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DanM82
2nd August 2007, 10:32 AM
For my eyes were closed and are now open to the closedness of the heart that I saw being held infront of him, I saw it and was afraid it would be bruised. I wanted to take it and warm it with my own. I learnt to love because I cared, and now I burn because of the fact that I learnt to love. For love burns, when you offer it freely and it doesn't get handed back. For if love is a game, it's a game of broken rules and unfair cheats. You can never truly cheat love as it will always find you in the end. When it does, what goes around comes around and love may cheat you.

You can see an Angel from across the street and want nothing more than to love them. You cross and try to speak to your Angel but all it can do is smile, spread it's wings and fly to the arms of another. At times it will fly back to your arms and rest there while it hunts for another pair of arms to rest in. The return is what burns the brightest in anyones heart for the deception of love is there, then the pain and agony of the departure. The age old story of the unrequited love, lunging it's blade deep into the heart of the new generation.

Though to love and lost, is told be better than to have never loved at all. This is true for if you haven't loved before, how will you know it is love again you are feeling? Or is it some mild chemical reaction that floats inside your mind waiting for an avenue to vent itself. I wonder if my Angel shall return, holding it's wounded heart before him again, asking me to hold it while it heals. I wonder this time if I will say yes.

If I say yes, will I be allowing myself more time to hurt, or another chance at love. If I say no, will I be strong enough to let it go completely and try and start life again, rather than ensnared in a pit of shallow wanton desire to believe that I am loved to more than my capacity. For how can one love me, if I am afraid to love for myself. Without my inner-peace and heartfelt admonitions to myself, what am I letting myself in for? Am I building to happiness, or just another disappointment. So many thing that can go wrong and will go wrong, at the worse possible time. For love is a game of timing and mine seems usually off. Right person, wrong time. I could have perhaps love her, had I not been in love with him. No woman has ever touched my soul since her. No man has ever come close to the completeness I felt with him. Perhaps I am not to meet another. I have loved since both, though it has all faded to nothing? So how can I be calling this love? Shallow figments of a residue chemical imbalance in my mind? Surely not, but then, I don't know much any more than waking in the morning and sleeping at night. What happens in the between hours remains a secret even to myself.

I think I've come to realise, it's easier to fall in love, than to fall out of it.

Mr J
2nd August 2007, 03:45 PM
truer words were never spoken ... It is very poetic and true. My relationships always end in unrequianted love ... god sometimes I just wish not to feel anything. But I guess you just have to hang in there and hope that one day you will find the right person in the right time.

GenesisInVain
2nd August 2007, 04:06 PM
hmm...i don't know if its me but gay/lesbian relationships seem so much more intense and the break up is so draining...plus there's also that factor of meaningless sex. but hmmm, emotion seems to take over a lot of us!

cheyne67
2nd August 2007, 05:27 PM
I dont think Gay/Lesbian relationships are any more intense - I think its more about the individual and the relationship itself.

As for those pesky emotions - one word - Botox!
You may feel like shit but no fucker will ever know - especially your ex

DanM82
2nd August 2007, 11:54 PM
Gay and Lesbian relationships seem to be more volatile and seemingly not as long lasting as hetero relationships. I wonder at times if this is because there is so many external pressures on the relationship. The pressure of promiscuity which seems to prevade the gay community. I don't know if it's the same for Lesbians, I've never asked.

The reason I originally posted this thread is that I struggle at times to tell myself that no, I am in control of what I feel. At other times it feels like the emotions are guiding me. It's an old adage that "The head says go but the heart says stay".

As I was writing the thread it dawned on me that going back was heading back to an illusion of security and as in love as I may be, it will hurt and that inside I know this. Stopping loving him though... I can't just turn it off. Which is why I said it's easier to fall in love than out of love. My head tells me to stop. I need to stop. I can't though. I am controlled by my emotions. I pray that I am not alone?

Mr J
3rd August 2007, 02:15 PM
I know ... Love is the product of certain chemicals in out heads ... yet those chemicals are really powerfull. I always seem to fall for the wrong guy ... or in the wrong time. And I hate the fact that I know anything will lead to heartbreak I still try to go ahead ... I like to think that my head controls my heart but my heart unfortunatly has complete domination over my head. So don't worry your not alone!

taylor-dayne
3rd August 2007, 05:22 PM
love is fucking amazing. i have felt it for a whole range of people and everytime it's different. it's been a harsh master, but also a brilliant teacher. it's both ruined me and made me who i am today. absolutely.

beats me why so many of us are afraid of emotions. it's the thing that keeps our world turning.

i am so emotionally driven. i throw myself into them 100%. wouldn't have it any other way.

GenesisInVain
3rd August 2007, 09:39 PM
emotion is the way to go. just feel it. i say. there are no rules in this house, i'm not like a regular mum. i'm a cool mum. right regina?

nae-porter
15th August 2007, 11:26 AM
they rule us, we have no control