OK your in a long term relationship - i.e you have lived together for oevr a year.....

Do you or dont you - Look at your partners Mobile Text Messages....

And if you do - And the outcomes of that not great - WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU DO.....

depends on the nature of the relationship. if there was total trust then you shouldn't need to be checking - although personally - i wouldn't mind if my partner checked my phone - i wouldn't be hiding anything.
if you find something - no other option - you have to talk about it.

I would never check my partners or even a friends text messages... it's a complete invasion of privacy and exactly the same as opening their private mail or email. But if you have, I agree with Burgjo, something must be said.. although be careful, you could come across hypocritical..

an interesting scenario....

what have i done....

I admit i have checked...why....his ex BF was trying to get in on the scene and had a crush on him still and was carrying on a bit about what he was missing out on we have all heard it before (the bf was telling me this - i just wanted to see it from the horses mouth)......what did i find.....nothing in particular.....a few messages from the ex that hadn't been deleted and a whole lota crap from other people.

Would I do it again......

I am comfortable with the dynamics of their relationship now......so no.....The ex has been put in his place.....

What should you do.......

Protect yourself and your interests........If i had found something (like funny business) I would have walked out and when he asks why I would have asked him to tell me a reason why he thinks i would walk out.....and if he still doesn't confess maybe suggest I would send him a text message or call sometime....

Tough call,
I was hurt really badly by an ex and the only reason i found out he was such a scumbag was cuz i went through his phone, now I have this paranoid urge to go through and find out what's goin on.
In fairness though i do trust my current boyf completly and have hardly been through his phone.
I guess sometimes you've gotta go with ya gut feeling!!!!

my partner read mine all the time - i never cared that he checked but he always questioned me verytime a guy had messaged me, no matter who they were.

If hes cheating confront him and dump him >.>

Guys who cheat and hide it are the lowest type.

It's one thing to cheat and feel guilty about it and tell the other person, which can in most circumstances be forgiven, but it's something completely else to cheat and lie and do it behind ur back. Dump the bastard.

i can't believe how many people check their boyfriends phones or let them check yours.. what ever happened to trust? privacy? And bf's that did and questioned a mere male friends message need to be curbed along with their insecurities.

I agree that it's an invasion of privacy and shouldn't be done unless you have strong suspicions that something suss is going on... sometimes it's the only way to find out!

As a rule tho, I never check my partner's or any friend's phones either behind their back or even if a msg pops in while I have it . It's none of my business and when someone else does it to me, i get quite pissed off even tho I know I have nothing to hide.

If my partner was to do it to me, I'd feel as tho he didn't trust me and that would be an issue.

totally agree Peeter and Cheetah.

theres a point sometimes when you feel comfortable enough to let them do that. Its not an invasion of privacy if you let them...