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how come the girls don't talk about sex? (much) the boys are n ever off the subject!

is it cause we are creatures of romance, of hearts and fluffy bunnies?
is it cause we are shy?
classy?
lazy?
monogamously attached and boring?


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Personally I'd love to spend more time talking about sex, given I think about it so much!

I think part of it is that as women we're conditioned to not talk about it. This why I like spending time with my boys, I can speak more openly about it
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Lol glad someone thinks like me Madam!
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I talk about sex all the time
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I do however always blush when I talk/think about sex, I have no control over it, it's hilarious!
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Okay. Who does one night stands? If gay beats were for women, would you go? If saunas were for women, same question?

Is it okay to fuck your friends?

And for the lesbians: how horny and/or desperate do you need to be before you start considering a man? Or is that always a no go zone?
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I have sex on the brain at the moment.
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I have sex on the brain at the moment.

Really? Never would have guessed

Yes, I have had one night stands. But I do much prefer a connection of sorts. I've investigated fetish clubs in past to get a little, I guess in essence that is no different to going to a sauna etc.

I have no desire for the penis. Men just don't do it for me. I didn't have sex for 5 years because I didn't want to sleep with men but didn't want to accept being a lesbian. My hand will do me just fine before I'd go back to a man.

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Ok to fuck your friends... I have to come down on the yes side of this.
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pretty much just seconding what MM said. Though I much prefer a deeper connection with someone I really love, sometimes it's good just to go for it.
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Sex.. oh my gosh *blushes and giggles*

If there were gay beats or saunas for women, I don't think I would go.. I'm not sure that I'm that type of person. But I hold no judgement to anyone that is.

It's okay to fuck your friends under certain circumstances, and only if it won't damage the friendship and make things weird, if you can handle it, go for it.

Never been with a man. Never thought of being with a man, won't consider it. Don't want to. *goes back to being 7 - EWWWWW*
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how come the girls don't talk about sex? (much) the boys are n ever off the subject!

is it cause we are creatures of romance, of hearts and fluffy bunnies?
is it cause we are shy?
classy?
lazy?
monogamously attached and boring?


inquiring minds want to know.

I'll take option A Eddie. I think the way we talk about sex is more casual flirting and generalized whilst the boys go into graphic detail. If you count the "flirting" and innuendoes we probably talk about it just has much.

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Okay. Who does one night stands? If gay beats were for women, would you go? If saunas were for women, same question?

Is it okay to fuck your friends?

And for the lesbians: how horny and/or desperate do you need to be before you start considering a man? Or is that always a no go zone?

One night stands yes. I would check out a gay beat. No to saunas I would feel dirty in a germ way not a shame way. It's ok to fuck friends but generally they don't remain your friend. I never ruled out men, and have had very convenient arrangements with some.
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Im fine with talking about sex, i think it's option E that we don't have more threads about it.

One night stands - yes
Beats - I'd probably go & try
Saunas - I went to the women's night in Melbourne, wasn't what I expected.. So no
Fucking friends - no, not if I want to remain friends.
Men - I'm just not attracted to them.
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how come the girls don't talk about sex? (much) the boys are n ever off the subject!

is it cause we are creatures of romance, of hearts and fluffy bunnies?
is it cause we are shy?
classy?
lazy?
monogamously attached and boring?


inquiring minds want to know.

Hmm, I talk about sex all the time. I have a very high sex drive. It's always on my mind. I'm not shy about it. And I can not count on one hand how many times I've been told that I am sexually intimidating. Though, I don't see it. *shrug*

I wish women were more open about sex. I remember when I first came out it was all very 'smoke and mirrors'. Which really put me on edge. So now, I make an effort to talk about the dirty as much as possible. Don't really care if I make anyone uncomfortable.

People need to talk about it for the the stigma and the 'omg, i'm like young and scared and immature and can't possible talk about how wet I get when someone licks my neck' factor to go away. I didn't come out of the closet, I dragged everyone into mine and it's full of skeletons. :P

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Okay. Who does one night stands? If gay beats were for women, would you go? If saunas were for women, same question?

Is it okay to fuck your friends?

And for the lesbians: how horny and/or desperate do you need to be before you start considering a man? Or is that always a no go zone?

One night stands are fun, I've had a lot of them, every experience is different and that's what I'm there for, the experience. Doesn't matter if you suck at it or rock at it. I appreciate the experience for what it is and happily move on.

I have had, in the past, a rough time because there are not many women out there that are just looking for fun. It can be hard to draw lines with women and I have had to tell quite a few that I'm not interested in anything more. It's never a fun situation. Women are just not built for casual sex, except me and a few close friends of mine who can relate.

If there were gay beats I would likely attend, though at present would not participate. Same with saunas.
I have fucked my friends, I would again. A friend in need. As I said, I'm after the experience. Only once has this turned pear shaped. I'm more aware of what I'm putting out there during these experiences now. Before I just laid myself bare to partners, now I'm harder to penetrate... Pardon the pun. :P

I will not ever go back to men. All experiences I have had with women completely eclipse all experiences I've had with men.

I'm in a sharing mood today. Sorry.
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Gay beats/saunas. I think I'd go for them, or at least give them a go. As you get older and your body goes to shit, and you live so far from anyone else, it can be difficult to score. Would sure beat masturbation.

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I went to the women's night in Melbourne, wasn't what I expected..

Please tell us more. Are you referring to the nights that were advertised on here - the women's parties, starting off poolside?
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you know what's even better than talking about sex is getting of the damn computer and actually having sex
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We're all quite capable of doing that Faerie, but when that's not an option, talking about it is better than thinking about it, imo.
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It was in the days before ss. I think 2003- ish. They were held once a month at Wet on Wellington, poolside, saunas, porn room and all
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So what did you expect? And what did they deliver?
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you know what's even better than talking about sex is getting of the damn computer and actually having sex

Need I remind you faerie, not all of us have this luxury!
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So what did you expect? And what did they deliver?

To be honest, I think I expected more people to be having sex! There was only a few women that I experienced (saw, knew of) doing so in the 3-4 times I went. Most sat near the pool in their underwear,(no clothes allowed) towels waist bound, drinking beer and socialising like any other bar.

The few that dared to venture into the plywood walled rooms were much more what I expected.
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you know what's even better than talking about sex is getting of the damn computer and actually having sex

would be if i could be!


I think I'd go to a beat, probably not a sauna, for the same reason as chimpy.

one night stands- have done. if I could do it sober, then I'd recommend it.
Although the last time it was supposed to be just one night it turned into an 'everytime you come up here' kinda of arrangement. And we are facebook friends and have chats about random shit......

(OMG how did I not realise this before)

I have a fuckbuddy! He lives 4 hours from me, so he is not very useful, and also he is not a woman (lol), but I have one!
I feel like I have attained some kind of milestone.
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I'm with you, Dash. You have to wonder what they were doing there, then. ie; why they were there.
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If this thread was a "boys" discussion it would included comments about blowing on twinks faces, sex pigs at saunas and harnesses, and that would probably be the tame shit.
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I'm with you, Dash. You have to wonder what they were doing there, then. ie; why they were there.

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If this thread was a "boys" discussion it would included comments about blowing on twinks faces, sex pigs at saunas and harnesses, and that would probably be the tame shit.

hmm well I dont know what to say that can measure up.
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I would talk about it more if I was sure that who I was tallking with wouldn't be annoyingly immature and close-minded. Plus, I'm a little shy :P
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Well I've never really been one to shy away from the sex topic, it's hard to shy away from it in my family. We all talk about it way too much (I know far too many details of my mum's sex life) so Megawatts, do tell!
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Naaw, don't be shy
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