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manonwheels · 14th March 2011, 09:50 PM

at this point, over 1500 people have read my request for help but still no help on offer. To be honest, I'm a little surprised ... was it really silly of me to think that people would respond?

mark_ · 14th March 2011, 10:03 PM

Today I was googling around because I heard that Newson had invented a female pedestal urinal.

I couldn't find it but I saw an English company named Dominatrix, or something like it, which produced equipment for different physical sex-purposes which might be relevant. They aren't cheap.

manonwheels · 27th March 2011, 02:37 PM

unfortunately, I still haven't had any luck finding someone to help me out. In fact, I took the advice of several people on the forum and approached sex workers on the net. I was upfront and told them that I had a disability and did not get an answer. Actually, one did respond but then stood me up. this made me feel even worse about the whole situation. I'm finding myself falling into a black hole about this. I have so much chronic pain in my body as a result of my disability, and no one out there is willing to give me the sexual release that I so desperately need.
I'm really not sure what else I should do. Surely there is someone out there willing to assist??

manonwheels · 25th April 2011, 12:45 PM

still looking for help... if you can't message me on here contact me through boywheels@yahoo.com.au

mark_ · 25th April 2011, 12:48 PM

I can't believe all those Melbourne men who claim to be 'cool', adventurous, out-there or whatever haven't responded.

nickdisco · 25th April 2011, 01:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mark_

I can't believe all those Melbourne men who claim to be 'cool', adventurous, out-there or whatever haven't responded.

Well mark I have a spare 90 bucks if you wanna fly down and back. Its a short flight for a good deed.

Look unfortunately for most it is difficult to apply kindness & understanding to a random forum poster needing sex (what ever the circumstances).

Others have suggested trying support groups etc ... my thought is if it is purely about getting an able bodied hand.. why does it need to be a mans hand?

Sexuality aside, your request is for assistance completing a task not being a fantasy carer..

manonwheels · 25th April 2011, 09:46 PM

Thanks for taking the time Nick and Mark to respond to my post. I'm not entirely surprised by the lack of response. Having lived my entire life with a disability, rejection is not new to me. I've never had any physical affection from another human being other than family. As a society, we deal okay with mild disability but when someone is completely immobile and unable to do anything for themselves, we prefer to look away. As my disability has become more severe, I have noticed this more and more. Slowly I found my friends slip away, as I found it more difficult to do what needed to be done to spend time with them. It is difficult to maintain friendships or build new ones, when you can't jump in the car or train to visit people, or when you need a carer around 24/7. so these days most people around me are paid to be with me. Luckily these are great bunch of people who I enjoy being with and who not only attend to my physical care needs but also provide me with companionship.
The need that I don't have fulfilled is that of sexual contract and release, and that is why I posted here, thinking that it may be possible to meet some people here who are willing to help me with that. I understand and agree with what Nick said that most people would just see this as a random post and wouldn't give it much thought. I also know that people generally express their sexuality in mainly selfish ways and it isn't very likely that someone would perform a sexual act for someone out of kindness or generosity. But I decided to give it a go and have received some very thoughtful and considerate messages from people empathising with my situation, and I'm truly grateful for that.

ducknroll · 30th April 2011, 08:22 AM

It seems you're living in the wrong state.

Curious, are you gay?

hazyinseptember · 30th April 2011, 10:11 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mark_

I can't believe all those Melbourne men who claim to be 'cool', adventurous, out-there or whatever haven't responded.

Groan..

Brad_Woodford · 30th April 2011, 01:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bobbyandmimmi

Hey, just wondering how are you typing?

I note with interest that this question still hasnt been answered.

marky markywicz · 30th April 2011, 01:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brad_Woodford

I note with interest that this question still hasnt been answered.

# 36 30th January 2011, 03:02 PM
thanks Marc, I can't scrunch a tissue, and I have the same condition as your friend. For people who asked previously, I use voice-activated software which enables me to type. Looking forward to meeting those large hands!

Brad_Woodford · 30th April 2011, 01:56 PM

Ok thanks for that. Well, Im out anyway. Its not the disability that worries me or anything, its just that I dont generally wank people off who Im not dating or at the very least, attracted to in some way.

manonwheels · 1st May 2011, 01:02 PM

thanks for your post, which state would you recommend that I moved to?!

Brad_Woodford · 1st May 2011, 07:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by manonwheels

thanks for your post, which state would you recommend that I moved to?!

