Love On The Internet

[taylor-dayne]

i've been chatting to this guy on facebook for a couple of weeks now, and i think i may be falling in love with him. but then, to read that sentence back, it sounds ridiculous.

we havn't chatted on the phone, nor hve we met in person. he lives in another city. but i've checked out his photos and he's gorgeous. he says all the right things. he's funny. he's thoughtful. we have striking similarities.

what do people think about love on the net? have you ever met the person and had the wind compeltely knocked out of your sails? how do you possibly meet someone online and not form an image in your head of who you want them to be?

i'm almost scared to meet him now. i think i prefer the fantasy.

[waterrat]

if you really look at it, are you in love or lust? ;) not as silly as it sounds...I think love in its truest form can only really come from knowing someone and the more intense the knowledge the more intense the feeling of attachment. However lust kind of fills in the gaps, and glosses over the bad bits until they become glaring. Continue with the friendship by all means, but try and keep your feelings in check at least until you have spoken and met and see how it goes! :D

Good luck! :D

[alison87]

Talk on the phone. Skype (videoconference). Then meet in person. Each "step" closer you'll see more about whether your feelings are real - and his too! I've had two long-term relationships that started on the internet, one of them is still going and we're engaged! So of course it can happen, it's not out of the ordinary at all any more. Just keep doing the right thing and take it all as it comes, same as any other relationship. You'll work it out.

[sneakos]

omg! this is my life atm - lolz! met a guy thru myspace 18 months ago in Colombia - was totally random how we came to be connected (we'v both since deleted myspace and moved to facebook - but thats anotha thread!)

anyway, we started chatting regularly, via emails etc then moved to msn (with cam) and phone calls regularly

we now speak regularly on the phone a couple of times a week (despite the 15 hour time diff) and every day via facebook, email, etc

to cut a long story short, we are now in the process of looking at arranging visas as marty wants to come to australia. he was schooled in the US and now teaches in Colombia, so he has transferrable skills, tho there are some hurdles we are going to have to overcome

for a while i thought i was kinda lame having a 'long distance relationship' of sorts, but that was all just about my ego and what i perceived other ppl mite think of me

interestingly, iv had a few guys ask me out on dates (well only 2 actually - lolz!) and indicate they'd be interested in a relationship - they live here in sydney and 1 of them iv known for a while

both times i turned them down (politely - hahaha!) as i knew it wouldnt be fair on them, or marty, cos my heart really belongs with him

i still hear myself say that, and at times think how crazy that sounds, but really, its where we both are at

i have fallen in love

and what has been good is that we've had to find ways of navigating a relationship without the physical aspect, which has been a challenge for me, as my past relationships have always started with th physical and then hoping that the rest would follow. ultimately it never did, and i would spend (painful) times trying to salvage a relationship that was just based on sex - not knowing how to be emotionally intimate and confusing that for sex

so there's been a heap of growth for me in that regard

the question of immigration is problematic for a few reasons, however, i havent discounted the idea of moving to Colombia (or Brazil)

i look back now and see what was (apparently) a random chance 'friend request' 18 months ago, and now view it as fate

and i do have faith that things will work out they way they are meant to - i kinda believe in a higher being/force/karma/universe (whatever label you want to call it), and that this is meant to be

truthfully, i couldnt be happier, and know that we will be together 1 day

:)

[Thrawn04]

Thats nice Sneakos :) Best of luck to you and Marty with the immigration thing!
And you too Taylor-Dayne! Hope everything will work out for you.
My mum's in a similar situation at the moment too :rolleyes:

[sneakos]

thanx thrawny - i needed to read that tonite :) cos sometimes i do it pretty hard and tonites one of them nites - just sux so much that marty is on th other side of the world

most of my buddies r straight and they all seem to be doing shit with their wives/families/girlfriends this weekend - and i hate being th 'spare wheel' tagging along to things liek that with them - tho they're all really kewl with me doing that

i actually went to th gym this evening just for something to do

and now im watching iron chef in th background while i surf around here

(reminds me of marly's comment in another thread - lolz!!!) :D

neways

thanx for th well wishes - i so hope it works out

i sent him a bunch of flowers to his work that he should get today (sat) - he's 15 hours behind - so im kinda excited about that - would luv to see his face when they arrive

[barabin]

omg! this is my life atm - lolz! met a guy thru myspace 18 months ago in Colombia - was totally random how we came to be connected (we'v both since deleted myspace and moved to facebook - but thats anotha thread!)

anyway, we started chatting regularly, via emails etc then moved to msn (with cam) and phone calls regularly

we now speak regularly on the phone a couple of times a week (despite the 15 hour time diff) and every day via facebook, email, etc

to cut a long story short, we are now in the process of looking at arranging visas as marty wants to come to australia. he was schooled in the US and now teaches in Colombia, so he has transferrable skills, tho there are some hurdles we are going to have to overcome

for a while i thought i was kinda lame having a 'long distance relationship' of sorts, but that was all just about my ego and what i perceived other ppl mite think of me

interestingly, iv had a few guys ask me out on dates (well only 2 actually - lolz!) and indicate they'd be interested in a relationship - they live here in sydney and 1 of them iv known for a while

both times i turned them down (politely - hahaha!) as i knew it wouldnt be fair on them, or marty, cos my heart really belongs with him

i still hear myself say that, and at times think how crazy that sounds, but really, its where we both are at

i have fallen in love

and what has been good is that we've had to find ways of navigating a relationship without the physical aspect, which has been a challenge for me, as my past relationships have always started with th physical and then hoping that the rest would follow. ultimately it never did, and i would spend (painful) times trying to salvage a relationship that was just based on sex - not knowing how to be emotionally intimate and confusing that for sex

so there's been a heap of growth for me in that regard

the question of immigration is problematic for a few reasons, however, i havent discounted the idea of moving to Colombia (or Brazil)

i look back now and see what was (apparently) a random chance 'friend request' 18 months ago, and now view it as fate

and i do have faith that things will work out they way they are meant to - i kinda believe in a higher being/force/karma/universe (whatever label you want to call it), and that this is meant to be

truthfully, i couldnt be happier, and know that we will be together 1 day

:)

Aw bless ... good luck :)

[genkij]

Meet & take it from there ...... Many a solid marriage has come from RSVP.com !!

[Scott of Coolum]

I met Anthony on Gaydar 7 years ago after his Mother and sister made a profile for him.. I don't even remember why I went on as I hadn't looked for nearly a year. We chatted online and then the phone and then arranged to meet about 1-2 months later.

We have been as thick as thieves since. His mum is actually up here this weekend staying with us.

Anyway, who knows how long it will last. All I know is that so far I have been with my best friend for 7 years now...not always happy...but never regrets.

Scott