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21st June 2011, 07:27 PM Old #1

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I really liked this guy I had sex with twice. But I sense that he's just into sex with me, not looking for a relationship. I don't see any future,
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I really liked this guy I had sex with twice. But I sense that he's just into sex with me, not looking for a relationship. I don't see any future,

Have you discussed it with him? Sex as a basis for a relationship is doomed to fail. Whilst sex is an integral component of any relationship it is but one component. If you enjoy the sex and its meeting both your needs then don't add any expectations.
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I really liked this guy I had sex with twice. But I sense that he's just into sex with me, not looking for a relationship. I don't see any future,

You have possibly answered your own question.
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You have possibly answered your own question.

It's been four times, and I just couldn't help when he asked me over. He talked about his stories and made me feel that I have the chance. But every time I feel hurt afterwards because I knew he's playing and He knew that I liked him very much.
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It's been four times, and I just couldn't help when he asked me over. He talked about his stories and made me feel that I have the chance. But every time I feel hurt afterwards because I knew he's playing and He knew that I liked him very much.

So he only wants sex but you want more? You have answered your own question as the other marky said.
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I really liked this guy I had sex with twice. But I sense that he's just into sex with me, not looking for a relationship. I don't see any future,

oh just enjoy the sex.

Maybe he will come around maybe he wont.

We all fall for someone and its not reciprocated

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oh just enjoy the sex.

Maybe he will come around maybe he wont.

We all fall for someone and its not reciprocated

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Thx, and I've decided not to continue such relationship. It's my very first time of falling for someone, not a good start.
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Thx, and I've decided not to continue such relationship. It's my very first time of falling for someone, not a good start.

yes but how do you know he wont fall for you ? just cause you fell for him first doesnt mean he has to at the same time etc.

if its just blow n go / fuck n go then yes its just sex but if he hangs about for conversation ? then maybe he has some interest. I know people who were friends or sex buddies and didnt get into relationship till much further down the track.
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yes but how do you know he wont fall for you ? just cause you fell for him first doesnt mean he has to at the same time etc.

if its just blow n go / fuck n go then yes its just sex but if he hangs about for conversation ? then maybe he has some interest. I know people who were friends or sex buddies and didnt get into relationship till much further down the track.

Because he said "U should know the rule".
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Because he said "U should know the rule".

well OK you didnt say that in the beginning.

So yep time to move on and hopefully find someone who does want more.

Good luck !
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well OK you didnt say that in the beginning.

So yep time to move on and hopefully find someone who does want more.

Good luck !

Thx, I'm coping with it.
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The story has changed. He came back with the news that his boyfriend (who I know also) died, 26yo. I'm feeling so crapped after seeing him today. Couldn't stop tearing. But don't know what for, for his boyfriend's death, or for knowing he's genuine and my compassion for him, or for my own selfishness of wanting him but not getting returned......?
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I had sex once...
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I had sex once...

You don't belong in this part of the forum....
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You don't belong in this part of the forum....

Or any other for that matter!
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Or any other for that matter!

Ditto -_-
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Of course sex can turn into a relationship, fuck it happens more often than not in the straight world doesnt it?
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his boyfriend died?! this means ur in with a chance! if u like him... he is vulnerable and needs u... now is the time to capture him using ur ring of fire!
wont tell anybody... wont tell anybody....
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his boyfriend died?! this means ur in with a chance! if u like him... he is vulnerable and needs u... now is the time to capture him using ur ring of fire!

Needing someone in a moment of vulnerability is not a good basis for a long term relationship.
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uh huh... the cheater always goes for the limpy gazelle!
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Intution.
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sex is no problem,try to catch up his mind

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All sex is dirty and the penis must be punished

Wrong place Wrong time. Shameful
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Of course sex can turn into a relationship, fuck it happens more often than not in the straight world doesnt it?

Does it?
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I wouldn't give up until you're completely sure. But since he's in a difficult situation I would be very careful... I mean you don't know how he feels after this death.
And I think just sex can turn into relationships. It happens more often... no matter of which sex we're talking about!
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