Its a long shot, but maybe Adelaide? They seem to be into more.....well...lets go with "more unorthodox" sexual practices. Could be worth a go maybe.

manonwheels · 11th May 2011, 09:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brad_Woodford

Its a long shot, but maybe Adelaide? They seem to be into more.....well...lets go with "more unorthodox" sexual practices. Could be worth a go maybe.

I don't really think that it is accurate to describe masturbation as an "unorthodox sexual practice"

mark_ · 11th May 2011, 10:39 PM

OK MoW, I will do you if you're in Sydney. I appreciate Nick's offer in post #66, but I would want a day or two down there to justify the effort of visiting.

manonwheels · 15th May 2011, 09:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mark_

OK MoW, I will do you if you're in Sydney. I appreciate Nick's offer in post #66, but I would want a day or two down there to justify the effort of visiting.

thanks Mark…

manonwheels · 29th May 2011, 01:23 PM

I thought I would update you guys on my quest to find someone who is willing to help me wank … I asked a friend whom I have known for a long time and felt I could trust to talk about this sort of thing. He said that he would think about it. That was a week ago... I was happy that he didn't brush it off completely and was open to the possibility. I will let you know how that goes and in the meantime, if there is anyone out there willing to help, it would be great to hear from you. Just e-mail boywheels@yahoo.com.au or message me on here.

manonwheels · 18th June 2011, 01:42 PM

A month later and another update...
in my last post, my friend had said he would think about the possibility of helping me to wank. A week later he messaged me telling me about a product that he would be willing to help me use, called a flesh Jack. My feeling at the time was that such a contraption wasn't necessary and I said that I would prefer the human touch. In hindsight this was a bad call and too much honesty on my part as I think that he interpreted this as me pushing the boundaries of our friendship and asking for something that he wasn't prepared to offer. His response was to say that he was not comfortable and that he did not want to help at all any more. I'm disappointed but of course, respect his decision. I'm disappointed more in myself that I didn't accept assistance with the fleshjack, I misjudged the situation and had to pay the consequences

marky markywicz · 18th June 2011, 05:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by manonwheels

A month later and another update...
in my last post, my friend had said he would think about the possibility of helping me to wank. A week later he messaged me telling me about a product that he would be willing to help me use, called a flesh Jack. My feeling at the time was that such a contraption wasn't necessary and I said that I would prefer the human touch. In hindsight this was a bad call and too much honesty on my part as I think that he interpreted this as me pushing the boundaries of our friendship and asking for something that he wasn't prepared to offer. His response was to say that he was not comfortable and that he did not want to help at all any more. I'm disappointed but of course, respect his decision. I'm disappointed more in myself that I didn't accept assistance with the fleshjack, I misjudged the situation and had to pay the consequences

Flesh jacks are actually remarkable.
I too am sorry you did not accept his initial offer.
I am also amazed more folks are not prepared to assit you.

ernesto_1 · 18th June 2011, 05:36 PM

mark why don't u lend him a hand?

marky markywicz · 18th June 2011, 05:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ernesto_1

mark why don't u lend him a hand?

I don't think my husband would be too pleased.

ernesto_1 · 18th June 2011, 06:47 PM

my wouldn't either that rules me out.

manonwheels · 21st June 2011, 09:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by marky markywicz

I don't think my husband would be too pleased.

how do you know that your boyfriend would mind?

Brad_Woodford · 27th June 2011, 06:30 PM

With all due respect, I think you will find for a number of people, myself included, your disability is a non issue. For me it's simply that I don't feel comfortable engaging in a sexual act with someone of whom I'm not attracted too.

dirkjently · 28th June 2011, 10:11 AM

If it was just a matter or grasping that was an issue, it might be worthwhile just buying a flesh jack and seeing if you can use it yourself, at the very least if you can't you might be able to convince your friend to use it on you as he originally suggested.

mark_ · 28th June 2011, 10:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brad_Woodford

…For me it's simply that I don't feel comfortable engaging in a sexual act with someone of whom I'm not attracted too.

but what about all those generations of milk-maids and farm servants who have to get up on chilly mornings to milk the beasts. They don't love their cow.

manonwheels · 3rd July 2011, 12:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mark_

but what about all those generations of milk-maids and farm servants who have to get up on chilly mornings to milk the beasts. They don't love their cow.

thanks Mark! You made me laugh out loud and very good point I reckon!

manonwheels · 24th July 2011, 01:52 PM

Thought I would provide another update another month on...
I have been chatting to someone who seemed very keen to help me. It all looked very promising and we arranged to meet last night but unfortunately he didn't show. I was disappointed to say the least. The search continues...

