Is it in your blood?

[mjm078]

Okay another thought provoking post!

A friend and I were debating a few months back if homosexuality is something you are born with i.e. part of your genetic make up or alternatively a lifestyle choice.....

I think it is part of your genetic make up as though i can appreciate a fantastic looking woman..clothes hair etc...... but I have absolutely no desire to "poke" her....I actually don't even want to see her naked.....All I want to look at (and touch for that matter) are good manly bodies....

His arguement was its a lifestyle choice i.e. he chose to be this way for lifestyle he gets to live.......why you might ask well he is an identical twin......his brother is happily married with a couple of kids....they share the exact same make up yet he chooses to live a homosexual lifestyle......

So is it part of your genetic make up or do you live this lifestyle by choice....

Please discuss...

[Cheetah77]

Totally genetic and no choice at all - if it was, so many gay teenagers and people in rural communities would not feel the need to kill themselves because they and the people around them can't deal with their sexuality - they'd just decide to be straight because let's face it - it's a helluva lot easier to be straight than gay in this world!

You just have to look at the Straight camps where people are sent to turn them and the almost 100% failure rate of those things.

Unfortunately deciding to be straight is just not an option!

[robbie]

Agree Cheetah, no-one choses this lifestyle. On a lighter note though, once you've accepted that fact, and are happy in this lifestyle, you wouldn't want life any other way. :)

[Mr J]

No one is 100% certain. Most likely it not either nature or nurture but a mix of both. Its not a choice or a disease or a disorder. And its not changeable. In Identical twins where one is gay there is higher percentage chance that the other one might be gay. However its not 100% so nature can't be the only thing. We know its not 100% nurture due to the fact that you have people who are gay who come from different courses of life. So its somewhat of a mix between nature and nurture.

[Ruskin]

So i think sexuality is a sliding scale, with straight at one end, gay at the other and bisexual smack bang in the middle,
How u get there has to be a combo of nature and nurture.

With that said it is the individuals prerogative to admit the truth to themselves and their lives. and in the case of identical twins, both may be bisexual but for the sake of individual identity one identifies as gay, one straight.

the secrets of our hearts are much more accepted and easier to divulge in the naughties, denial is so 90's..

[taylor-dayne]

sexuality is inate. nothing you can do about it. but of course we all become socialised and therefore find ourselves behaving in ways similar to those we feel a kinship with...

honestly - how many people can recall when they first realised they were different? you would have been quite young. before you really understood sexuality. or what it all meant.

there's definitely a social component that helps it manifest into being "gay" per se, but it's still very much grounded in a make up that you cannot change.

[timmeyboy]

Totally genetic, I've said it before and I'll say it again - NATURE's BIRTH CONTROL!!!!

[GenesisInVain]

totally genetic. i agree. its in your blood.