Hi everyone !
apologies for my english and I hope there won't be too many mistakes.
I'm from France, and i lived in Perth for lie 9months.
What i discovered in australia : a huge lesbian/gay community which I love ! In france, its less free and "not ok" to say i'm a lesbian ( gay guys are more accepted).

anyway, I've always known gays/lesbians ( most of my parents' friends) and there were no questions about my sexuality : straight.
Now, it's confusing I don't know if i'm bisexual, or bicurious but i'm really attracted to girls. I'm still attracted to guys so thats why I didn't say " lesbian" . The thing is i'm scared. What to do ? I want to experience with someone, at least to talk to someone about this and i don't really want to do it with my entourage first, before knowing "who i am".
I don't really want to say oh i'm lesbianb/bi/straight.. because I don't know why we should find a name to describe this. we could be able to be attracted by everyone. without judgments, without doubts, nor being scared to do a coming out..

Ok i will stop there, because it's enough long and i'm talking about too many things (i just created my account and don't really know what i'm doing).

So if you have any advices/stories to tell me about your own experiences i will appreciate.
Thanks x

I'd like to start with your name, if you don't mind. Look, I'm not going to start throwing my weight around, god forbid that I lose any of it, but three Vlads seems a bit overkill. Well, I suppose it's too late now.

In regards to the sexuality thing. You can sleep with and love whoever you like and call yourself whatever you like. Apparantly, one can even fall in love with the remaining parts of the Berlin Wall.

Hi Vlad! Are you still in Australia or did you move back to France? I think lots of people feel the same as you, I know I did! I think it can be good to find some gay friends and see how you feel. Maybe you can find some gay bars to go to, or see if there are some gay groups you can join? Then you can explore your feelings a little more and see if a lesbian relationship is something you want to do.

to VladtheImpaler : i didn't see there was a lot of Vlad here, but don't worry it's not my real name but thanks for your response

Yeah i'm still in Australia, thanks for your reply ! I am still attracted to guys and for girls that is the real question... that's why I posted here because i think australia is a really good place to meet/talk with gay/lesbian people. And as you said i should explore my feelings instead of trying to absolutely "know".

Totally! Just have some fun, go out with different people and see what fits you and your life. Stay open, and one day you might meet someone who makes you fall crazy in love, and it won't matter if they are male or female!

And don't worry about your name. I'm Baby, and there's also a Baby Baby. It doesn't matter! Nobody owns a name on a public forum.

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Originally Posted by Baby

Totally! Just have some fun, go out with different people and see what fits you and your life. Stay open, and one day you might meet someone who makes you fall crazy in love, and it won't matter if they are male or female!

And don't worry about your name. I'm Baby, and there's also a Baby Baby. It doesn't matter! Nobody owns a name on a public forum.

Yeah...meet new people and don't feel pressured to be a certain sexuality. Something just clicks one day

Thank you to have taken the time to reply ! I appreciate and I guess I just needed to be reassured and have others point of views.

Come down to Melbourne, we can show you around haha!

Some people know their sexuality from a young age, but for a lot of other people it's not an easy decision. I've never been sure one way or another. After just coming out of a wonderful relationship with a girl that ended very suddenly, I'm wondering if it would just be easier to date a man next time! Don't be afraid to experiment and do what is right for you. Be honest with the people you are with, and have some fun!