In love with a married "straight" woman

[Baby]

Hello there, I'm new but may as well get right into it LOL!

Here's the deal. I'm in love with a married woman, yes, she's married to a man and has been for 2o years. Most of my lesbian friends say "RUN AWAY NOW!" as soon as they hear this. The thing is, I'm pretty sure my girl Aiisha is gay. Not bisexual, not straight, but 100% lesbian. I have many reasons for thinking this after knowing her 3 years. I know for a fact she is unhappy in her marriage, heard it straight from her and confirmed by the husband, and earlier this year she talked about leaving him. I also have good reason to believe she has feelings for me, though neither of us has confirmed it. Let's just say that today she ran out of the room while I was talking enthusiastically about a hunky male gym instructor!

So...advice anyone? Other lesbians say give up, never chase a straight woman. I do have gay friends who were "happily" married, and later came out though.... is there hope for Aiisha? Anyone who has been in this situation, either on her side or my side? Anything I can say or do to get my beloved out of the closet and into my arms?

[piggles]

Messy is all i can say.
My only advice is to stop using her name on websites as you are outing her and this is probably not what she needs.
Good luck
Piggles

[katie0912]

Hi Baby,
last year I split amicably from my husband of 16 yrs, for various reasons, none of which involved me feeling I was gay, because I didn't! Some months later however I met an amazing woman who was also married (unhappily). I fell in love with her, and it was the first time I had feelings for a woman, and I went through the same questions you are. I talked to gay friends who said if I decided to do anything, I should 'proceed with extreme caution'. I gathered the courage to tell her I liked girls, just testing the waters, you know, and next thing she was saying she liked me (first time feelings for a woman for her too). Then I fessed I didn't like *all* girls, only her. She split from her husband a month or so later, and now she and I are together. We have been lucky beyond words in that all our families - including her ex's - have welcomed us just as we are. My parents love her and hers love me. Her kids are doing okay too! So it is all possible.
Good luck, whatever you decide to do, and I am thinking of you.
cheers,
Katie.

[bellsforher]

wow, that's such a wonderful turn of events! I think you've got a one-in-a-million girl there, Katie!
But it may not be like that for everyone...."extreme caution" indeed.

I got my own heart brokena few years back, not by a married woman but one already in a relationship with a man. It was all very open and he was apparently fine with the whole thing but it turned very messy very quickly. It is one painful event I don't wish to repeat.

i guess it's really a tightrope walk for you, Baby, but i hope whatever happens for you is positive. x

[katie0912]

That's a good point, bellsforher. My friend who prescribed extreme caution went through a similar experience as you, having a relationship with a married woman whose husband said he was fine with it. It ended painfully for everyone.
I guess we are like the winner of the 90 million tonight - very very verrrrrrry lucky.

[Baby]

Messy is all i can say.
My only advice is to stop using her name on websites as you are outing her and this is probably not what she needs.
Good luck
Piggles

*roll eyes* That's not her real name, I have a blog and that's the code name I use for her in case she ever discovers it. Her real name is actually pretty ordinary so I could use it, but choose not to because there are several gays we work with who may very well be members on this site.

Katie0912: Oh wow, that is a beautiful story and certainly gives me hope. That is great to see someone in the same position, and now you're together! How long have you been with her?

Bellsforher: Ah yes, I've heard about people who've tried open relationships and it hasn't worked. Some people have suggested it to me, since her hubby has shown a little interest in me but I think that kind of 3 way thing is TOO messy for words!

Thanks very much girls, I won't give up on her just yet!

[katie0912]

Hi Baby,
from first declaration of love it's about eight months, from first kiss (we lived 1000 kms apart, but I have moved :) ) seven.
Good luck!!!
xox
k

[Baby]

Wow that's so great Katie. How did you get the courage to tell her? I've tried hinting at Aiisha but she seems to freak out if I'm too direct...however she's quite happy to flirt with me. She does this thing of singing along to songs and looking right at me when she sings certain lines. Always love stuff, from "You're beautiful" to "I love you baby!" or even "It's time to face the truth, I will never be with you" with a pathetically longing expression! I've also caught her hiding behind a pillar watching me, or making excuses to walk past me 50 times. But if I'm direct she panics, especially if we are alone together. Does that sound familiar Katie, was she showing interest but getting scared if you got close, or was it different for you?

[torilee]

Wish I'd seen this one earlier.

