Gays and Lesbians - Same Same but miles apart.

[robbie]

I've asked this question to many a gay guy or girl and no-one can really give me an enlightening answer. Why do gay guys and lesbian only come together for pride events or big gay dance parties and not on an everyday basis? Both groups seem to support each other under the big rainbow flag in the sky, but at other times we're happy to ignore each other's lifestyles. Do we dislike each other? Do we disprove each other? Are we really that different?

Guys, do you have any lesbian friends? Gals, got a few poofs in your inner circle? If not, why not? Some of my friends say that both groups are vastly different in their interests and social activities to ever really get close.

Thoughts?

[avoninski]

I have lesbian friends, and I enjoy hanging out with them, but we don't do so on a weekly or even regularly monthly basis. There's a bit of divide in lifestyles and weekend activities, and that makes getting together harder.

They like to camp. I'm just plain camp.

They drive Subarus. I drive F1's on PS2.

They raise children. I'm afraid of kooties.

They live in Rozelle/Leichardt/Blue Mts. I don't have a passport.

[jackie87]

I would say I prefer lesbian company and a few of my closest friends who are fun are lesbian but on the other hand my bosses are unfunny stereotypical lesbians and they shit me to tears.

[alison87]

I think i'm a gayboy born in a lesbian's body. I like going out dancing all night and techno music and being a trashbag and cocktails and fine food and dick-and-fart jokes and lip-synching to bad 80s songs... Boys are awesome. I used to have a bundle of lesbian friends like me, but now they're all settled down, going Brokeback, eating vegan food and generally being boring.

I know i keep saying it, but i think in Brisbane there was a lot more crossover between the scenes, maybe because the gay scene as a whole was smaller. Here in Melbourne i feel very lonely - i know tons of boys, but no girls at all. I guess i'm just not interested in meeting chicks at some girls-only pub night where they play pop, R&B, rock etc. Sydney looks a lot more promising, judging by all the events in LOTL. I get the feeling that in Melbourne a lot of party lesbians just go out in the straight scene because we don't have any good clubs. Hmm...

[robbie]

Hey Alison, I think you've recognised a void in the lesbian Melbourne market.. you should do something about it perhaps! Start a Melbourne Lesbians group on Same Same and go from there?