Hello - just to clear up exactly what this forum is for, as it seems there is a tiny bit of confusion. If you have a technical question about how the site works, or you've come across a problem with using it, please post it in the "Ask Same Same" Forum and we'll get to it asap.

This forum, although titled Support, is actually for support not of a technical kind. It's where you should come if you've got dilemma - from coming out to going out - and want some advice from the rest of the oh-so-wise Same Same community.

So come on, everyone's got something that a need a little help with, fess up and learn from the experience/mistakes of everyone else!

opps my bad....guess the outlines of "support" should have been alittle more clear...i'll delete my thread.

It's all good B-Side! We're in the process of renaming it "Life Support" so it's clearer!

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I think it's a great idea having a forum like this. Tim, may I suggest something to SS in regard to this forum? I was somewhat ridiculed by some members on PinkSofa about the following idea.

Some people who seek advice of this sort on a forum can be lonely and desperate. The members responding to those in need may give advice in good faith without having knowledge of the full particulars of the person's situation or circumstances. The advice may be taken out of context or relied upon which in turn may disadvantage the person receiving that advice. This is especially important for those suffering depressive conditions - it could make their condition worse.

I feel it is important that a notation (or disclaimer) be detailed clearly in this particular forum to advise that certain information provided by members should not be relied upon in the absence of obtaining professional or medical advice (or something to that effect). I think this would be a responsible thing to do especially given the connection between those discovering they are gay and self-harm practises......

Hey Oliveoil, that is a great idea and I appreciate the sentiment behind it.

All advice in this forum is from non medical or psychological professionals and should be taken with a grain of salt. Professional advice is highly recommended and we're happy to point anyone who needs it in the right direction of where to find this help.

Hi there Tim and oliveoil,

In thinking about your posts I was looking at the banner at the top of the screen which states that "Bobby Goldsmith Foundation working with Same Same, supporting the on line community with expert advice."

When BGF joined with Same Same they appointed a number of moderators to provide support to this forum. Moderators were carefully choosen on the basis of their knowledge, lived experience etc etc.

You can tell who the BGF moderators are as our user names start with bgf....

I am a health care professional working in Sexual Health, however in saying that I'm only human and of course I don't know everything. I agree exactly with what oliveoil had to say....it's potentially a huge problem to give "advise" when you have never met a person, don't know their histories etc etc.

So from my perspective I'll try to share relevant information that will hopefully be of help and enable people make well informed choices.

Cheers,

Beverley

thanks Bec

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Originally Posted by oliveoil

I think it's a great idea having a forum like this. Tim, may I suggest something to SS in regard to this forum? I was somewhat ridiculed by some members on PinkSofa about the following idea.

Some people who seek advice of this sort on a forum can be lonely and desperate. The members responding to those in need may give advice in good faith without having knowledge of the full particulars of the person's situation or circumstances. The advice may be taken out of context or relied upon which in turn may disadvantage the person receiving that advice. This is especially important for those suffering depressive conditions - it could make their condition worse.

I feel it is important that a notation (or disclaimer) be detailed clearly in this particular forum to advise that certain information provided by members should not be relied upon in the absence of obtaining professional or medical advice (or something to that effect). I think this would be a responsible thing to do especially given the connection between those discovering they are gay and self-harm practises......

i totlly agree with this. i love to dish out advice but sometimes it isnt the best advice and clearly im no shrink who earns $240 an hour and loves to draw out the sessions to get to the most intimate details and milk u of wayy more money than is necessary.

i provide short sharp sweeping generalisations which are punchy and perky and funny and witty and is not intended to cure or alleviate any "conditions" anyone has.

all i can say is. i am unqualified. lol

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Originally Posted by Tim D

Hello - just to clear up exactly what this forum is for, as it seems there is a tiny bit of confusion. If you have a technical question about how the site works, or you've come across a problem with using it, please post it in the "Ask Same Same" Forum and we'll get to it asap.

This forum, although titled Support, is actually for support not of a technical kind. It's where you should come if you've got dilemma - from coming out to going out - and want some advice from the rest of the oh-so-wise Same Same community.

So come on, everyone's got something that a need a little help with, fess up and learn from the experience/mistakes of everyone else!

Thanks Tim_D I am new here and found a little bit difficulty to finding the forums related to my topic now I can easily found them and get any information from them.

Hey guys, just having a read of this thread. Awesome idea to have a place people can come to for health support etc, sometimes a doctor visit is daunting enough to put one off from going again.

I can offer some OBJECTIVE medical information if the need arises. I'm an intern pharmacist at the Royal Melbourne Hospital so could give some medical issues a shot, but like it was said previously, all information has to be taken with a grain of salt as people's situations are all different and without proper examination by a doctor or pharmacist, it's impossible to make any sort of correct diagnosis.

Cheers!

Glen

How do you post a new topic on the forum? I can't find it on the mobile version of the forum

Why don't people post in this section more?

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Why don't people post in this section more?

I feel embarrassed talking about all my physical and mental issues in public. I was raised to think that it was selfish and most people think it's boring. I only pay attention to other people's diseases if they have one which I may fall with later in y own life.

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Originally Posted by mark_

I feel embarrassed talking about all my physical and mental issues in public. I was raised to think that it was selfish and most people think it's boring. I only pay attention to other people's diseases if they have one which I may fall with later in y own life.

I know what you mean when you say that people are generally not interested in people's problems, sad things or negative talk in general but I think that applies mainly when you are talking to people face to face. On a forum people are generally more inclined to discuss anything I find as long as there is some level of anonymity

I have a question, are any guys interested in being a sperm donor or do you have any advice as to how I can make the whole process less daunting for a guy to be a known donor or possibly co parent with myself and my partner.
We obviously prefer a gay guy being a same sex couple ourselves we figure it's an opportunity for someone to become a father when they may not otherwise be given the chance. Any advice appreciated!
Thanks

I have a question, are any guys interested in being a sperm donor or do you have any advice as to how I can make the whole process less daunting for a guy to be a known donor or possibly co parent with myself and my partner.
We obviously prefer a gay guy being a same sex couple ourselves we figure it's an opportunity for someone to become a father when they may not otherwise be given the chance. Any advice appreciated!
Thanks

If you go through a fertility clinic you can choose to use your own sperm donor or one of theirs, however legally the donor has no parental rights over the child by the laws of some states in Australia. A fertility specialist or fertility clinic will be able to guide you through this process.

thanks for share.