In The Dog House...

[pinkyboisyd]

So i'm kinda seeing someone - its only early days...

Anyway i got really drunk and was caught kissing someone else

(Don't remember any of it so i can't even say if it was worth it..)

I've kinda been forgiven but i'm still in trouble...

I want to know some bad things everyone else has done... and what you've done to get yourself out of the dog house...and not sleeping on the couch anymore...????

[Tim D]

I think everyone has to learn things like that the hard way, and the hardest way to learn is for it to happen back to you. That part kinda sucks, but it's all life lessons.

I have been in the dog house way too many times, and sent others there as well. I say as long as you've got through it at the other end, then it's just a little roadbump along the relationship path.

[avoninski]

I once decapitated my ex-boyfriend's father in a horrible Xmas turkey carving incident gone horribly wrong. No amount of hallmark cards and Lindt chocolate would help his family forgive me...

But seriously, actions over profuse apologies, are the only things that can save your relationship. You need to really show your current partner that they are the one for you and that your actions were just a mistake due to bad lighting, Kylie, and copiuos amounts of Alcohol.

[pinkyboisyd]

and that your actions were just a mistake due to bad lighting, Kylie, and copiuos amounts of Alcohol.



LOL - at the mistake due to Kylie...in all likely hood she probably was playing...

i'm kinda forgiven due to the fact hes never seen me drunk and he realised i really wasn't in the best frame of mind...

[robbie]

I love how alcohol is blamed for most accidental pashing moments at a disco..

[david_margeaux]

what's a party pash these days anyways? I know lots of boys in and out of relationships that don't even count a party pash as anything more than a 'gay handshake'. If you're out and about, you're fair game for one.

[avoninski]

Gay handshake?! That's hilarious!

I was thinking a gay handshake was something that happened at the urinal....

[Michaelbourke]

I am not sure what your definition of "early days" is, but I think it is just important that your partner (is it to soon to call him that??) knows that this is not going to be standard behaviour. If it is in fact "early days" you are both likely to be at the trust establishment phase of your union. So what's a bump in the road. If he likes you and you him, you will work it out :)

[pinkyboisyd]

yeah early days is - not at partner stage yet...

early days is me thinking that when i'm drunk - i can still pash others and get away with it...

obviously not... :p

[Michaelbourke]

Relax, enjoy and take it easy" QUESTION...What if the shoe was on the other foot? How would you feel if he was the party pasher and you were the party pash patsy?

[pinkyboisyd]

See at this point - i really dont give a flying toss...

maybe if it was a little more serious then i'd probably be jealous..... i didn't think we were at that point....

apparently he sees it a little differently

[robbie]

first you can't pash boys at the disco, and after 3 months pink you won't even be able to talk to boys at the disco... beware... you might have a bunny boiler on your hands Pinky... hehehe

http://youtube.com/watch?v=IYpeKbHKVbU

[Savoy]

Oh, in that case you should let him know then Pash Party Patsy lol. Truly, before it gets even more so for him (Aw, he be in wub). Is it something you can confront him about? Maybe you already have.

EDIT: lol robbie. Unable to watch it though (access denied rakka rakka). Can see what it is though.

EDIT 2: Just double click on screen and takes you to the original youtube page.

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[pinkyboisyd]

LOL @ Bunny Boiler....

[pinkyboisyd]

No i didn't confront him - i didn't see it was something worth fighting over (again way too early for a fight)

I just apologised alot... and promised to behave in future...

[Michaelbourke]

did we ever establish how long you have been seeing this fellow? (Did I just write fellow)

[Savoy]

Yeah, if it's early on in the piece, it might be kind of awkward confronting him...but we'll be monitoring & documenting your "antics" & progession pinkyboi.

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[Cheetah77]

This made me think tho about the Party Pash thing - some of my friends are in R'ships and think it's fine to do and kind of see them as a bit of innocent fun and even gave competitions to see who can get the most pashes in a night (yes, we're all 16 apparently!) while some others think it's wrong to even kiss someone who isn't their bf...

I'm not sure what I think yet... don't really have a problem with it personally! WHat does everyone here think? Is it ok to PP or not?

[jackie87]

So i'm kinda seeing someone - its only early days...

Anyway i got really drunk and was caught kissing someone else

(Don't remember any of it so i can't even say if it was worth it..)

