What does your partner do to make you feel loved?
What special things do you do for someone you love and care about?
Should couples be in touch at least once a day?
What decisions are typically made together?(bit broad)
What do you do to pamper your partner or lover?
How do they pamper you?
What are special days you celebrate together?
When does your partner annoy you?
What do you wish your partner did less of?
What do you wish your partner did more of?
what is the most recent most thoughtful or sweet thing your partner or lover did for YOU?
What is your partner's strength?

She does the things i despise most... cooking or lawns
I like doing spontaneous surprise stuff... notes treats secretive getaways etc
Yes! more than once a day.txt call email whatever
If it affects our relationship home life joint finances or kids we decide together.
We go to hairdressers or get massages together every few months thats more than enough pampering.lol
Anniversary 28 Dec and Birthdays
In the morning she can be shitty which annoys me
I wish she stopped smoking or smoked less
Id love more nights out just us two
Most recent sweet thing done for me.. she took day off work to take my daughter doctors.. she knew me getting time off would be difficult
Her strength is she just does... optimistic when im not doesnt think as much as i do... shes just does.

I have the most amazing friend. Its a connection that is unexplainable. Its floored me.
For me..simply the "knowing"
Just the deep look and then the smile cos we just know.
Its the knowing when I needed them. Really needed them. Not sexually, but emotionally and proving "I'll be there".
I lost a very special person this week to me (as you know) and without me saying a word...they are "there". Its unbelievable.

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Originally Posted by Mac31

I have the most amazing friend. Its a connection that is unexplainable. Its floored me.
For me..simply the "knowing"
Just the deep look and then the smile cos we just know.
Its the knowing when I needed them. Really needed them. Not sexually, but emotionally and proving "I'll be there".
I lost a very special person this week to me (as you know) and without me saying a word...they are "there". Its unbelievable.

Your special person is in a special place.
The unexplainable Connection...you can't force it....it just happens... I hear you...

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

She does the things i despise most... cooking or lawns
I like doing spontaneous surprise stuff... notes treats secretive getaways etc
Yes! more than once a day.txt call email whatever
If it affects our relationship home life joint finances or kids we decide together.
We go to hairdressers or get massages together every few months thats more than enough pampering.lol
Anniversary 28 Dec and Birthdays
In the morning she can be shitty which annoys me
I wish she stopped smoking or smoked less
Id love more nights out just us two
Most recent sweet thing done for me.. she took day off work to take my daughter doctors.. she knew me getting time off would be difficult
Her strength is she just does... optimistic when im not doesnt think as much as i do... shes just does.

I so needed to read this
Thank you for sharing what a beautiful relationship you have
You both sound so accepting of your differences....are probably very different people.... Yet so in sync

28th dec hey? Nice
Sounds like you two really pamper each other.

I don't understand people who get shitty in the mornings....
Can't see why one would wake up and not jump at the chance to greet ans smile ans hug their partner and feel excited...
But yes I do hear of shitty morning people...
I see my girl this weekend....and I have to control my urges to smile sometimes so I don't look like an idiot all the time....just really cherish the few hours I get with her here and there...
In the mornings I often wake up before her because I don't want to loose more time and just look forward to eye contact... It's a strange thing I have.... I feel that eye contact tells you how much someone is willing to love you...

Had a big confrontation with mother this evening that felt like it lasted two hours. It sent me spiraling down into a heap feeling like a complete failure...and I also upset my girl yesterday and today. Am just a walking disaster to people's lives. Do you ever feel so down and no one is there to listen and hug you and you just feel completely hopeless. Man I dislike that "wishing I wasn't born" feeling.

Than I read yours and macs post and thought.... Hangon .... Look at all the special things one can look forward to out there...
The connections, love....etc...than I had hope again

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Originally Posted by Baby Baby

Your special person is in a special place.
The unexplainable Connection...you can't force it....it just happens... I hear you...

