I know we all like to get our rocks off... but...

My flatmate and I were having a conversation last night about sex addiction and whether we think it actually exists. People like Russell Brand and David Duchovny have it because they have disposable lifestyles and idle hands... but really, it should not be that 'hard' to keep it in your pants.

At least, I wouldn't think so... if you don't have sex, you just masterbate! I dunno, what say you?

hi cain welcome back

yes it does exist.
i suffered it all of last yr. i was out of control and generally being a big skank.

but i dont do that now. ive found pokemon.

I'll go with it does exist.

Personally I do find I must have it on the weekends and generally do Sat/Sun but during the week not so big a deal. Although some of my "buds" do want to come
over during the week so some weeks can be 2-3 per week minimum.

I dont watch porn nor buy it or masturbate to it. Dont do cam to cam either as to me its all boring . I prefer the body to body action. Maybe if I lived in the country it would be a different story but in Sydney sex is way easy to get so long as your not that fussy or looking for Mr Perfect etc. Mr Right at that moment will do me. Looks
unimportant but only stipulation is in good shape with a nice cock.

I do feel edgy some days when its not happening but is that addiction ? or just me
wanting to get off ? fine line.

no i used to go to the sauna even if i wasn't horny so i'd make excuses just to go like the weather is cold or im stressed n need to use the dry sauna or wotever. it was an addiction that i wasn't proud of and it ate away at me n i was spiralling spiralling into oblivion n that was wot happened.

but these days i have one fuck buddy that i can go to get a hug and a root and it just makes everything so much better. i no longer feel like im a big skank and it is much more fulfulling than randoms.

i no longer go for random roots and im reformed. i should go on the tyra banks show

Sex addiction exists. Its when ones sexual appetites stuff up one's life. EG ruin a career , a marriage, end up in court.... . Its like anything do it in moderation.

It's partially primal and partially habitual. A male will think about sex at least several times in a day, even if they wouldn't act on it. But like any other addiction, once a habit is formed, it's hard to break.

u can break it like i have. im a success story!

till next time dear.

there wont be a next time. im playing with myself now

cane has such mawdil good looks . he looks like robert pattison from that angle. n he bats for our side. yay!

Are you on Cam?

no

Masterbation is a form of sex and could be classes as an addiction too.

there was an ep where samantha played with herself all arvo n she was glowing!

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Originally Posted by ernesto_1

cane has such mawdil good looks . he looks like robert pattison from that angle. n he bats for our side. yay!

if only i had his hair... mine is fake! part of my mask to cover my sex addiction.

fake it till u make it.

Oh Ernest, you know all the moves. Bless

I think sex addiction certainly exists. People can get 'addicted' to all sorts of things in all sorts of ways, and there will be those for whom the pursuit of sex wrecks havoc with other important things in their lives.

This topic is contentious though, as gay people have, decades ago, been branded 'sex addicts' and made to go into therapy etc. So the idea of 'sex addiction' is still a fraught one for those who lived through those sorts of things. xx

Are gay people, men in particular, only branded sex addicts because we have it on tap?

What I mean is, because we're hornier than women we can have sex for sex and not always have to have any emotional support to accompany it?

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Are gay people, men in particular, only branded sex addicts because we have it on tap?

What I mean is, because we're hornier than women we can have sex for sex and not always have to have any emotional support to accompany it?

Yeah I reckon its sour grapes from straight guys.

They say we are over sexed but I reckon its males period who are over sexed.

Straight guys just get envious cause their wives get headaches

Males are generally more sexually driven especially in youth, but it does occur in females too. If you look at the sex industry, I think you would find more female sex workers than male or transgender sex workers, of which most would have a bigger male client base. Then there are saunas and beats for gay and bi men. It seems to be more available for gay and bi men, but it's not always the case.

I thought that Bis were the sex addicts? I have an addictive nature, everything from alcohol to fitness seem to become obsessive, including sex at different times of my life have been way out of control. Its always simmering away, my little demon.

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Originally Posted by badamj2000

Sex addiction exists. Its when ones sexual appetites stuff up one's life. EG ruin a career , a marriage, end up in court.... . Its like anything do it in moderation.

like posting?

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Originally Posted by flounder

I thought that Bis were the sex addicts?

lol really - you don't think this is kinda a stereotype?

I'm a switch hitter Im allowed to take the piss out of myself

oh OK got it, switch hitter - I've never heard that term before
thankfully Urban Dictionary has this example sentence:

"I never figured little Jimmy to be a switch hitter until the rumor got around that he parked his beef bus in Old Man Whithers's asshole."

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Celebrities Sex Addicts - YouTube

Of course it exists. Its an addiction like any addiction. If you do something so much that it effects your life and health in a negative way and still you cannot stop then you are an addict. Plenty of people out there cannot control their urges , sexual or otherwise. Think about the types of gay men that get on crystal and spend days at a time at saunas having unprotected sex with multiple sex partners.

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no i used to go to the sauna even if i wasn't horny so i'd make excuses just to go like the weather is cold or im stressed n need to use the dry sauna or wotever. it was an addiction that i wasn't proud of and it ate away at me n i was spiralling spiralling into oblivion n that was wot happened.

but these days i have one fuck buddy that i can go to get a hug and a root and it just makes everything so much better. i no longer feel like im a big skank and it is much more fulfulling than randoms.

i no longer go for random roots and im reformed. i should go on the tyra banks show

I was the same Eugene and Cain9ine if you go to any sauna you'll be guaranteed to see the same guys there over and over!

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I think sex addiction certainly exists. People can get 'addicted' to all sorts of things in all sorts of ways, and there will be those for whom the pursuit of sex wrecks havoc with other important things in their lives.

This topic is contentious though, as gay people have, decades ago, been branded 'sex addicts' and made to go into therapy etc. So the idea of 'sex addiction' is still a fraught one for those who lived through those sorts of things. xx

That's a very good point Matt. I know from experience when you bring up the issue of promiscurity and open relationships with a lot of gay men they become very defensive.