work. Anyways, essentially I'm wondering what exactly do these workshops entail and has anyone been to one?? At this present point, I feel a bit anxious about the whole experience of going to one of these events, but perhaps thats just my insecurity and lack of information regarding the workshops. But if people have found it useful whether it be for the coming out process or meeting new people/making new friends, I may consider giving it a try.

Any opionions are welcome! and thanks in advance!

Steve

P.S - the only workshop before my deadline is essentially the one on Tues 22nd Feb -.-'''

[simonlau]

Hi, welcome.
I am going to a workshop hold by vic aids council, but it runs for 6 weeks.
t hereisn't any perfect time to come out so why set a deadline to yourself?

[Stouey]

Thanks Simon :)

I think if i don't set a deadline myself, I may never end up doing it. But mind you, I am fully ready to do it. Its not one of those spur of the moment decisions, I've spent the last few years "planning" it all out. Must've gone through a million different scenario's on how it could turn out or how I could do it. I have enlisted the help of a couple of friends as well to aid me in this process. But yeah, I've just had enough of having to hide who I am, and am just getting sick of feeling restricted in being able to fully express myself. In a sense, I kind of believe they're just waiting for me to do it and that they're already aware of it.

Interesting about those workshops. Do you know if they run some later in the year? I don't think I could fit in that many sessions into the next month. Part time uni starts on top of work and that stupid test I have to do -.-'' Was always interested also in volunteering with them, perhaps when I'm out and able to do some proper exploring/learning about the whole community.

Anyways, Let me know how the workshop goes!

[ernesto_1]

if ur fully ready to do it then just to it tomorrow.

just tell them... i take it up the ass sweetheart... deal with it

:)

[simonlau]

good luck =)

about the workshop

Young and Gay

Young and Gay is a coming out workshop for guys aged 18 to 26. It will give you a chance to connect with other young guys, build your social network, share your coming out experience, learn about relationships and sex, find out more about the gay scene and have fun along the way. Email: YouthProject@vicaids.asn.au.

http://www.vicaids.asn.au/peer-education-program

[Stouey]

if ur fully ready to do it then just to it tomorrow.

just tell them... i take it up the ass sweetheart... deal with it

:)

lol, I'm sure they'll take it very well if I said it that way.

Well, I would love to just do it tomorrow, but I have the issue of telling them in canto without the message going wrong hahaha. Parents aren't the greatest at english, and the only way i can say gay in canto is saying 'gay' -.-''' hence the enlisting of my friends help with telling them in chinese. I'm pretty sure they'd get it if i said it in english, but I only ever talk to them in chinese, so broken english talk to them would just feel even more awkward. But then thats just me.

Thanks Simon! I'll definitely need it. Yeah, I was looking at that workshop myself, perhaps i'll keep an eye out for sessions later in the year... surely if its only a group of 8-12, that they'd hold more of them down the track. Ah wellz only time will tell...

[ernesto_1]

stouey...

just tell them

wo xi huan zhou zhai lai lai shang.. da lai lai wo xi huan...

wo hai xi huan bah lai lai fang zai wo de zhui ba li

[Stouey]

lol either that sounds fully mando to me... or i'm just reading it wrong. I could always try reiterate what you've typed, for all i know it might translate to something else when i've said it to my parents hahaha. But thanks though dude! Much appreciated!

[marky markywicz]

Hi Stouey and welcome!

Your states AIDS council run very good peer group workshops and are a great way of getting information, meeting guys and making new friends!

[simonlau]

lai lai?

[ernesto_1]

thats french for cock

[xxxVioletxxx]

That first quote sounded Mandarin to me as well.

I think you say it in Cantonese like this: Ngoh hai tuhng sing lyun (loon/lun) which translates as "I'm homosexual", but it may sound like a different dialect altogether.

I suppose you could just say that you will be most likely to settle down with a man as your life companion.

Best of luck with coming out to your family. It can be hard if your family is particularly traditional.

[Stouey]

Thanks Marky! Yeh, Simon showed me the link and I had a look into it. I may consider it later on in the year if they hold them again, hopefully they do, because then that'll set me in the right direction so to speak as to where to go after coming out. At the moment, I have no idea what to do after that...

Thanks Violet! I was thinking it would be something along those lines, perhaps I may not use that quote but say it as you mentioned regarding the settling down with a man. I'll definitely be needing that luck! I'm a little on the borderline as to whether my family is fully traditional. We're kind of here and there.

[jonteevee]

Hey Stouey. I hope things go well with you and your folks and would be great to know how things pan out.

[Stouey]

Thanks Jonteevee! Will let ya know when the time comes round! atm im just getting myself mentally prepared and setting things in place for whatever situation arises. =)

[MrFunke]

Hi Stouey, sounds like you've got a pretty good plan. Hope it all goes alright, I'm sure there's a number of people here who can relate to your situation :)

[badamj2000]

Is that the Queen's Engwish? How exclusive and wude.