Here's the thing. She may be unhappy in her marriage. She may even have feelings for you. But she may not be anywhere NEAR ready to think of herself as a "lesbian", let alone come out of the closet to her husband, friends, family, etc etc.

Curious what makes you think she's 100% lesbian, as opposed to bisexual? Would that matter to you? I realise you've been friends awhile and you know her fairly well, but hey, none of my friends knew I was gay! ;)

Yes, you should definitely proceed with caution...but you also shouldn't get your hopes up. Because with due respect to Katie (and much congrats!), her story really is the extreme exception and not the rule. Reality is far messier. And even if she does come out, she may well decide to stay married and faithful to her husband despite her feelings. Everyone makes their choices.

Really, what you are proposing is to have an affair with her. That's disrespectful to her husband, not matter what her sexuality might be. Wait til she comes out and decides what to do (if ever), then make your move.

[Baby]

Thanks for chiming in torilee, it's always great to hear other points of view especially from people who have been in the situation. A lot of people have said don't bother, married "straight" people don't come out. Then there's people like Katie who had a success story, and I have several happy gay friends who were once in traditional straight marriages and got the courage to come out, some of them later in life. So it does happen!

Why I think she's lesbian, not bi - she doesn't show any attraction to men, even gorgeous men other women swoon over. Including a former Manpower stripper we know who makes women melt at the mention of his name...but not Aiisha. However mention a few certain females and she goes all googly!!

One thing I do have to object to is your assumption I am "proposing an affair." Where did I say that? I am hoping for a relationship with Aiisha, not a cheap affair. I have waited respectfully for her all this time because I do not believe in cheating (I own a Team Aniston t-shirt) and I don't think she's that kind of person anyway. If she was, I wouldn't want her. Cheating is no way to start a relationship and I would never trust her. Plus I quite like her hubby and it would be cruel to him. My hope is that they end this as amicably as possible, she will come out of the closet and THEN we could start something if that's what she wants.

If there's a way to encourage her to come out, I would like to know! But not sure I dare to confront her....she gets nervous around that topic and I don't blame her. I might just have to tell her I'm gay, like Katie did, but not tell her I'm interested in HER right away. At least then the door is open for her to think about it because she will know for sure that I swing that way!

[torilee]

Thanks for chiming in torilee, it's always great to hear other points of view especially from people who have been in the situation. A lot of people have said don't bother, married "straight" people don't come out. Then there's people like Katie who had a success story, and I have several happy gay friends who were once in traditional straight marriages and got the courage to come out, some of them later in life. So it does happen!

Why I think she's lesbian, not bi - she doesn't show any attraction to men, even gorgeous men other women swoon over. Including a former Manpower stripper we know who makes women melt at the mention of his name...but not Aiisha. However mention a few certain females and she goes all googly!!

One thing I do have to object to is your assumption I am "proposing an affair." Where did I say that? I am hoping for a relationship with Aiisha, not a cheap affair. I have waited respectfully for her all this time because I do not believe in cheating (I own a Team Aniston t-shirt) and I don't think she's that kind of person anyway. If she was, I wouldn't want her. Cheating is no way to start a relationship and I would never trust her. Plus I quite like her hubby and it would be cruel to him. My hope is that they end this as amicably as possible, she will come out of the closet and THEN we could start something if that's what she wants.

If there's a way to encourage her to come out, I would like to know! But not sure I dare to confront her....she gets nervous around that topic and I don't blame her. I might just have to tell her I'm gay, like Katie did, but not tell her I'm interested in HER right away. At least then the door is open for her to think about it because she will know for sure that I swing that way!

Hi again,

Sorry I misinterpreted your intentions. I guess I'm really really passionate about respecting boundaries - a lot of people seem to think that being in love means you can disregard the fact that the other person is married/partnered/otherwise unavailable, and that's just not right. I'm glad you have a healthy outlook. You definitely don't want to be "the other woman", so to speak! :)

I think your plan of coming out to her is a good one. Just as a side note...one of my best friends from childhood is 100% lesbian and coming out to HER was the hardest thing I ever did! I was afraid she wouldn't believe me; that she'd think I was taking the piss or something. And she was kinda shocked, but then gave me a big hug and said, "I always wondered about you." Haha! Maybe your friend feels the same way. Make the first move and see what happens.

