Well, would you?

No, Mr SC hasn't had an affair and isn't planning to either (so he says ) and no, I haven't had an affair either. Just wondering like ...

When I say affair, I mean one night stand, short affair, long affair, two night stand, or whatever.

everything would depent on the amount of remorse shown by the guilty party, and how much planning went into the act of "cheating". also if there is a hsitory of this with that person, then your just deleying tthe inevitible by forgiving them

I say once a cheater, always a cheater.

Not at this point in my life (35 yo and would rather be alone than in a not so good relationship). I will find it hard to forget, unfortunately. I'm less forgiving than I used to be with people who betray.

forgive yes - my thoughts are the relationship is a farce if a monogomously coupled partner wanders.... dont wanna be in a farce, better to move on....

wow monogamy is so popular.

Depends on the situation.
If it was a random hookup while out drinking then I could get over it (not saying it wouldn't f-ing hurt) .... if it was planned then there might be a bit of a murder scene going on.

I'm totally down with group sex though so we could cheat in front of each other I guess ...
who knows. If it ever happens i'll update you.

Mabe we could be pen pals from jail like Lightbearer was mentioning.

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Originally Posted by barabin

I'm totally down with group sex though so we could cheat in front of each other I guess ...

i'll just PM you my details

I'm a pretty monogamous and committed type of a guy when I'm in a relationship- so I guess I would expect the same type of thing in return.

I think if my partner had an affair, it would depend on the circumstances I guess- but I'd find it really hard to forgive, if deception and lies had played a really big part of it.

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i'll just PM you my details

Complete inappropriate


That turns me on LOL

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Originally Posted by barabin

Complete inappropriate


That turns me on LOL

i aim to please

I see no reason not to forgive a partner for having an affair.Not that I'll actively encourage it but in life 'shit happens'.If your relationship doesn't survive a sexual transgression then you have to ask yourself what was your relationship based on.
If however the person said they had fallen in love with another in anyway though I'd be upset at my loss and may not want to speak with them for a period of time I would not wish them ill as the relationship must have had cracks and for that we'd both be responsible.

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Originally Posted by poolboy jackson

Is your boyfriend Mr SC ?

No!!!! It's a fictitious person.

Everyone, don't listen to PBJ. I'm single!

NO WAY, I was with someone last year that cheated.
I gave her a second chance and she turned evil.

... if it happens RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!! Move on, there are better people out there!

Don't waste your time on dead weights!

Here's how I see it: Like what everyone else is basically saying, it would depend. But all together in the end I would forgive someone for something like that, eventually. But as soon as I find out that man cheated on me... its done, over between me and that person. Don't even try to tell me you were drunk or high on something... drunken words... are sober thoughts, alcohol is the liquid courage. Drunkenness is never an excuse. I'm going to say that if I'm with someone, I'm only with that person, I'm a committed person, and I will admit that I can get a little jealous... or maybe its protective the word I'm looking for. With my ex, we were at a friends party, and there was this flamer that was being flirty with my ex, barely touching him when he's talking, body completely facing my ex. So obviously this guy was going to try to make a move on my man. I'm sure that if he did make a move on him that my ex wouldn't do anything and decline, but all in the same I didn't care much for the guy. So when me and this guy were alone in the kitchen I said, "Please stop flirting with 'John' (Fake name)..." before I could even finish, the guy started to try to get in my face and was telling me not to tell him what to do. I pushed him back, hard enough to where his back was now against the wall, pointed my finger at him and gave him a mean look, "Back off of my boyfriend, or me and you are going to be going outside, even if I have to drag you out there my self." Lets just say the guy apologized and left the party. Anyway I totally went off on a rant. Um so I would be able to forgive the person eventually, but I'm not sure if I'd be as quick enough to trust that person as I did forgiving him. Now I've done threesomes before, to which isn't a good idea with a couple because it seem to turn out I seemed to only concentrate on one of them more than the other, so I stopped fooling around with couples. I'm staying away from sex, I've been a slut long enough to where its time for me to start dating again. But I would have to say that if I do get another boyfriend, it just going to be me and him in the bedroom, you both start venturing off to doing groups I would have to say that somewhere down that line somethings wrong with that relationship, and eventually that relationship will end, so what I have witness. If you need more then just your boyfriend or husband in bed... then maybe you two aren't right for each other. Carmen 2010... don't run from it, because that's what everyone will expect from you. Turn around and prove them wrong.

I think that if a person can cheat on their partner, whether it be one night, several, or a full on affair, it shows that there is something wrong in the relationship. If you love each other, you shouldn't feel the need to be satisfied elsewhere. Even if it's spur of the moment, or alcohol fueled (like vladmir said, alcohol actions are just sober thoughts with liquid courage), there is no way that you can go through the entire act without thinking about the fact that they aren't your partner.

Either way, it proves your relationship isn't what it should be, and you need to get out fast!

categorically No, been there done that bought the T-Shirt. I forgave him, where is he now?

exactly.

Some people do not have it within themselves to be monogamous for whatever reason and that's fine.

Different strokes for different folks.
Open relationships can work for some people and many find them to be a realistic option.
However. I have been in both open and monogamous relationships- and when you get it right- and it's about a choice and not obligation etc- monogamy can be great.

sure

Maybe...

If we had been together for a long time, I would try to work it out. Years/Decades of your life shouldn't necessarily be discarded just like that.