Brad_Woodford · 24th July 2011, 01:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by manonwheels

Thought I would provide another update another month on...
I have been chatting to someone who seemed very keen to help me. It all looked very promising and we arranged to meet last night but unfortunately he didn't show. I was disappointed to say the least. The search continues...

So in other words, he has spent the best part of the last month leading you on while he foolishly giggles on behind his computer, showing no regard for your feelings??

View Poll Results: if you had a physical disability and were unable to masturbate would you
ask a friend to assist	14	18.42%
visit a sex worker	24	31.58%
learn to live a life without sexual release	10	13.16%
post a callout on Same Same looking for volunteers to help you out	28	36.84%
Voters: 76. You may not vote on this poll

manonwheels +	14th March 2011, 09:50 PM #61 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	at this point, over 1500 people have read my request for help but still no help on offer. To be honest, I'm a little surprised ... was it really silly of me to think that people would respond?
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mark_ +	14th March 2011, 10:03 PM #62 _
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 1,444 Posts 7,089	Today I was googling around because I heard that Newson had invented a female pedestal urinal. I couldn't find it but I saw an English company named Dominatrix, or something like it, which produced equipment for different physical sex-purposes which might be relevant. They aren't cheap.
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manonwheels +	27th March 2011, 02:37 PM #63 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	unfortunately, I still haven't had any luck finding someone to help me out. In fact, I took the advice of several people on the forum and approached sex workers on the net. I was upfront and told them that I had a disability and did not get an answer. Actually, one did respond but then stood me up. this made me feel even worse about the whole situation. I'm finding myself falling into a black hole about this. I have so much chronic pain in my body as a result of my disability, and no one out there is willing to give me the sexual release that I so desperately need. I'm really not sure what else I should do. Surely there is someone out there willing to assist?? Last edited by manonwheels: 27th March 2011 at 09:06 PM
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manonwheels +	25th April 2011, 12:45 PM #64 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	still looking for help... if you can't message me on here contact me through boywheels@yahoo.com.au
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mark_ +	25th April 2011, 12:48 PM #65 _
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 1,444 Posts 7,089	I can't believe all those Melbourne men who claim to be 'cool', adventurous, out-there or whatever haven't responded.
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nickdisco +	25th April 2011, 01:08 PM #66 back down the rabbit hole
Joined Jan 2009 Times thanked 103 Posts 2,171	Quote: Originally Posted by mark_ I can't believe all those Melbourne men who claim to be 'cool', adventurous, out-there or whatever haven't responded. Well mark I have a spare 90 bucks if you wanna fly down and back. Its a short flight for a good deed. Look unfortunately for most it is difficult to apply kindness & understanding to a random forum poster needing sex (what ever the circumstances). Others have suggested trying support groups etc ... my thought is if it is purely about getting an able bodied hand.. why does it need to be a mans hand? Sexuality aside, your request is for assistance completing a task not being a fantasy carer.. Editor of The Den Magazine, a regional/coastal queer arts and culture mag. What a mouthful. denmag.com.au
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manonwheels +	25th April 2011, 09:46 PM #67 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	Thanks for taking the time Nick and Mark to respond to my post. I'm not entirely surprised by the lack of response. Having lived my entire life with a disability, rejection is not new to me. I've never had any physical affection from another human being other than family. As a society, we deal okay with mild disability but when someone is completely immobile and unable to do anything for themselves, we prefer to look away. As my disability has become more severe, I have noticed this more and more. Slowly I found my friends slip away, as I found it more difficult to do what needed to be done to spend time with them. It is difficult to maintain friendships or build new ones, when you can't jump in the car or train to visit people, or when you need a carer around 24/7. so these days most people around me are paid to be with me. Luckily these are great bunch of people who I enjoy being with and who not only attend to my physical care needs but also provide me with companionship. The need that I don't have fulfilled is that of sexual contract and release, and that is why I posted here, thinking that it may be possible to meet some people here who are willing to help me with that. I understand and agree with what Nick said that most people would just see this as a random post and wouldn't give it much thought. I also know that people generally express their sexuality in mainly selfish ways and it isn't very likely that someone would perform a sexual act for someone out of kindness or generosity. But I decided to give it a go and have received some very thoughtful and considerate messages from people empathising with my situation, and I'm truly grateful for that.