Good luck! :)

[Baby]

I agree, I can't stand cheating hence the Team Aniston t-shirt! If Brad was unhappy with Jen he should have ended the marriage, not skanked around with Angelina. How the hell Ange trusts him after starting their relationship with deception I don't know!! I don't believe in ending a marriage generally, but in Aiisha's case if she is a lesbian she will never be happy in a straight marriage and it's not fair to hubby either. My biggest wish for him is to find a 20 year old blonde with huge boobs who will love him, not girls!! ;p

Cool story about your friend...well that's the thing, your friend always suspected and I think when someone is gay, a lot of people do suspect it even if it's not obvious (Aiisha is obvious - she's quite boyish and I've been asked many times if she's gay) I think we've been dancing around the topic for a long time...but as I said she gets nervous if I get too direct. At least if I tell her I swing that way, the doubt is out of her mind if she's been wondering "Is she or isn't she?" I might tell her in a few weeks when her best friend is on holiday (her bestie seems quite opposed to Aiisha coming out, if Aiisha makes a gay joke about herself the bestie gets extremely upset and tells her not to talk like that....see it's quite complicated!)

[Jody Ekert]

I'll chip in and be quite blunt - because I've seen your story over and over in the gay scene. All the talking and hand wringing in the world is going to get you no where - except you will enter that wonderful world of obsessing and over analysing every single thing this woman does trying to figure it out.

Your choices - Do something about it. Tell her how you feel, be prepared for the fact it may go pear shaped and she may pull back. Put it in a letter if you can't do it in person. Risk the friendship.

If you choice not to do anything about it, then move on. Remain her friends, get a grip of the feelings, allow yourself to feel them and not act on them. If you can't, then end the friendship.

I spent ages trying to date a straight girl. Turns out - she was straight and wasn't actually dating me - just hanging out as a friend when I finally confessed. But it was very easy for me to have built my own reality out of her actions. What a waste of time. There are plenty of great women out there ready to date.

Also - respect her sexuality and not refer to her as "straight" with the quotes and such is my advice. She married a guy, I would assume their marriage was at some stage sexual, and may still be. So she could actually be straight, bisexual or going through a process where eventually she may want to identify as something else. But she will need to decide that in time.

[Baby]

Good advice Jodi...yep I'm pretty much at the stage of following what you said. I plan to tell her I'm gay when the bestie is away and just see her reaction (she should be cool with it, a coworker of hers just came out and she seems fine with it). Then see what she does...she might step up the flirting once she realises I "play for the right team" or she may back off completely. Either one is possible.

If she backs off, then it might be time to say goodbye. I've tried the whole "I love her but am open to other relationships" but it doesn't work, as someone said to me it's like going shopping with a full trolley - I'm looking for something new but I have no room for it! So yep, like you said Jodi there are plenty of others to date.

I can't give out too many details about her life obviously, but there may be other reasons she married a man. She was a teenager at the time, and living in a country where homosexuality was illegal, so just saying it might not be a case of her once being "straight"...oh yes, I use the quotes because that woman is far from straight! Trust me if you met her you'd know what I mean...everyone who knows her assumes she is gay until they find out about the hubby...and are pretty damn shocked!!

[katie0912]

Hi Baby and everyone,
sorry it's taken me ages to reply here.
Re your earlier questions, my girl could tell that I liked her before I told her and was just friendly towards me, not flirting or anything like that. I felt really strongly that I had to tell her but took that safe route of just saying I was gay, not telling her straight away that I liked her specifically, because I didn't want to lose our friendship.
I think you're doing the right thing in taking the same sort of track and then seeing what happens.
Best wishes!

[Baby]

No worries Katie! I'm thinking Aiisha pretty much knows how I feel about her, I have bought her some pretty nice gifts and on her birthday we had a pretty gay moment...she hugged me, then kind of nudged herself into me and held my hand. Even some other people who were watching were kind of "Woah! What just happened between THEM?" I've been asked if something is going on between us, so other people see the sparks. Damn that husband!!!! I've waited this long without taking direct action because I don't want to be the one who breaks up the marriage...I keep hoping it comes to an end by itself but I can see that ain't happening!!

[Baby]

Saw her kissing another woman today...oh yeah, I was right to put "straight" in commas all right!!!