Yes Baby they are in a very very special place.
Yes that unexplained connection is wonderful. I have learnt to step back and accept it. I unconditionally know they are there and I am in their heart as they know its the same with me and that in itself is all we need...ahhh see...its the knowing. I am blessed to have the knowing : SMILE Always see the bigger picture.
Thank you for your thoughts.

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Originally Posted by Mac31

Yes Baby they are in a very very special place.
Yes that unexplained connection is wonderful. I have learnt to step back and accept it. I unconditionally know they are there and I am in their heart as they know its the same with me and that in itself is all we need...ahhh see...its the knowing. I am blessed to have the knowing : SMILE Always see the bigger picture.
Thank you for your thoughts.

Yeah I am determined to focus on the bigger picture

Thanks for the reminder

Naww you girls make me want to cry... its so nice to hear you talk about your bond with someone so close to your heart mac. And BB you often remind me whats important in life so thank u for sharing. Im glad your feeling better... you have lots to look forward to... enjoy every mom
Is funny u mentioned the eye thing... i do that... always have.... I believe u can tell if someones giving u their all... the truth if u just look them in the eyes. its amazing how after a few minutes u see someones vulnerabilities.
Anyhu sending you both caring and sharing hugs.

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

Naww you girls make me want to cry... its so nice to hear you talk about your bond with someone so close to your heart mac. And BB you often remind me whats important in life so thank u for sharing. Im glad your feeling better... you have lots to look forward to... enjoy every mom
Is funny u mentioned the eye thing... i do that... always have.... I believe u can tell if someones giving u their all... the truth if u just look them in the eyes. its amazing how after a few minutes u see someones vulnerabilities.
Anyhu sending you both caring and sharing hugs.

Thank you ....and may you look deep into your girlfriends eyes tonight as you fall asleep

GF and my Dad having a beer and watching League together.. league is so not my thing... not that im all girly girl - give me speedway or V8's anyday - but sports on TV - is not for me... so this is beautiful for two reasons
1. love both of these people with all my heart and that they genuinely get along so well is just the best
2. I dont have to sit through it hahaha

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

GF and my Dad having a beer and watching League together.. league is so not my thing... not that im all girly girl - give me speedway or V8's anyday - but sports on TV - is not for me... so this is beautiful for two reasons
1. love both of these people with all my heart and that they genuinely get along so well is just the best
2. I dont have to sit through it hahaha

That is such a perrrrrfect scenario

Share more romantic stuff undawanda

im racking my brain BB.. and my laptop lol.

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

im racking my brain BB.. and my laptop lol.

Haha
Well what happened last valentines day an this valentines day?

I dont normally write on these things, but this caught my attention, so I will respond.. We have been together almost 5 years and she is the reason that makes it all worthwhile
What does your partner do to make you feel loved? Opens her eyes each morning and says I love you
What special things do you do for someone you love and care about? Im such a romantic.. too many to list
Should couples be in touch at least once a day? We text/call each other all the time to send cutesy msg's when we are work
What decisions are typically made together?(bit broad) all
What do you do to pamper your partner or lover? cook,clean and anything else
How do they pamper you? Do the lawns, come shopping with me
What are special days you celebrate together? anniversay 27 November, birthdays
When does your partner annoy you? doesnt happen often so i cant recall anything at the moment
What do you wish your partner did less of? be nice
What do you wish your partner did more of? nothing really
what is the most recent most thoughtful or sweet thing your partner or lover did for YOU? Bought my engagement ring!!
What is your partner's strength? Her ability to look at the world and see beauty and good in everything

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Originally Posted by Queenie77