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ducknroll +	30th April 2011, 08:22 AM #68 Grace. Poise. Boags!!!!!!!!
Joined Mar 2010 Times thanked 39 Posts 1,384	It seems you're living in the wrong state. Curious, are you gay?
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hazyinseptember +	30th April 2011, 10:11 AM #69 quite frankly a threat to the safe and secure operation of society.
Joined Oct 2006 Times thanked 33 Posts 5,066	Quote: Originally Posted by mark_ I can't believe all those Melbourne men who claim to be 'cool', adventurous, out-there or whatever haven't responded. Groan.. . You are happiest when you make your own music in your own way --------------------------------------------------------------------------- My Cerulean Heart - Beautiful electronica - www(dot)myceruleanheart.com
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Brad_Woodford +	30th April 2011, 01:13 PM #70 relaxed.
Joined Apr 2011 Times thanked 113 Posts 341	Quote: Originally Posted by bobbyandmimmi Hey, just wondering how are you typing? I note with interest that this question still hasnt been answered.
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marky markywicz +	30th April 2011, 01:41 PM #71 3 x pair of authentic Calvin Klein briefs $24! sizes S and M available
Joined Jul 2009 Times thanked 34 Posts 3,513	Quote: Originally Posted by Brad_Woodford I note with interest that this question still hasnt been answered. # 36 30th January 2011, 03:02 PM thanks Marc, I can't scrunch a tissue, and I have the same condition as your friend. For people who asked previously, I use voice-activated software which enables me to type. Looking forward to meeting those large hands! AUTHENTIC Bvlgari perfumes 50% - 60% off retail CK underwear aussieBum swimwear * See SS classifieds for online store links
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Brad_Woodford +	30th April 2011, 01:56 PM #72 relaxed.
Joined Apr 2011 Times thanked 113 Posts 341	Ok thanks for that. Well, Im out anyway. Its not the disability that worries me or anything, its just that I dont generally wank people off who Im not dating or at the very least, attracted to in some way.
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manonwheels +	1st May 2011, 01:02 PM #73 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	thanks for your post, which state would you recommend that I moved to?!
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Brad_Woodford +	1st May 2011, 07:51 PM #74 relaxed.
Joined Apr 2011 Times thanked 113 Posts 341	Quote: Originally Posted by manonwheels thanks for your post, which state would you recommend that I moved to?! Its a long shot, but maybe Adelaide? They seem to be into more.....well...lets go with "more unorthodox" sexual practices. Could be worth a go maybe.
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manonwheels +	11th May 2011, 09:57 PM #75 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	Quote: Originally Posted by Brad_Woodford Its a long shot, but maybe Adelaide? They seem to be into more.....well...lets go with "more unorthodox" sexual practices. Could be worth a go maybe. I don't really think that it is accurate to describe masturbation as an "unorthodox sexual practice"
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mark_ +	11th May 2011, 10:39 PM #76 _
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 1,444 Posts 7,089	OK MoW, I will do you if you're in Sydney. I appreciate Nick's offer in post #66, but I would want a day or two down there to justify the effort of visiting.
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manonwheels +	15th May 2011, 09:51 PM #77 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	Quote: Originally Posted by mark_ OK MoW, I will do you if you're in Sydney. I appreciate Nick's offer in post #66, but I would want a day or two down there to justify the effort of visiting. thanks Mark…
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manonwheels +	29th May 2011, 01:23 PM #78 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	I thought I would update you guys on my quest to find someone who is willing to help me wank … I asked a friend whom I have known for a long time and felt I could trust to talk about this sort of thing. He said that he would think about it. That was a week ago... I was happy that he didn't brush it off completely and was open to the possibility. I will let you know how that goes and in the meantime, if there is anyone out there willing to help, it would be great to hear from you. Just e-mail boywheels@yahoo.com.au or message me on here.
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manonwheels +	18th June 2011, 01:42 PM #79 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	A month later and another update... in my last post, my friend had said he would think about the possibility of helping me to wank. A week later he messaged me telling me about a product that he would be willing to help me use, called a flesh Jack. My feeling at the time was that such a contraption wasn't necessary and I said that I would prefer the human touch. In hindsight this was a bad call and too much honesty on my part as I think that he interpreted this as me pushing the boundaries of our friendship and asking for something that he wasn't prepared to offer. His response was to say that he was not comfortable and that he did not want to help at all any more. I'm disappointed but of course, respect his decision. I'm disappointed more in myself that I didn't accept assistance with the fleshjack, I misjudged the situation and had to pay the consequences Last edited by manonwheels: 18th June 2011 at 01:43 PM Reason: typo
