Hello, I'm new here. I am not going to comply with social protocol by adding myself to the welcome thread.

I'm in high school and I'm not totally sure yet about my sexuality.

Glad to meet anyone

Hey Clenster... welcome to samesame Brisbane

Were a pretty friendly bunch, so feel free to jump in and chat !!

In the end only you can be sure of your sexuality, but hopefully we can answer any questions you have !

cheers

Hey, thanks for replying.

I'm sure I'll like it here

The main problem is that it's very hard to be myself in the city. There's a lot of pressure to be 'normal' and it's hard. I don't think there are any gay girls at my school (at least who have come out).

yeah, school can be hard.

I was just figuring out who i was in mid highschool.

There will deff be other gay guys and girls at your school, but most likely have not come out. It was not until i left that i discovered that two girls i knew at school were lesbians.

I came out in year 12.. by accident.. told a friend and they told a friend.. by the end half the school knew. This was a while ago though and hopefully things are much better now.

There is stacks of info and stuff for you if you ever need it. Have you heard of Open Doors in brisbane? Its a great group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans teens.

There is also a big event coming up called Queeriosity which is an underage event.

Well I can tell you that there are definitely no gay guys at my school (unless you're including teachers, which there are one or two) because it's an all girls school. I think that makes it even harder :/

My parents and friends don't know anything about it either, because I am generally a VERY private person. So I would arouse suspicion by going to all those things.

I think it's more that I don't want to tell people because I'm so private than that I am scared or confused. I pretty much have myself figured out.

welcome clenster!
what hazy said: we're a friendly bunch, jump on in. and don't worry about it too much, and take time to work out where you're at and be true to yourself. I went to an all-girls highschool too, that was rough.

Hey FaerieGoddess
If you don't mind me asking (it'd be too bad if you did haha), did you come out during high school ? If you did, what was it like ?

Welcome Clenster!

Hazy ias correct in saying we are a friendly bunch and we will help you anyway we can. You are with good people.

Hey Clenster,

Check out http://www.opendoors.net.au/

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Well I can tell you that there are definitely no gay guys at my school (unless you're including teachers, which there are one or two) because it's an all girls school. I think that makes it even harder :/

My parents and friends don't know anything about it either, because I am generally a VERY private person. So I would arouse suspicion by going to all those things.

Hi Clenster!

I only came out to myself until I nearly a year after school - although I did know that I was attracted to guys...

I was also a very private person during high school (I still am very private but over the last 2 odd years I've really started to come out of my shell).
I distinctly remember one part of my logic for being withdrawn - Ok I am attracted to guys, so if I withdraw myself and be impassive, then no one will know. With hindsight I realise that was my sub-conscious "protecting" me by camouflage.

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I think it's more that I don't want to tell people because I'm so private than that I am scared or confused. I pretty much have myself figured out

I can really sympathise here. Even now I don't tell people my inner most fears and confusions because I hide them with my private life.

I think that you have got a headstart that you've figured yourself out. As the sentiment goes - one must accept oneself, before one accepts other's acceptance.

I recommend being true to yourself. You also have the advantage of the internet and this forum to help support you - at the very least intellectually and emotionally.

I'll use the metaphor of butterflies breaking out of their crysalis:
When the time is right your inner butterfly will come out (gay, straight or anything inbetween). In the mean time take little steps that you are comfortable with - and take as long as you need. Take the time the nurture and prepare your inner butterfly for life's grand journey.

I've probably rambled a bit But remember that your not alone and that people are around to help and support you.

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I'll use the metaphor of butterflies breaking out of their crysalis:

I came out of my chrysalis, but it was just another grub..

Hi Clenster, there a a few young peeps on here

Thrawn04, thanks for sharing more of yourself.

Clenster, welcome from one who is way past school age. I can confirm that all the comments about the Brisbane site being friendly are spot on.

Edward are you a festy old guy that hangs out at pervy places?

Hey everyone

Thanks for making me feel so welcome

I checked out that website you gave me Inch and I might go to the place sometime.

Thanks again !

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Hey FaerieGoddess
If you don't mind me asking (it'd be too bad if you did haha), did you come out during high school ? If you did, what was it like ?

I got together with my first GF at 14, but she was much older (17) and out of school already, and I was out amongst our (outside school) group of friends, but I was closeted within the school community.
There were only 2 girls in my school who were out, and they were both somehow the kind of kids who would either be mercilessly picked on, or just rise above everything (or at least appear to) and be super-cool. They did the latter, which I really admire, but at the time I wasn't ready to add another "weird" thing to my already poor reputation as the school weirdo. ahhh well.
I have full respect and admiration for anyone who can come out in high school.
*hugs* to you - school can be nasty, but it can also be a great place, and the cool thing about it is it doesn't last forever.

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Edward are you a festy old guy that hangs out at pervy places?

If only!!

Hi~! I'm a brisbane high schooler myself! nice to meet you~!

Hey Everyone! Hey i am Jack and i am a senior school student. This seems like a very interesting forum! I am quite confused ATM but I am generally curious night for now

When I was in high school in the 80s there was nobody out, but I've since reconnected with one of my friends and found that she is lesbian too! We both realised later in life, and agreed that knowing and being out at school would've been hard.

That's not really any kind of advice at all, but basically I wanted to say hi and welcome and you have friends here.

Oh sorry wrong place I guess, soz I am new and I am only on my iPod so it is harder to navigate the forum

The key is to write 'fuck it' in the steam on your mirror when you get out of the shower...