[torilee]

Saw her kissing another woman today...oh yeah, I was right to put "straight" in commas all right!!!

edited to add... Just noticed your status update. I'm so sorry. :(

[ammonite]

i'm really sorry B, are you ok?

trying to look on the bright side here - maybe now she's experimenting you can make a move without feeling like you'll be breaking up the marriage?

[katie0912]

Oh Baby, I feel for you! Don't give up - stick with your plan - and know that we are all here cheering for you.
xox

[Baby]

Aw thanks you guys!!! Yeah it wasn't fun at all to see her lips on another woman! On a positive note, after she did it she immediately looked at me, possibly to get my reaction. And yeah ammonite, it would actually be great if she left him herself then I would have no part in the breakup of a marriage. Though my fear has always been that she will leave him and run off with some OTHER woman!!

[katie0912]

Hey Baby, any news??
xox
k

[ska88]

hi everyone
i'm preety much new around here, but i'm glad i join this forum

i though i was the only one who fall for a married "straight " woman

umm
could anyone give me some advice on how do i know that this woman, is not just a mere "straight" woman
coz, i've been received some signal which indicated that she might be a bi or lesbian
but than again my gaydar is so mess up this day

i dont plan to have anykind of relationship like you guys
but i just cant shake this feeling of wanting to know her, or get close to her
i'm still young >_<

[Baby]

Hi katie0912! No not really any news lately...really not sure where I stand with her at the moment. She switches back and forth from acting lovey to distant like she can't make up her mind.

Hello ska88...there's certainly a lot of married lesbians, especially if they are a little older. Quite a few of my gay friends were once married, it seems like some people find it easier to do the socially acceptable thing, and after a few years realise they can't live a lie. My Aiisha is most likely gay, but whether she has the courage to leave her marriage and come out, I don't know.

If you don't want a relationship with her, then it should be ok. Maybe you can get to know her as a friend?

[ammonite]

i though i was the only one who fall for a married "straight " woman

No, it’s a gay curse. Everyone wants what they can’t have I guess.

I am only attracted to straight women, married women and nuns.

[ska88]

Hi B! yeah... i just realized that. Thanks for starting this thread. Friend, huh...i'm trying to, but we're 8 years apart, she's my supervisor, i'm just an intern. Can't even think of thing to talk about with her, all would sound so childish. But something happen erlier tells me she doesn't want to lose cennection with me. It could be that i confuse reality over imagination again though.... arrrrgghh....this is so pathetic

Anyway, since i read your story. Can stop hoping things will clear up soon for you. She would eventually make up her mind, just dunno the result would be good to hear or not. Prepared your heart, finnaly the answer to a new beggining(hope it's for you and her)


Hi ammonite!! my friend!! you dont know how much married women and straight women had broke my heart. I should have put married on one of 5 sexiest lesbian job thread

[Baby]

Nuns! Haha, now that I've never tried.

ska88 wow that situation sounds familiar hehe, there's an age gap between me and Aiisha also. And yes I know what you mean, there's a connection between us that I don't want to lose, but sometimes wonder if I have made it up because I want it to be there. Then she will do something that makes me think there IS a connection...and it starts again!

[ammonite]

I should have put married on one of 5 sexiest lesbian job threadLOL

Nuns! Haha, now that I've never tried.it's the wisdom and the peacefullness they exude that gets me i think. and with buddhist nuns also the shaved heads :p.

[ska88]

there's a connection between us that I don't want to lose, but sometimes wonder if I have made it up because I want it to be there. Then she will do something that makes me think there IS a connection...and it starts again!

yup yup!! that thing and feeling just wont go away

it's the wisdom and the peacefullness they exude that gets me i think. and with buddhist nuns also the shaved heads :p.


that's one interesting point of view, good luck with that :D

[Baby]

I can honestly say I've never looked at a nun that way...not that there are many around these days!!!

ska88: Yeah, like people keep asking why I don't just give up on Aiisha. And I have, many times, just deciding that there's nothing there and I imagined everything. Then she'll do something so outrageously flirty that goes above and beyond "hey I think you're nice but nothing more." And there's this SPARK, that I always think only I can feel but now and then I think she feels it too. Like on her birthday as I said above, when she held my hand and there was just this massive spark between us that even other people noticed.

But what can you do? I can't drag her out of the closet by her hair, and there are so many things stacked against her. Like a Catholic best friend who will never approve, and a family from a culture that will never approve. Not to mention disrupting her entire life by going through divorce. *sigh* Meanwhile other girls show interest in me and I have ZERO interest in them. Arrgh!!

