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17th March 2009, 12:02 PM
17th March 2009, 12:11 PM
Bite the bullet and tell them mate! Times too short to stuff around!
17th March 2009, 12:24 PM
Aw Cammy's in luurrrrvvvee... good to hear mate!
Bit the bullet and confess. After meeting your hunk of a man, I would leesen the extent to which you tell him:
Don't renounce it from the rooftops
Don't say it with flowers.
Don't say it like you're a chihuahua trying to woo a german shepherd.
I think he's there too, just needs you to break the ice!
21st March 2009, 10:41 PM
hmmm... this is tough one.
i've only ever said it to friends. and i said it cos i meant it. and i felt it. and the time was right. and saying it felt right too.
trust your gut mr.
as for how to say it, i reckon you're probably saying it in a million ways already. saying 'i love you' has got to be one of the most special things ever - wait until it instinctively falls out of your mouth...
22nd March 2009, 09:17 PM
say it in spanish cause you sound so ultra sexy when you speak in espanol amigo
23rd March 2009, 12:03 AM
I don't think it should be said at a flippant moment or in a rush, when the time is right you will know.
Basic rule of thumb, don't ever say it for the first time after sex, it can easily be misconstrued and confusing situations arise.
Don't do it in front of other people, it cheapens it and makes it all for show even if that was not the initial intention.
Then again it could be bad to hold it in and bite your tongue if you are feeling that overwhelmed.
Final thought, there is nothing sweeter than a whisper in the ear, a smile, and then a spoken reiteration.
23rd March 2009, 02:18 PM
as christian said, trust your gut. you'll know when it's right.
best of luck
23rd March 2009, 02:22 PM
Blurt it out just before orgasm and then cry uncontrollably.
23rd March 2009, 02:25 PM
and hopefully he feels the same
23rd March 2009, 02:50 PM
thanks guys - nice to see people are supporting the support forums too!
for the record, the deed is done - and it went well :)))
kudos to everyone, but this comment "Times too short to stuff around!" really hit home - even if the sentiments weren't returned, why waste time pretending that i felt something else?
and genesis - i think saying it in another language is a good idea, but it's usually how i soften the blow when saying it to people - it somehow seems less full on than saying "i love you", but i know that the feeling remains the same.
isn't it amazing how much power words can wield? that said, is it us who gives the words the power?
my brain hurts now... ;)
23rd March 2009, 02:52 PM
good on you
23rd March 2009, 05:04 PM
Dont over think it.
The time will come when you are certain. It may take weeks or months.
Just wait a little bit for it, you will know when your ready
Works for me!
23rd March 2009, 06:32 PM
Glad you did it Cameron.
Love is all about putting yourself on the line. There is not time, or place for bullshit. We only get one life, and within it, we tend to let our fears get the better of us.
By doing so, we miss out on so many chances to be happy.
Show no fear in the face of Love. As corny as it is, it actually longs to embrace you.
23rd March 2009, 07:14 PM
I usually hold it in till it falls out amidst another sentence. When I can't help but say it is reason enough for me to think it should be said.
23rd March 2009, 11:56 PM
Hoorah .. glad you did Cam !! and extra glad it went well
24th March 2009, 04:57 PM
yeah there's nothing worse than telling someone you love them and then them saying "actually, i don't think so"
24th March 2009, 04:58 PM
and just remember, you're nobody until somebody loves you
25th March 2009, 10:02 AM
god... i have had someone say 'i love you' after i'd known them for a day. (we were in bed at the time).
i knew where the words were coming from, but my response ended up being a lecture about definitions of words, etc.
so not the response he was looking for, i'm sure...
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