What is the best way to join the social scene for a first timer?

[Hels85]

Basically I have had sexual experiences with both sides but have never really joined the social scene. Except for my gay male friends birthday parties out :p

[bellsforher]

I second that - so, that's 2 of us need ideas.

[Hels85]

nobody seems to wanna share..... :( :( :( :(

[foongsta]

um i joined the mqff vollie group and met a heap of people there...
also samesame is a good source of friends to go out with, all u need is a place to go..hehe

[Baby]

Hey Hels85 what area do you live in? I tried posting a thread asking for girls in my local area, and within a week I was meeting a great bunch of gals who all live locally. So you might want to try that, great way of finding some friends/partners. Good luck!

[kylierose]

Basically I have had sexual experiences with both sides but have never really joined the social scene. Except for my gay male friends birthday parties out :p

learn how to play pool and drink lots

that should get you started

*sarcasm alert*

seriously, scenes are over-rated - go out with a group of friends and try to meet some other club kids - you'll be fine that way :cool:

[Hels85]

Thanx but I don't think my pool playing and drinking is gonna get me very far. I am good at both ;)

I'm cool with hanging anywhere around Sydney. Good music and good mates would make it a good night. Meeting another girl is hard when you don't hang around anyone else that is gay or bi.

[misshg]

hey Hels85
i had a similar dilema a few years back.... its best just to try a few things and then something will click and you will meet people and meet their friends and then make more friends trust me

how old are you??

ACON runs a program called "Ins and Outs" for 16 to 25 yr old same sex attracted women, its a 6 week program where you meet other chicks and discuss things such as coming out, safe sex, homophobia, drugs etc. Its really awesome i highly recommended it.

Also Twenty 10 runs groups for GLBT youth or the Gay Lesbian Counselling service also runs a coming out group for women, even if you are out to everyone its a way to meet other women and find out what they do to socialise/ meet people, in my experience the GLCS coming out group is a slightly older crowd.

There is also a Meet and greet thing at the Zanzibar ( although i have never been)
*the flying Bats is an all girls soccer team
*there is a group called the Bush Lemons (queer women who like to go bushwalking etc)

check out http://www.sapphicsydney.com.au it will give you some more options etc


best of luck

peace

x

[naughtylion]

Scenes especially become overrated when get involved in one and then go through a break-up within the scene ....

Scenes become overrated when they're all you've got. Generally thats when the break ups become messy - because you can't just not give a fuck and walk away.

Although I've only experienced this once, I've seen it happen to a couple of lezzy mates... and it's just SAD. Forget highschool - their behavior went back to preschool. It was so vicious, unnecessary and pathetic. Everyone involved got hurt it was laughable.

[gold_femme]

Scenes especially become overrated when get involved in one and then go through a break-up within the scene ....

yeh agree with you and naughty..sux and gets really ugly

i also hate deciding where i want to go out then thinking - will they be there?

eugh..luckily enough i havent had much experience with this and hoping my last mistake will blow over easily, but we'll see.

i recommend going out in the scene and drinking to meet friends and dance

but meeting someone to 'love' outside of this

if you want a shag try gaydargirls

if you want mates well your here already

and if you want a real lover youll prob meet them through friends or a random event you never guessed would lead you there

[naughtylion]

if you want mates well your here already

fuck ur cute. i'm so shattered i didn't get to touch ur boob on the weekend either :(

[gold_femme]

lol im sure robbie can describe it to you ;)

next time mr lion, next time!

[naughtylion]

well if you could check with me next time before booking your flights that'd probably help :p

[claaah]

...check out http://www.sapphicsydney.com.au it will give you some more options etc...



There is also an active forum there, and we organise regular social meet ups.

[bellsforher]

which reminds me. We need to do another catch up. Somewhere NOT windy and involving more alcohol is my bet :)

[MsBluebird]

Come up to the beautiful Central Coast, come out to the Woodport Inn or Crown Plaza Beer Garden.

(Looking glum) I want to come too.....

[paxie]

The same-samer in melbourne is on fire lol We catch up quite regularly doing the scene or just meeting up. Wish you live here, I am surprised the sydney one isn't like melbourne. These girls are awesome :) I met so many people through here.

[bellsforher]

Bloody Melbourne!
Nah, love the place but it is so far away............:(