I've kinda been forgiven but i'm still in trouble...

I want to know some bad things everyone else has done... and what you've done to get yourself out of the dog house...and not sleeping on the couch anymore...????
Homewrecker coming through...

I did this once to my best friend's date who was 29 and been in an 8 year relationship (however very good looking) when I was drunk at the Columbian took me home for a little bit of home cooking when my friend ducked off to the toilet, I went back for more later that week and needless to say 27 text messages later the message was clear I was not his best friend anymore (My other friends sent me similar "shame" messages).

However, a week later he broke the news he could no longer see me because his boyfriend had found out and, big mistake -- he was out to kill me -- sent me death threats by text which were rather graphic, followed me around uni, I tried to get an AVO put out on him but
I didn't have enough info and there I was in the end with my best friend gone and fearing for my own life only for a couple of shags.

Since then, things have mended with my bestie after I broke him the news and in a way saved him from a nutbag ( he's younger and more naive than me) so I guess karma can really take its course.

[pinkyboisyd]

did we ever establish how long you have been seeing this fellow? (Did I just write fellow)

Maybe we are up to the third week... i never keep track of time... <- as i said new. In my opinion this is way to early for an argument or me being in trouble over a party pash.

I'm not sure what I think yet... don't really have a problem with it personally! WHat does everyone here think? Is it ok to PP or not?

I think if your still early days with someone a party pash is fine.... When i'm in a relationship with someone i don't mind a party pash as long as i know its not going to lead to anything else...

[shivana]

My girlfriend actually caught me dirty dancing with another lady on the weekend and that really set her off. I'm still paying for that night. Imagine what would've happened if I actually pashed her... all hell would've broken loose!!
I'm all up for a good party pash but I say if you're going to do it... make sure the partner isnt there.

[pinkyboisyd]

Shivana - would you tell the partner you've done it tho?

[shivana]

Pinkyboisyd - If she asked I would definetly tell her. But if she doesn't ask then I feel no need to bring it up. I'm sure she engages in a few party pashes herself on a good night out.
Whereas if it was more than a party pash and it meant something more significant to me then I would definetly tell her.

[Tim D]

Surely dirty dancing is ok? God, what's the world coming to? Ha.

[pinkyboisyd]

Well how dirty is dirty dancing?

[jackie87]

I always go by the old Chinese proverb.

Wife who put husband in doghouse, often end up in cathouse.

[Michaelbourke]

You only live, kiss one, kiss many, stay single and be happy :-)

[shivana]

Surely dirty dancing is ok? God, what's the world coming to? Ha.

Gosh I would think so myself. I guess women just get so oversensitive sometimes. One of the downsides of lesbian relationships.

Well how dirty is dirty dancing?

Hahaha... well I was very close to pashing her right infront of my girl. I think I actually would've done it if another friend hadn't interrupted. I told my gf I was severly intoxicated and I didnt know what I was doing... it worked to an extent but she was still very mad at me.

[Nevarro]

call me old fashioned but if im keen on a guy - to the point where we are "seeing" each other even if only for a few weeks then im not about to go out and pash someone else espesh if we are at the same venue. :rolleyes:

but when im in a relationship with a guy it can be fun to party pash other boys... ;) espesh together as in a 3way pash or even better pashing competitions - find two boys and we all pash each other to see who pashes the best...
get some str8 girls involved and its a whole lota fun!! perfect photo ops LOL
sometimes too mcuh saliva but hey... party pash hazards I guess

but its all about communicating people! - its all in the name of fun but some boys and girls dont see things the same way... communicate with each other and be honest from the start and hopefully no problems will arise... :cool:

[Michaelbourke]

A three way pash???? My GOD, that would be interesting?

[Nevarro]

indeed it is... certainly not something for the Uncoordinated LOL

[pinkyboisyd]

Three way pashes from my experience is just a facial tounge bath...

Saliva ends up everywhere and it doesn't look that pretty from an outsiders perspective...

The visual that comes to mind is similar to the way the aliens used to drool in the Alien movies

http://content.answers.com/main/content/wp/en/6/69/AVP_Xenomorph.jpg

[mjm078]

3 way pash - how porno!

I have never participated in one but i imagine they are very messy and there is teeth going everywhere....