I dont normally write on these things, but this caught my attention, so I will respond.. We have been together almost 5 years and she is the reason that makes it all worthwhile
What does your partner do to make you feel loved? Opens her eyes each morning and says I love you
What special things do you do for someone you love and care about? Im such a romantic.. too many to list
Should couples be in touch at least once a day? We text/call each other all the time to send cutesy msg's when we are work
What decisions are typically made together?(bit broad) all
What do you do to pamper your partner or lover? cook,clean and anything else
How do they pamper you? Do the lawns, come shopping with me
What are special days you celebrate together? anniversay 27 November, birthdays
When does your partner annoy you? doesnt happen often so i cant recall anything at the moment
What do you wish your partner did less of? be nice
What do you wish your partner did more of? nothing really
what is the most recent most thoughtful or sweet thing your partner or lover did for YOU? Bought my engagement ring!!
What is your partner's strength? Her ability to look at the world and see beauty and good in everything

oh my undawandawoman has to see this.... there is another romantic like us out there!!!

thank you soooo much for adding to this thread

Hi BB, Queenie .... fellow romantics lol ....
I had a dream last night and it reminded me of a long weekend away GF and I had. It wasn’t Valentines or anything ( still racking my brain BB - is it bad that I don’t remember what we did the past V Days?? ) just a normal weekend.

I had heard of this place through a friend - its the ultimate as far as seclusion and natural beauty - only 3 or 4 rooms, located deep in a Valley - no mobile or internet reception, outdoor spa and outdoor bath house set high amongst the bush looking down in the valley. Swing bridge and bush walks, home grown produce it was just beautiful.

I had organised sitters and told her only what to pack. I had a ride into the city organised and we boarded the boat in Auckland for the 2 hour ferry.
It was beautiful Friday night, in each others arms we watched the sun go down ... the photos I took of her on the balcony of that boat with the sky orange and pink still to this day takes my breath away.

Friday night we make love, sleep, make love. We awake in the morning to birds & sun. Breakfast is brought to our door. Fresh fruit, cereals, manuka honey, homemade yoghurt. We feast in bed like Queens. We have the bathouse booked for a morning soak. There is 3 walls in the bathouse - the last wall is removed - its open scenery. You sit in this double spa bath and its like looking at a beautiful landscape picture ... except its real life. We light candles and play soft music and just lay in the tub together not speaking. I feell like the luckiest girl alive. To share something so simple but so beautiful with the one I love - its surreal.

Afterwards we go exploring, stopping to kiss or look around to really take it in. We find a river and sit and watch the water skim over the stones. We hold each other and talk. Water has always been a healer for me. When im upset or angry I go to the nearest beach, river, lake and just get it all out - its like the current carries all my burdens away. Now when I think of water I think of her, she runs through my heart and veins freely, I can't live without the essence of her anymore than I can't live without water.

Later that afternoon we decide to join civilisation - only for an hour and borrow the owner’s jeep. We have a late lunch and walk hand in hand through the small town. We go back and make love, sleep, make love, sleep.

Before we know it, is late and we head to the veranda for a pre-arranged homemade candle lit dinner and dessert. Food’s divine - we are surrounded by candles and the stars twinkle above us. She looks so beautiful in the glow. I sit across and think to myself the next time we come back here (and we will!) I want to ask her to marry me. I can't think of any other place I would rather us to be.

We go back to our cabin listen to music together and relax for a good hour. I find out from the owners that we are now the only guests here so I book the outdoor spa for 10pm. We are going au naturel tonight my darling, I grab the wine and we wander outside with just bathrobes on. The water is hot and steamy, secluded by bush we spend a good hour with the jets on full, drinking wine and getting tipsy.
That night we hold each other tight, neither one of us want to leave … to be by ourselves and surrounded by the beauty of nature – it feels like being born again. Everything feels so fresh and new. We return home feeling connected to each other but perhaps even more importantly, connected to ourselves.

My partner is the first person to give me the feeling of being loved just the way I am. Warts and all.
Had never experienced anything like that, having had parents that were impossible to please and were judging me constantly.

Now I am with someone who thinks my less attractive traits are funny and a non-issue!!
It took me a while to accept that it was possible to be loved for who you are.