[ammonite]

there is a point at which you have to give up on someone and try to move on - for your own sanity.

but you can't do that if you stay friends unfortunately.

[Baby]

I'm not really a quitter! :)

[ammonite]

no i didn't think so ;)

[torilee]

The other possibility is that her husband is aware that she's a lesbian and is totally fine with it. Maybe even a turn-on for him. ;)

Sometimes people stay in marriages for any number of reasons - kids, cultural/religious belief against divorce, or because they really do love eachother on some level. There are people who decide to have an "open marriage", where one or both have a girlfriend/boyfriend on the side. I don't advocate that sort of thing, btw, but people do whatever works for them...

[Baby]

I'm not sure what the deal is with the husband...all I know is when Aiisha made a joke that she was having a shower with another woman, her best friend grabbed her and said angrily "Don't say that, what if your husband heard?" Then Aiisha's sister asked what is going on, the best friend said Aiisha's husband would not be happy if he heard the comment. So I'm guessing he knows she's gay, and is not happy about it.

[optimism]

I think you ought to tell her you saw her kissing another woman, ask her what that was about. Let her know you're OK with it, open up the discussion that way. Maybe even ask why she didn't didn't kiss you?

[Baby]

Oh she knows I saw her, she turned straight to me and looked to see my reaction!!

[ammonite]

have you discussed it with her yet?

[just_dance]

Hiya.

Hope I'm not jumping in too late with this, and I'm only new to the forums but thought I would add my two cents. I haven't been in quite the same situation, but I fell for a woman who is 'married' (had the ceremony, tho obviously not legal) to another woman. We didnt mean to fall in love, but it just happened. Unfortunately she still chose the other woman :( but we are still friends.

Its a very long and complicated story! But I learnt one thing... You can only go so long before you hit breaking point. Perhaps you will be different... but seeing her kiss another woman, I believe would give you an opening. Is the best friend going away any time soon? Maybe she wanted to do it as an opening for you to say something...

I just hope you can find a way to get the ball rolling before breaking point hits because that when it gets messy if she doesnt know about your feelings and can get overwhelming for her. It can cause her to push you away. Which I really hope doesn't happen. Everyone deserves to be happy and I really do wish the best for you. It takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there.... If you do it, I hope it works out.

Hope that even made sense lol. I look forward to hearing how things go :)

xx

[Baby]

Ammonite: She says she was just doing it for a joke, mm hmm well it was interesting that the immediately spun around to see what I was doing.

[just_dance]

Oh yeah! that does make it messier. But you did mention just telling her that you're gay. Perhaps just starting with that will help? Open the communication lines a little. Doesn't have to be full on as yet. Who knows? No situation is black and white. I learned that the hard way unfortunately. And does ur workplace have a rule against employees dating? That could make it even harder

[Baby]

No our workplace doesn't have a rule, in fact quite a few people are married or dating so that's no prob. My biggest obstacle is the best friend seeming to have a bit of a problem with the idea of her bestie being a lez. And I'm thinking, will have a major problem finding out I am and hanging around her in-the-closet pal....could be a bad influence and she won't like that!!!

[just_dance]

oooh gotta love people like that! *rolls eyes* not a very good friend if she isnt supportive of it... make sure u let us know how things go. If you ever need someone to chat to, I'm an excellent listening ear :) you can add me on msn if u have it: sezzabelle@hotmail.com I'm always wanting to make new friends :)

[Baby]

Aww, just added you just_dance, looking forward to chatting with you.

[ammonite]

there must be a way you can get some alone time.

[Baby]

Not really!

[ammonite]

do they spend every waking minute together?

maybe she's so protective because she's in love with her too!

[just_dance]

what about just turning up at the house? Would that work? Though if shes a busy bee like me that wouldnt work probably. That really sucks! But a comment like that.... I think she's trying to leave herself wide open to you...

Thanks for the add. I'll chat to ya in a bit, just trying to get a few things ready in the house. my uncle got hit by a car last night and died :(

and ammonite: good point! but if so she sounds more like she's seriously in denial over it as she sounds more homophobic to me....

[ammonite]

sorry about your uncle.

[ammonite]

PS you should switch your profile here to public so people can say hello :)

[just_dance]

oooh i didnt realise it wasnt! ill go figure it out. and thanks :) btw i like the pokemon reference.... :D

[Baby]

Oh so sorry to hear about your uncle, that sounds horrible to lose someone so suddenly.