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marky markywicz +	18th June 2011, 05:09 PM #80 3 x pair of authentic Calvin Klein briefs $24! sizes S and M available
Joined Jul 2009 Times thanked 34 Posts 3,513	Quote: Originally Posted by manonwheels A month later and another update... in my last post, my friend had said he would think about the possibility of helping me to wank. A week later he messaged me telling me about a product that he would be willing to help me use, called a flesh Jack. My feeling at the time was that such a contraption wasn't necessary and I said that I would prefer the human touch. In hindsight this was a bad call and too much honesty on my part as I think that he interpreted this as me pushing the boundaries of our friendship and asking for something that he wasn't prepared to offer. His response was to say that he was not comfortable and that he did not want to help at all any more. I'm disappointed but of course, respect his decision. I'm disappointed more in myself that I didn't accept assistance with the fleshjack, I misjudged the situation and had to pay the consequences Flesh jacks are actually remarkable. I too am sorry you did not accept his initial offer. I am also amazed more folks are not prepared to assit you. AUTHENTIC Bvlgari perfumes 50% - 60% off retail CK underwear aussieBum swimwear * See SS classifieds for online store links
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ernesto_1 +	18th June 2011, 05:36 PM #81 single
Joined Apr 2010 Times thanked 699 Posts 9,880	mark why don't u lend him a hand? wont tell anybody... wont tell anybody....
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marky markywicz +	18th June 2011, 05:52 PM #82 3 x pair of authentic Calvin Klein briefs $24! sizes S and M available
Joined Jul 2009 Times thanked 34 Posts 3,513	Quote: Originally Posted by ernesto_1 mark why don't u lend him a hand? I don't think my husband would be too pleased. AUTHENTIC Bvlgari perfumes 50% - 60% off retail CK underwear aussieBum swimwear * See SS classifieds for online store links
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ernesto_1 +	18th June 2011, 06:47 PM #83 single
Joined Apr 2010 Times thanked 699 Posts 9,880	my wouldn't either that rules me out. wont tell anybody... wont tell anybody....
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manonwheels +	21st June 2011, 09:21 PM #84 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	Quote: Originally Posted by marky markywicz I don't think my husband would be too pleased. how do you know that your boyfriend would mind?
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Brad_Woodford +	27th June 2011, 06:30 PM #85 relaxed.
Joined Apr 2011 Times thanked 113 Posts 341	With all due respect, I think you will find for a number of people, myself included, your disability is a non issue. For me it's simply that I don't feel comfortable engaging in a sexual act with someone of whom I'm not attracted too.
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dirkjently +	28th June 2011, 10:11 AM #86 intentionally left blank
Joined Jan 2008 Times thanked 4 Posts 17	If it was just a matter or grasping that was an issue, it might be worthwhile just buying a flesh jack and seeing if you can use it yourself, at the very least if you can't you might be able to convince your friend to use it on you as he originally suggested.
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mark_ +	28th June 2011, 10:16 AM #87 _
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 1,444 Posts 7,089	Quote: Originally Posted by Brad_Woodford …For me it's simply that I don't feel comfortable engaging in a sexual act with someone of whom I'm not attracted too. but what about all those generations of milk-maids and farm servants who have to get up on chilly mornings to milk the beasts. They don't love their cow.
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manonwheels +	3rd July 2011, 12:51 PM #88 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	Quote: Originally Posted by mark_ but what about all those generations of milk-maids and farm servants who have to get up on chilly mornings to milk the beasts. They don't love their cow. thanks Mark! You made me laugh out loud and very good point I reckon!
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manonwheels +	24th July 2011, 01:52 PM #89 seeking new carers, no experince necessary
Joined Dec 2010 Times thanked 3 Posts 84	Thought I would provide another update another month on... I have been chatting to someone who seemed very keen to help me. It all looked very promising and we arranged to meet last night but unfortunately he didn't show. I was disappointed to say the least. The search continues...
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Brad_Woodford +	24th July 2011, 01:56 PM #90 relaxed.
Joined Apr 2011 Times thanked 113 Posts 341	Quote: Originally Posted by manonwheels Thought I would provide another update another month on... I have been chatting to someone who seemed very keen to help me. It all looked very promising and we arranged to meet last night but unfortunately he didn't show. I was disappointed to say the least. The search continues... So in other words, he has spent the best part of the last month leading you on while he foolishly giggles on behind his computer, showing no regard for your feelings??
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