The feeling it gives me is a feeling I never wanna lose.

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Originally Posted by Mac31

Yes Baby they are in a very very special place.
Yes that unexplained connection is wonderful. I have learnt to step back and accept it. I unconditionally know they are there and I am in their heart as they know its the same with me and that in itself is all we need...ahhh see...its the knowing. I am blessed to have the knowing : SMILE Always see the bigger picture.
Thank you for your thoughts.

Big hugs babe.

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Originally Posted by Wonderland

My partner is the first person to give me the feeling of being loved just the way I am. Warts and all.
Had never experienced anything like that, having had parents that were impossible to please and were judging me constantly.

Now I am with someone who thinks my less attractive traits are funny and a non-issue!!
It took me a while to accept that it was possible to be loved for who you are.

The feeling it gives me is a feeling I never wanna lose.

Thats beautiful wonder....we all hear about unconditional love.... to feel it from your partner... for them to love and accept us completely is a treasure... and a feeling i think we can hold onto forever as long as we hold faith in our true love through good and especially bad times. Im so happy for you.

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

Thats beautiful wonder....we all hear about unconditional love.... to feel it from your partner... for them to love and accept us completely is a treasure... and a feeling i think we can hold onto forever as long as we hold faith in our true love through good and especially bad times. Im so happy for you.

Thanks UWW. It is indeed the most wonderful experience and quite frankly the nicest gift you can give anyone. I feel blessed, I wake up and go to sleep remembering how wonderful it is. It's not perfect but it is the kind of love that gives me the confidence and the energy to reach for higher goals, personally and professionally.

As far as unconditional goes, it isn't unconditional in the sense that I can do what I want and get away with it coz I still have to beeeeeehave but it is unconditional as far as warts and all go (warts as in character flaws)

I never expected perfection from anyone so I didn't expect that from my partner but I was totally used to having to aim for perfection myself which I failed at terribly my whole life of course so to experience this....wow is the word that springs to mind.

My partner once said to me way too many couples or people in general spend 90% of their time talking about the 10% in their relationship and/or life that's going wrong. The good stuff needs our attention as well, at least a special mention once a day
What I'm trying to say, is that we have to focus on the good stuff although the bad bits should never be ignored but with a bit of luck and a whole lot of common sense, decency, respect and a great deal of love, everybody's capable of having a relationship that makes you both better and happier people overall.

Btw, I loved your description of those few lovely days away! That sounded amazing!! Care to share where that was? Sounded like a lovely setting!

Thanks Wonder ... of course love to share such a gem... Its in a place called the Hidden River Valley
http://www.wairualodge.co.nz

I totally relate to you with the whole perfection thing....like u it took my GF who is quite the opposite of me to really question whether my self imposed beliefs were helping or hindering me. Turns out i dont have to be perfect or even near to... ahhhhh such a weight off my shoulders.
Iv been trying lately to follow the law of attraction and keep my focus and thoughts on positive... to attract positive... ill admit its hard... old habits die hard but im gonna keep trying!

To change is hard but the rewards are magnificent, it really is worth all the hard work. Working on your mind is so much harder than working on your body. Let me think if I still feel the same way when sweating my ass off when working out though

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

http://www.wairualodge.co.nz

I am so going there one day!!! Beautiful

Flowers for no reason. I like giving & receiving them. Cliche, but lovely. Of course, not limited to relationships

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Originally Posted by Dash80

Flowers for no reason. I like giving & receiving them. Cliche, but lovely. Of course, not limited to relationships

I love giving flowers if someone likes receiving :-)

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

Thanks Wonder ... of course love to share such a gem... Its in a place called the Hidden River Valley
http://www.wairualodge.co.nz

I totally relate to you with the whole perfection thing....like u it took my GF who is quite the opposite of me to really question whether my self imposed beliefs were helping or hindering me. Turns out i dont have to be perfect or even near to... ahhhhh such a weight off my shoulders.
Iv been trying lately to follow the law of attraction and keep my focus and thoughts on positive... to attract positive... ill admit its hard... old habits die hard but im gonna keep trying!

