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This week we're looking at alternative notions of beauty - namely the rise of the Bears and the Chubby Chasers.

Okay, hands up if you're tired of seeing endless images of buff, bronzed, preened and photoshopped bodies? Who's ready for a more diverse, broader definition of what's 'hot'?

What d0 we think of the 'chubby chasers' and the bears? Have they seen the light? Have they won out over a multi-million dollar industry hell bent on sending us to the nearest gym and salad bar?

When was the last time you saw a bear without a smile on their face? Seems there's something to be said for body acceptance and loving oneself regardless of how you look.

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But aren't bears and cubs usually also into S&M and leather?

i dunno, throw me a line here
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But aren't bears and cubs usually also into S&M and leather?

i dunno, throw me a line here

No darlin' - youre getting bears and cubs mixed up with Politicians and High Court Judges
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Okay, hands up if you're tired of seeing endless images of buff, bronzed, preened and photoshopped bodies?

I'm not tired of seeing endless images of buff and bronzed. That's my definition of sex! Bring them on and Chrisian you can send them to me, i'll let you have the "over 35's"
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Bring them on and Chrisian you can send them to me, i'll let you have the "over 35's"

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hah.. in the Bear community there is just as much (if not more) emphasis on body image -- it's just a *different* body image.

You might be shocked to know how much time various Musclebears and cubs spend pumping iron. I mean you trade cardio and salad for weights and a pizza, but it's still the same thing.

I don't think it's fair to push conformity of any one form of body image on people.

That said, y'all can have the twinky fairy boys and I'll take me some chunky bears and cubs
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Very interesting point Maximus, I never thought about the image pressure coming from the bear community as well.
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Being skinny and twinky and hairless in the Bear community is a little like being fat and hairy and "mature" in the DNA-underwear-model-esque gay world.
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great comparison Maximus. I guess for my first 7 years of gayness I was certainly attracted to the cute, toned, twinky type of poof, but when I reached 30, I started to find that chest hair and hairy legs can be sexy, that older men with 3 day stubble makes me weak at the knees, and brand whores were not as appealing as they once were. I guess my taste is maturing (or I'm getting desperate! haha) - I'm even dating older men for the first time in my life.
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As a chubby chaser from way back, I think its great that people are acknowledging that beauty can be found in other, less conventional forms. Yes, I aspire to the DNA-style body, but only for myself. For those I choose to share a bed with, I definitely want (and need) a larger and softer form. This often proves to be a confusing fact for people to get their heads around. In the past when Ive told my toned, twinky friends who I would like to spend my bedroom time with, Ive received looks like Ive just told them Im going to paint the house some weird, out-there colour. Its also confused the chubs that Ive showered my admiration on, with them looking all hurt and angry as they think Im taking the piss and winding them up.
And, yes, its confused even me. Ive tried dishing up a response to that inevitable question time and time again, and I still get those funny-coloured paint expresions. Why do you like fat blokes?
When it comes down to it (or when it comes to me going down), its just what I feel attracted to and comfortable with. I am sure we could psychoanalyze it and explain it down to the ground, but that would give away the magic and turn my attraction into the mere mechanics of a machine.
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lol - i thought i was crazy!!!!!!! Iv noticed that alot more guys are choosing chubbier over skinnier - and its great ^^

im a little cubby XP and atleast NOW i feel like i have some chance!!!
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Different strokes for different folks.

Journeys, ages & stages.

The Asherbella of 10 years ago went for 'boy next door'.

The Asherbella of 5 years ago went for lean muscle jock.

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But aren't bears and cubs usually also into S&M and leather?

i dunno, throw me a line here

Not always...I know I am though lol.

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hah.. in the Bear community there is just as much (if not more) emphasis on body image -- it's just a *different* body image.

You might be shocked to know how much time various Musclebears and cubs spend pumping iron. I mean you trade cardio and salad for weights and a pizza, but it's still the same thing.

I don't think it's fair to push conformity of any one form of body image on people.

That said, y'all can have the twinky fairy boys and I'll take me some chunky bears and cubs

This is true...Musclebears seem to be a big thing within the Bear community...

I like them as much as I like the next guy who feels happy with their own body..but please keep those annoying queeny little bitches away from me.

I want the virile, hairy (chest/back/arms), no-attitude, down-to-earth guys...mmm...
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I need a sense of humour and inteligence. If they also look good, then hey, that's a bonus. But really, I get dead bored around people who only ever talk about looking good and diet, exercise, etc.

only must have - a good head of hair.
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I need a sense of humour and inteligence. If they also look good, then hey, that's a bonus. But really, I get dead bored around people who only ever talk about looking good and diet, exercise, etc.

only must have - a good head of hair.

I hear that one sista!

I just get bored of people who aren't interested in having a conversation when they are out ...WHATS with that ??

Is going out all about socializing ?? or did I miss a memo on that one ??

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I'm not tired of seeing endless images of buff and bronzed. That's my definition of sex! Bring them on and Chrisian you can send them to me, i'll let you have the "over 35's"

We can share them Tristianity

and yes agree totally with Maximus. I have bear friends and believe me they try hard at their image just as much as a twink / model type will.

I do love to look at the buffed and bronzed but .......... when that spark hits you would be surprised at who it actually is. Whenever I get that spark with someone it hasnt been a buffed and bronzed. Actually most of the buffed and bronzed have turned out to be a big disappointment ( not all mind you ). One fuck buddy I have is a real country boy dufus to look out...........bowl cut hair, socks that are not rolled down.....daggy shirts/shorts etc but boy is he good in the sack and the cock !
mmmmm mmmmmm.

But going to Parties with my bear friends , they have more mirror time that I do in a week.

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No darlin' - youre getting bears and cubs mixed up with Politicians and High Court Judges

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As a chubby chaser from way back, I think its great that people are acknowledging that beauty can be found in other, less conventional forms. Yes, I aspire to the DNA-style body, but only for myself. For those I choose to share a bed with, I definitely want (and need) a larger and softer form. This often proves to be a confusing fact for people to get their heads around. In the past when Ive told my toned, twinky friends who I would like to spend my bedroom time with, Ive received looks like Ive just told them Im going to paint the house some weird, out-there colour. Its also confused the chubs that Ive showered my admiration on, with them looking all hurt and angry as they think Im taking the piss and winding them up.
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Was your daddy a fat cunt, In sorry was your father overweight ? I have a theory...
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Muscle bears are hot.

The muscle mary thing gets a bit boring, true, but that's not saying it's not hot as fuck either. I get tired of the barbie-doll attitudes of most of them though...

Buffed, plucked, preened, bronzed, it's all very nice, and I really do appreciate the effort people out in, and I bet they get a kick out of it from day to day life... but I can't help but thinking they kinda blend in with the background when they are out partying. I generally find it's like maccas - taste fucking awesome but it's pretty cheap. Walk into any gay bar and they're a dime a dozen. And you usually get the attitude for free.

I'm not a bear whore, but a little roughed up is good. It's just something a little different.

That being said though, anything with a pulse...
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