Genesis: I feel your pain.
There's nothing like listening to one boy (although deliberately stirring) refer to 'the gays' as though they're the family living on the corner, whilst a Christian student shares how she finds those 'gays who also try to be Christian' to be abominable and another girl says how she'd like to adopt herself her very own Will or Jack to make her life complete. Meanwhile in different classes, someone else makes fun of another girl for being 'bisexual' to the point where she decides she doesn't want to come to class anymore because whilst she loves it, she can't handle the treatment, another boy slags off Darren Hayes as a 'Big Fat Poof", only to feel victimised because he gets told off and then to have a student ask if 'you go rollerblading' (according to Ross Noble: gayer than having sex with a man). And to boot, seeing the eye rolls from students when a girl starts talking about things like the pride parade she went to or the note she gives out when she decides to partake in a national day of silence is not pleasant either.
Whilst most students don't fall into this category, it is kind of worrying that this can still be going on. And whilst you do your best to engender respect and tolerance in your students, to hear some of the stuff that they come out with is very disheartening. Even worse when you feel slightly affronted because what they're saying (whether they realise it or not) tars you with the same broad, ignorant brushstrokes they make.
Worse is the feeling that my sexuality, if known, would only interfere with me being able to do my job, given what I see on a day to day basis.
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As for Changing Rooms, did anyone ever see the one where the kitchen became Warhol's worst nightmare. The floor was replaced with black and white squares of linoleum, the fridge was covered with a Warholesque pattern of Vegemite jars and the rest of the room looked only slightly less ill than the face of the poor couple who got shafted with that abomination? It was like a rainbow threw up in there - several times.
yuck.
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With all due respect Genesis, I think it's a bit harsh to slam Callea for doing nothing for the gay movement. Or for how he came out. I agree that people like Callea or Zach or Nick or David (or whoever it may be) have the potential to be great role models for young people struggling with their identity. After all, young people (irrespective of any categories or minorities) look for images of themselves in everything they get exposed to: television, movies, literature even maths problems. Their visibility and recognition within such mediums is key to their self-acceptance and the development of their emerging identity.
That said, whilst we want high profile individuals who are prepared to stand up and be counted, to slam someone for not actively furthering a 'gay agenda' is unfair just as it is to criticise them for being outed instead of making the decision to come out. 'Coming Out' and 'being gay' are personal experiences that differ for everybody. Whilst me might be able to guess why someone doesn't willingly come out, we don't necessarily know the pressures they might be under (perceived or otherwise) or the factors that they have to consider when they make such decisions. I think it's important to remember that not everyone is ready to own their sexuality immediately. Some people are forced out before they may be truly comfortable with themselves and not everybody is lucky enough to be in a supportive environment.
This may be changing. The iGeneration is about choice, and it is becoming increasingly evident that sexuality is less and less of an issue. Teenagers are coming out much earlier than they would have in the past two decades (there was a great Time article on this for anyone interested). And gay marriage is virtually a non-issue as far as most are concerned (or so surveys of youngsters are suggesting).
That doesn't mean that everyone needs to fly the rainbow flag high. Being gay is not and should not be the defining characteristic of someone. Good on those individuals prepared to stand up and talk about the issues faced by gay and lesbian people. It still takes a lot of courage for some people to do that and it is worth admiration. However, not everyone wants to be labelled by their sexuality or become part of the vocal portion of the community, and we have to respect such decisions too.
That said, despise Callea for his music, or because you think he's personally a bit of a twat, by all means. Personally, I'm not a fan. But perhaps you shouldn't be so harsh on him just because he chose to (and may still choose to) keep something so intensely personal as just that - personal.
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