Hi guys! Gosh, it's been ages since I have been here. Hope everyone is well.

I need advice, tips, suggestions, or anything you can come up with...

I've been hanging out with this guy that I have come to really, really like for about 3 months. I think about him all day every day and get excited at the thought of talking to him, and even better, seeing him! Basically, he is my ideal guy - the whole package! And I feel more comfortable and the happiest I've ever been in my life when I am around him.
We have slept together twice (no sex, just slept in the same bed), and have cuddled and kissed in bed. We're always hugging each other and feel happy when we do. However........... we aren't actually in a relationship. But I assume he really likes me as well.

He has had three boyfriends in the past, and he sometimes mentions his ex's in conversation. Thing is, even though I really like him and I am assuming he likes me back, he is ALWAYS hanging out with his ex and other gay guys. I see him only once a week and talk to him a few days a week, but he sees his ex a few days a week and talks to him every day. They always hang out all day and go to cafes for lunch and dinner, and then for drinks while I sit at home thinking about him. It's when I see his tagged places on facebook, I get really jealous and upset when he is with his ex or any other guy.

Even though we aren't in a relationship, I know I shouldn't act like we are and get jealous, but... I can't help but feel I am being used, or that maybe he doesn't actually like me the way I like him ? I am afraid he still likes his ex. He told me he had no plans yesterday or today other than to do his assignment, and we were supposed to hang out tomorrow. BUT.. he went out for drinks with his ex yesterday and today he had lunch and dinner with him instead and got no work done, and now he said he won't come over tomorrow
Any advice on what I should do? I just feel so upset and jealous when I see he is out with his ex or some other gay guy, and I'm home alone. I don't know if I am wasting my time with him and if I should just... push him away and let him be ? I really want to be boyfriends with him, but am scared that if I ask him again, he will freak out and run away.
(Oh yeah, I asked him a couple of weeks ago if he was interested, but he said he wasn't sure and didn't think it was a good idea).

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Originally Posted by Mighty_Magpies

Hi guys! Gosh, it's been ages since I have been here. Hope everyone is well.

I need advice, tips, suggestions, or anything you can come up with...

I've been hanging out with this guy that I have come to really, really like for about 3 months. I think about him all day every day and get excited at the thought of talking to him, and even better, seeing him! Basically, he is my ideal guy - the whole package! And I feel more comfortable and the happiest I've ever been in my life when I am around him.
We have slept together twice (no sex, just slept in the same bed), and have cuddled and kissed in bed. We're always hugging each other and feel happy when we do. However........... we aren't actually in a relationship. But I assume he really likes me as well.

He has had three boyfriends in the past, and he sometimes mentions his ex's in conversation. Thing is, even though I really like him and I am assuming he likes me back, he is ALWAYS hanging out with his ex and other gay guys. I see him only once a week and talk to him a few days a week, but he sees his ex a few days a week and talks to him every day. They always hang out all day and go to cafes for lunch and dinner, and then for drinks while I sit at home thinking about him. It's when I see his tagged places on facebook, I get really jealous and upset when he is with his ex or any other guy.

Even though we aren't in a relationship, I know I shouldn't act like we are and get jealous, but... I can't help but feel I am being used, or that maybe he doesn't actually like me the way I like him ? I am afraid he still likes his ex. He told me he had no plans yesterday or today other than to do his assignment, and we were supposed to hang out tomorrow. BUT.. he went out for drinks with his ex yesterday and today he had lunch and dinner with him instead and got no work done, and now he said he won't come over tomorrow
Any advice on what I should do? I just feel so upset and jealous when I see he is out with his ex or some other gay guy, and I'm home alone. I don't know if I am wasting my time with him and if I should just... push him away and let him be ? I really want to be boyfriends with him, but am scared that if I ask him again, he will freak out and run away.
(Oh yeah, I asked him a couple of weeks ago if he was interested, but he said he wasn't sure and didn't think it was a good idea).

well something similar to this happened to me recently... and my advice to you is to just try not and think about the whole ex situation and him hanging out with the ex and go with the flow...
see how things pan out... if you don't think you can do that then do what i did.. distance yourself abit and see what happens then...

Thanks simplekj for your response. It turns out he never liked his ex...... it was someone else he liked who he never told me about. I was about to tell him how much I really liked him but before I did he was making out with the guy who he had liked for a while. They are both boyfriends now. I was hurt, so I have stopped talking to him and we don't hang out anymore

dunno why i just seen this thread - i hadnt noticed it before

not much to say other than it seems to have resolved itself although not in th way u mite have hoped for

one of lifes lessons i learned a long time ago is that im always adjusting to th curve balls that get thrown and i try (sometimes well, other times not so good) to just keep things in th moment - thats a constant discipline for me

hugs bro

@ least th maggies r still up top of th ladder

mmmmm dane swan = dreamy

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Originally Posted by Mighty_Magpies

Thanks simplekj for your response. It turns out he never liked his ex...... it was someone else he liked who he never told me about. I was about to tell him how much I really liked him but before I did he was making out with the guy who he had liked for a while. They are both boyfriends now. I was hurt, so I have stopped talking to him and we don't hang out anymore

im sorry to hear the outcome wasnt what you expected.. but at least you got closure and that you didnt express your feelings to him about how you felt...
dont worry there's better out there who will treat you better and the way you should be treated..

Its an easy throw away line but you'll be better for the experience as much as it hurts now. At least you didnt get in too deep too early. Sneakos is a wise owl.