[david_margeaux]

I've been in a couple of these and they are great fun with the right boys. Not to mention a crowd pleaser too :P

Is it just me or are boys in general a bit uptight these days? No party pashes, no dirty dancing, no fun?

Maybe thats what's contributing to a decline in the gay strip - everyone's lost their sense of fun....

[Michaelbourke]

ok.....:confused:

[robbie]

I'm certainly a fan of the sporadic 3 way party pash. The only time I pash one of my besties is when we're chasing the same boy and decide we should both maul him at the same time (obviously to save argument)... I'm waiting on my first Sydney 3-way mind you.. Sydney gay boys are certainly not as daring and adventurous as the Melbourne boys..

[Brad]

at one point when I was working at inquisition this year I looked down to the dance floor only to see my other half pashing some guy in the middle of the dance floor.:eek:

Not much could be done at the time - it wasn't until the end of the party that I question Graham on it, he said that the guy had pashed him, he didn't pash the guy, apparently that is different from Graham pashing the guy... whatever..... :confused:

He also said that he realised that I had seen and it was like two laser beams were shooting out of my eyes and burning into the back of the other guys head!

At the end of the day a pash is a pash, its not like going for quickie in the toilet.

[Tim D]

It's not really about the pash though is it, it's what the pash leads to...

[Michaelbourke]

"you must remember this, a kiss is but a kiss........"

[pinkyboisyd]

a kiss can mean alot more to some people tho...

[Cheetah77]

Yes Tim, it can lead to other naughtiness (quickie in the toilet - nice one Brad) but as long as a pash remains just a pash, I don't see a problem...

[Tim D]

Hmm, I guess it is more about the intention behind the pash. If it's just a fun, crazy dancefloor thing, then it can be forgiven. But if the intention is to take it further into a full-blown cheating thing, well, you're in a completely different ballgame.

[pinkyboisyd]

If i'm in a full blown relationship i see even a pash as taking it too far...

I mean party or not if your with someone then its not a very good sign...

(of course when drunk i appear to think differently)

[mjm078]

yeah i don't see a problem with them.......if it is all fun then why not......

I am in a relationship and my bf isn't really into the dance party thing so i usually tag along with mates to dance the night away.....if i meet a new friend(i don't go looking for someone mind you) I am up front and tell them i have a bf and if they want to hang out for the night i am up for it but thats it......The cutest thing for me though is my bf usually drops me off at the door (yes just like your mum use to) tells me not to break to many hearts or kiss to many boys and then picks me up afterwards while i look like death warmed up - he has had a full nights sleep and is ready for a day out doing the weekend chores etc!

And he loves hearing the goss from the previous night......I luff him!

[Nevarro]

awwww thats so cute mjm078... I want one... where can I get one from?

[mjm078]

i picked mine up from palms (yes i know!!) he was on the floor (literally) and i picked him up (literally)....so try there if not try stonewall as we had locked eyes earlier in the night there....its such a funny story....

[pinkyboisyd]

I LOVE PALMS - its almost so bad sometimes that its good...

[shiraz]

It happens!Apolgise move on or move out.
Lifes too short to fight there better things to do!

[peeter]

Yep, it's pretty black or white I say. Spot on Shiraz.. NEXT!

[pinkyboisyd]

Yep, it's pretty black or white I say. Spot on Shiraz.. NEXT!


Yeah we were kinda over this by Monday morning....but its been fun to hear everyones opinions.

[taylor-dayne]

love a good three way pash. had one of those a couple of weeks ago and yes - worked better than i thought it would. logistically can be problematic, but once you get the technique down it's hot.

i must say, there are two different kinds of kissing - one where you're just enjoying the physicality of it and the other where you're absolutely going to a different place. i guess it comes down to how much you two trust each other and what you mean to each other.

as much as i might get jealous seeing someone i am with pashing someone else, it's not really a statement about me per se. at the end of the day, you love someone, you want them to be happy. that can sometimes involve other people. you have to let that person be free enough to be themselves.

a hard line to walk sometimes...

[timmeyboy]

I think a lot of it has to do with how long you've been single for before the r'ship starts.
we poofs are creatures of habit and if we're used to going out and snogging the face of anyone who so much as looks in our direction then suddenly going out and not doing it is a bit of a shock to the system.

[nae-porter]

i wish someone would get drunk and kiss me.