Turning up at her house...no I don't think she'd like that. And her hubby would be there...well I get along fine with her hubby but I think she'd get a little spooked if I just rocked up!

Hmm, is Asa in love with Aiisha too....I'm going to say no, I don't think so. When I first met them 3 year ago, I thought they were a lesbian couple. Aiisha was so obviously gay, always together with Asa, and they acted like a couple. Our whole workplace talked about them (still does.) But I used to look at Asa and think "What is that straight woman doing with Aiisha???" My gaydar is pretty spot on and there's nothing gay about Asa. I thought she was some woman who had gone through a messy divorce and decided she hated men and shacked up with a woman! Then I found out Aiisha and Asa were not together, and were both married to men. I was like aha, I was right that Asa is straight. But I was pretty damn sh0cked to learn that about Aiisha let me tell you!!! The first thing I said was "Does her husband know she's GAY????"

Now that I know Asa quite well, I think I can comfortably say she's not gay. She loves her husband and gets quite animated when talking about him (Aiisha's eyes go dead when she talks about her hubby) and often talks about men she thinks are sexy (Aiisha does not, but often talks about girls with nice bodies). Asa also seems to be a bit homophobic, particularly towards lesbians more than gay men. Asa is more of a mother hen type of person who seems to enjoy clucking over Aiisha and overprotecting her (they have a bit of a parent/child relationship). For Aiisha's part, I think she has found a way to be close to a woman while still having the safety of a straight marriage. But I get the feeling she's craving more, she's been making slightly more suggestive comments in recent months about being with women and I wonder how long someone can live in a fake marriage before they crack?

[sookey]

I can also say i have been in this situation aswell.
My partner for the past 7 years was married when i met her.
And if you do the math i was 17 and still in school.
So she was 25, married, 2 young children etc etc.

But the only difference is that my partner was not happy, and felt she was gay.
So after a long process, she left her husband etc of course there was problems with her ex but we made it and we are happy.

In the end you can't force the situation, this lady you love has to make the first move on if she wants this relationship or if she wants to stay married.
Good Luck

[Baby]

Oh that's great to hear Sookey, there are a few people who made it.

Me and Aiisha didn't make it.

[ammonite]

oh no :(

[torilee]

Oh, I'm so sorry. :(

[Baby]

Thanks guys. Everyone who knows us says they are certain she loved me, from the strange way she acted. Even one coworker who didn't know how I felt about Aiisha, said Aiisha is acting like a "closet lesbian" and that she must be in love with me. Nice to know, but her behaviour was completely unbalanced and unacceptable. She has been sending her friends to find out how I am from my friends but I can't see how we could be together.

[katie0912]

So sorry things went bad, Baby :( Sending many hugs!

[Baby]

Thankyou Katie!!

[erinbot]

Sounds very complicated and hard but it doesn't mean it's impossible. I'm a romantic but I don't believe the whole 'if it's meant to be, it's meant to be' crapola. If you really want to be with her I think you need to put up a little fight. I think you should talk to her if you think it's worth risking your friendship.

When I chased my GF I wasn't sure if she was into girls at all. The night before we hooked up, one of my best friends sat me down and told me to give up because she is straight and it's not going to go anywhere. I got the girl in the end though! BUT before this, I had been knocked around by quite a few straight girls.

[Baby]

Thanks erinbot. It all went a bit sour, but interestingly every time I tell someone the story (without mentioning that I was in love with her) they all say the same thing - it sounds like she was in love with you and couldn't handle it! Someone said it just last night, I was telling the story just as a manager at work fired me and the friend immediately said it sounded like Aiisha had feelings for me.

I ran into her this week, talk about awkward. She acts like a jilted lover, it's crazy.

[erinbot]

OMG what? Your friendship with Aiisha went sour and you got fired? Is that related? Are you still in love with her? I'm very confused!

[Baby]

Oh hi erinbot sorry I missed your post!

Am I still in love with her...well I'd love to say no, but I saw her yesterday for the first time in ages. It's always very uncomfortable when we are together since the fight, she always acts like my ex girlfriend and turns her face away when I look at her.

So for now...there's no Baybee and Aiisha love story.

[erinbot]

Oh dear! Complicated! What was the fight about?

[Baby]

Complicated indeed...