The fact that you recOgnise you can improve and are willing to work on things means you will improve
Yeah...Self imposed beliefs can cause unnecessary pressure or obsession... very different from respecting your core values.

All the best!

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

Thats beautiful wonder....we all hear about unconditional love.... to feel it from your partner... for them to love and accept us completely is a treasure... and a feeling i think we can hold onto forever as long as we hold faith in our true love through good and especially bad times. Im so happy for you.

Wow what an amazing relatiOnship you have:-)
So happy to read about beautiful connected relationships... So special :-)

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Originally Posted by flounder

Big hugs babe.

Hugs back :-)

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Originally Posted by undawundawoman

Hi BB, Queenie .... fellow romantics lol ....
I had a dream last night and it reminded me of a long weekend away GF and I had. It wasn’t Valentines or anything ( still racking my brain BB - is it bad that I don’t remember what we did the past V Days?? ) just a normal weekend.

I had heard of this place through a friend - its the ultimate as far as seclusion and natural beauty - only 3 or 4 rooms, located deep in a Valley - no mobile or internet reception, outdoor spa and outdoor bath house set high amongst the bush looking down in the valley. Swing bridge and bush walks, home grown produce it was just beautiful.

I had organised sitters and told her only what to pack. I had a ride into the city organised and we boarded the boat in Auckland for the 2 hour ferry.
It was beautiful Friday night, in each others arms we watched the sun go down ... the photos I took of her on the balcony of that boat with the sky orange and pink still to this day takes my breath away.

Friday night we make love, sleep, make love. We awake in the morning to birds & sun. Breakfast is brought to our door. Fresh fruit, cereals, manuka honey, homemade yoghurt. We feast in bed like Queens. We have the bathouse booked for a morning soak. There is 3 walls in the bathouse - the last wall is removed - its open scenery. You sit in this double spa bath and its like looking at a beautiful landscape picture ... except its real life. We light candles and play soft music and just lay in the tub together not speaking. I feell like the luckiest girl alive. To share something so simple but so beautiful with the one I love - its surreal.

Afterwards we go exploring, stopping to kiss or look around to really take it in. We find a river and sit and watch the water skim over the stones. We hold each other and talk. Water has always been a healer for me. When im upset or angry I go to the nearest beach, river, lake and just get it all out - its like the current carries all my burdens away. Now when I think of water I think of her, she runs through my heart and veins freely, I can't live without the essence of her anymore than I can't live without water.

Later that afternoon we decide to join civilisation - only for an hour and borrow the owner’s jeep. We have a late lunch and walk hand in hand through the small town. We go back and make love, sleep, make love, sleep.

Before we know it, is late and we head to the veranda for a pre-arranged homemade candle lit dinner and dessert. Food’s divine - we are surrounded by candles and the stars twinkle above us. She looks so beautiful in the glow. I sit across and think to myself the next time we come back here (and we will!) I want to ask her to marry me. I can't think of any other place I would rather us to be.

We go back to our cabin listen to music together and relax for a good hour. I find out from the owners that we are now the only guests here so I book the outdoor spa for 10pm. We are going au naturel tonight my darling, I grab the wine and we wander outside with just bathrobes on. The water is hot and steamy, secluded by bush we spend a good hour with the jets on full, drinking wine and getting tipsy.
That night we hold each other tight, neither one of us want to leave … to be by ourselves and surrounded by the beauty of nature – it feels like being born again. Everything feels so fresh and new. We return home feeling connected to each other but perhaps even more importantly, connected to ourselves.

My goodness ... You can give lessons on how to have a lovING connected meaningful and beautiful relationship. You have such a busy household yet you alway make time for love and your very very lucky partner.

If everyone were like you there'd be no divorces lol