Hey guys,

I am new to this forum and new to this scene. I am in the process of coming out which is taking much longer and is more difficult than i imagined.

I thought i would start a topic on something that has been on my mind a lot lately and that is commitment.

I want to know how much you value commitment? Please be honest . You will receive absolutely no judgement from me.

As a gay male are you interested in long term relationships?

From your experience with other men do you find that long term relationships is something they are interested in.

when you go on a date with a guy, is your main priority to get in his pants or are you thinking about the possibility of starting a relationship with him.

No i am not some weird PHD student doing a survey. I'm just a guy that is still exploring what he wants and doesn't know what to expect.

Thanks

i think there are lots of GLBT people who are very much interested (and in) long term relationships.

I doubt the push for gay marriage would be as strong if people weren't interested in having stable long term committed relationships.

Me, Im just waiting to find the right guy to settle down with because i'd rather be single and happy than married and unhappy (though married and happy is obviously my first preference).

The more you chase it the more it dodges you, no different to straight relationships sometimes when you least expect it it comes to you keep trying and dont give up hope mate.

I'd rather be married n fabulous

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Originally Posted by flounder

The more you chase it the more it dodges you, no different to straight relationships sometimes when you least expect it it comes to you keep trying and dont give up hope mate.

+ 1

I really only do long term relationships (i just dont get one nighters or just doing the buttsecks), but from my experience all my partners have ended up being cunts...or is it me? who knows...

Anyway, goodluck with coming out, take your time dont rush anything, you'll find heaps of loving support on here

when I first started going out if there was any sign they wanted committement I

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When I meet people, I try to be interested in making friends with them... I can't be interested in a relationship without having a friendship...

That being said, sometimes people will have a connection straight up and will probably end up in the sack together...
That's happened to me a few times in years gone by, and I've got some pretty awesome experiences out of it.

I do however understand, a lot of time, fella's are just out looking for a good time; and good on 'em!

Horses for courses I say...

Thanks for all your replies i appreciate it.

"fella's are just out looking for a good time; and good on 'em!". I agree Doolander, and this is fine if both guys want this and that is all. Although I think it's really sad that some guys put themselves on the table and totally get served and taken advantage of.

Surely that level of "interest" in a long term relationship is reliant on how much you like them and how much you click with them. No point urging yourself on to a long term relationship just for the sake of something have longevity - thats just crazy

But how can you value commitment to someone that you havent even met yet?

I dunno, it just sounds abit all-men-are-bastards, to me

explain?

Ooooh, that's two questions then.

Commitment to a relationship: Definitely.

Commitment for life: I sure hope so!

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Originally Posted by queer selection

Hey guys,

I am new to this forum and new to this scene. I am in the process of coming out which is taking much longer and is more difficult than i imagined.

I thought i would start a topic on something that has been on my mind a lot lately and that is commitment.

I want to know how much you value commitment? Please be honest . You will receive absolutely no judgement from me.

As a gay male are you interested in long term relationships?

From your experience with other men do you find that long term relationships is something they are interested in.

when you go on a date with a guy, is your main priority to get in his pants or are you thinking about the possibility of starting a relationship with him.

No i am not some weird PHD student doing a survey. I'm just a guy that is still exploring what he wants and doesn't know what to expect.

Thanks

2 answer ur questions. i've been with the same guy 4 a little over 18months. met him thru friends. it was only gonna b a shag at first i thought but after we got 2 know one another we found we had a lot in common. + he's a spunk, that helps. LOL.

I think of him as my best bud as well as my boyf. i know if 4 woteva reason we split up, he'd still b my best bud.we r strictly monogomous at pres but who nos that mite change, i dunno. u just take it 1 day at a time. u grow into a relationship thru trust, mutual respect, friendship and then luv. at least thats how i see it! sometimes peeps grow apart, sometimes together. there isnt any magic formula. it depends on the peeps involved i guess.

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Originally Posted by dougster

2 answer ur questions. i've been with the same guy 4 a little over 18months. met him thru friends. it was only gonna b a shag at first i thought but after we got 2 know one another we found we had a lot in common. + he's a spunk, that helps. LOL.

I think of him as my best bud as well as my boyf. i know if 4 woteva reason we split up, he'd still b my best bud.we r strictly monogomous at pres but who nos that mite change, i dunno. u just take it 1 day at a time. u grow into a relationship thru trust, mutual respect, friendship and then luv. at least thats how i see it! sometimes peeps grow apart, sometimes together. there isnt any magic formula. it depends on the peeps involved i guess.

Thankyou! I appreciate your honesty.

I would like a committed relationship, however I have been single for so long now I would have to change everything about myself in order for it to happen... :S

queer selectionez... ur over thinking it. bend over n enjoy the ride!

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Originally Posted by twoten85

I would like a committed relationship, however I have been single for so long now I would have to change everything about myself in order for it to happen... :S

Why do you think the amount of time you've been single would have any bearing on you being in a committed relationship?

I don't quite get the reasoning behind it?

^ Oh wow, that was too much even for me... :-\

Poetry...heavens to betsy.

In summing-up ... this and that...

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Originally Posted by queer selection

That would require removing my chastity belt, but first one must know where to find the key. I have hidden it well somewhere on my person, Close you may get and a tease i may be, but unless you know me well, you will not find the key.

You must have placed the key in your ass before you put on your chastity belt, even you can't find it now. Silly boy, didn't mum tell you not to put keys up there. Tsk tsk :/

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Originally Posted by Doolander

Why do you think the amount of time you've been single would have any bearing on you being in a committed relationship?

I don't quite get the reasoning behind it?

Ignore me, I was just in a mood the other night when I posted this.

I refuse to answer this question because in two years time someone somewhere is going to know what I have said even though I don't remember saying it.

We are coloured. We are memorists. We gave them such. Now we are dullard (cynical) typists.

The creativity... the who haa has been stolen and we watch channel ten religiously. I mean religiously.

An angel? Flouride.

Pity and no laughs.

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Originally Posted by Anthony Mahera

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Originally Posted by queer selection

That would require removing my chastity belt, but first one must know where to find the key. I have hidden it well somewhere on my person, Close you may get and a tease i may be, but unless you know me well, you will not find the key.

You must have placed the key in your ass before you put on your chastity belt, even you can't find it now. Silly boy, didn't mum tell you not to put keys up there. Tsk tsk :/

All I know is, one of you is lying/wrong. It would take quite a powerbottom with a talented hole to lock a chastity belt from the inside.

^ Fahed, you are SO logical!

Were there any eligible husbands at the rally yesterday?

Is a gay marriage rally a good place to pick up?

Or are all the people who go to those things just too angry at the world to be civil enough for me to want to be stuck in a house with one of them for the rest of my life?

Well if they want marriage equality, then surely they want to get married.