Help, Boyfriend hiding his gay experiences from me

[sexygirl]

Hi,

my boyfriend and i have talked about swinging and have had some experiences but i have found out he has been seeing males on his own. we agreed we only "played" together.. should i confront him?
should i be hurt he has hidden this from me?


i'm not upset he is having these experiences but we had an agreement and i believe in honesty. it like he ha no respect for me...

please help to understand.....

[TheOldie]

errrr Yes you should confront him as he broke the agreement.

Also you need to know what he has been doing ie safe sex or not ? value your
own life !

and good luck.

[eurolad]

Hi,

my boyfriend and i have talked about swinging and have had some experiences but i have found out he has been seeing males on his own. we agreed we only "played" together.. should i confront him?
should i be hurt he has hidden this from me?


i'm not upset he is having these experiences but we had an agreement and i believe in honesty. it like he ha no respect for me...

please help to understand.....

I am sorry to break it to you but human beings are scum bags for the most part
so this doesn't surprise me at all. Just look after yourself and start to learn to not give a damn about others :-)

[ammonite]

that's infidelity

at least talk to him

possibly dump him


have you been having safe sex with him?

[Ramrod]

My, Eurolad what a cynical soul you are. Sexygirl, relationships have to be based on trust, otherwise they are doomed to fail. If he wants to stray from your original agreement, he needs to discuss it with you. You have a right to know. You need to think about how you can trust him from now on. If you can't be convinced, then you need to consider whether a relationship for this man is something you wish to pursue. You also need to consider that he may prefer a relationship with a man rather than with a woman. You should demand honesty from him. This may not be what you want to hear, but it will be better for you in the long run.

[marky markywicz]

My, Eurolad what a cynical soul you are. Sexygirl, relationships have to be based on trust, otherwise they are doomed to fail. If he wants to stray from your original agreement, he needs to discuss it with you. You have a right to know. You need to think about how you can trust him from now on. If you can't be convinced, then you need to consider whether a relationship for this man is something you wish to pursue. You also need to consider that he may prefer a relationship with a man rather than with a woman. You should demand honesty from him. This may not be what you want to hear, but it will be better for you in the long run.

Good advice, take heed Sexy :)
Sorry darls.

[chad_74]

threesomes are difficult things especially when your partner is involved.
Your fella is just exploring his man to man side without fear of being judged.
One thing in society is that its ok for women to experiment with lesbianism,they are still hetero but when a man wants to experience man love he is branded a homosexual and is emasculated.If you want to keep him consider an open relationship but one thing you must be doing is having safe sex with him as he cannot be trusted to always do the right thing.

[dirkjently]

I'd agree with Chad_74, the concept of a threesome may be a nice idea but invaribly someone ends up being the third wheel.

There is also a huge judgement side of things, no matter what you say you might not be able to change his feelings.

If he likes to be 'the man' with you then its unlikly he is going to want you seeing him as a screeming bottom.

This is a symptom of our society everyone likes to wear masks and show a different face to everything that they are involved in.

Hell people are changing their names because they are scared the stuff they did on facebook might stuff up their job chances and they don't want to be honest and "own" what they did.

Now I don't know you or his personality but might I propose a test.

Go to an adult shop to buy something, see how adventurous he is at the very least you will see more into his personality, wether he buy something to share, for him, for you or for you that he wants to secretly use.

Maybe that will give you soem insight