Hey Kristy, loved your post. I think I'm in a similar situation...keep doing the 'hetero relationship' thing but they never work cos somehow i know they don't feel right, and i've only ever had brief encounters with girls but never really explored that properly...I think I have to be honest with myself now though. Glad you've got support around you. I'm in Melb too, 35 (eek!) x

Well done Annabel - it took me until I was 55!

Hello hello.
Am a newly-ish out 19yr old girl living in Sydney.
Don't know really where to go to
Meet girls so thought this may be a good place to start!

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Well done Annabel - it took me until I was 55!

WOW Irene..Did you always know you were gay? Why 55 do you think?

I've only very recently thought of myself as gay. I was trying to explain it to Bon the other night. When I was young, it wasn't even an option - it was never even spoken of. Lesbians were confined to butch women. I never knew of anyone who was lesbian. I had a very passionate and intense relationship with a boyfriend in my 20s that lasted several years. After that broke up I was so devastated I had no interest in a relationship for quite some years, and then it was mainly affairs with little emotional involvement.

Actually, the bf was very talented literary-wise & extraordinarily intelligent. He actually wrote a book about a lesbian S&M relationship. I read the draft (very erotic) and heard he was trying to find a publisher. I don't know if he ever did - he obviously had to do so under a female nom de plume.

Earlier at boarding school when I was 14, there was a girl in my room of 4 who would visit our beds in turn and give us very sensual massages (back only). One day I mentioned it to another girl not in our room who exclaimed "No!!! She's a lesbian!" First time I'd ever heard the word, but I understood it was a bad thing!! LOL

I suppose from about 40, I made pretty obvious passes at some women which were rejected quite vehemently, but I still never though of myself as lesbian. But since that age, I have had no interest in men at all. It wasn't until I started really lusting after one of my employees a couple of years ago, that the penny dropped. Slow learner,whatever, I don't know.

hi, Im newly out. I was in relationships with men before but subconsciously i think i was sabotaging them... Looking back i was never comfortable. Now I have this feeling of freedom. Im 26 from melbourne and ready to start living.

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I've only very recently thought of myself as gay. I was trying to explain it to Bon the other night. When I was young, it wasn't even an option - it was never even spoken of. Lesbians were confined to butch women. I never knew of anyone who was lesbian. I had a very passionate and intense relationship with a boyfriend in my 20s that lasted several years. After that broke up I was so devastated I had no interest in a relationship for quite some years, and then it was mainly affairs with little emotional involvement.

Actually, the bf was very talented literary-wise & extraordinarily intelligent. He actually wrote a book about a lesbian S&M relationship. I read the draft (very erotic) and heard he was trying to find a publisher. I don't know if he ever did - he obviously had to do so under a female nom de plume.

Earlier at boarding school when I was 14, there was a girl in my room of 4 who would visit our beds in turn and give us very sensual massages (back only). One day I mentioned it to another girl not in our room who exclaimed "No!!! She's a lesbian!" First time I'd ever heard the word, but I understood it was a bad thing!! LOL

I suppose from about 40, I made pretty obvious passes at some women which were rejected quite vehemently, but I still never though of myself as lesbian. But since that age, I have had no interest in men at all. It wasn't until I started really lusting after one of my employees a couple of years ago, that the penny dropped. Slow learner,whatever, I don't know.

Wow. Isn't it just so peaceful being who you really are. I grew up in a country town who loved labelling people nastily. I knew when I was younger but struggled emotionally with it because of the thoughts at that time. I remember when I started to come in to my own and learn to not care about others opinions so much and learnt confident to have my own. I love being where I am now.

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hi, Im newly out. I was in relationships with men before but subconsciously i think i was sabotaging them... Looking back i was never comfortable. Now I have this feeling of freedom. Im 26 from melbourne and ready to start living.

Good on you Jen. Exciting times ahead.

Thanks girls, can definitely relate to a lot of that...(even though I'm a newbie bumbling my way through..) This is a great forum!

Hi!!!!!!!!!!!'
Long time reader, first time poster. I think it is time for me to start contributing!

Welcome to the lurkers we should all post and be merry together! Yay!

Hurro :3

Hi
I'm Jess, I'm 18 and need to meet some new friends. I live in south east melbourne.

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Hi
I'm Jess, I'm 18 and need to meet some new friends. I live in south east melbourne.

Welcome Jess!. Best part of Melbourne..Me too.

hi there :-)
Im heading to Brisbane from up north. i have lost nearly all of my friends since coming out. looking to make some new friends :-)

that's exactly where Im at. though i was stupid enough to get married even know it wasn't where my heart was! 25 and moving to Brisbane to start over :-)

Welcome to all the new ladies, especially the brisbane ones

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hi there :-)
Im heading to Brisbane from up north. i have lost nearly all of my friends since coming out. looking to make some new friends :-)

That's pretty crappy. You've come to the right place for acceptance though. Welcome!

welcome new soylent friends!

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welcome new soylent friends!

Soylent?

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Soylent?

I couldn't even find it in the mac default dictionary.
ex oh ex oh curious

Hello been reading for a while but this is my first post! 23yr old female living in brisbane - im fairly new to the scene, would be great to make some new friends and thought this would be a good place to start!

Welcome lovely

oh my! you wee sproglets don't know Soylent Green!
Well, it means that I see new lesbians and I want to eat them. I'm just really friendly is all.

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oh my! you wee sproglets don't know Soylent Green!
Well, it means that I see new lesbians and I want to eat them. I'm just really friendly is all.

Looks like a mighty interesting movie. I'll have to watch it!

Hi all, I'm Maz, 30 livin in Brisbane. Only joined the site today, still investigating/stalking... lol ....

Hello I am from Adelaide, nice to meet you all!

Hmm so this feels like a big step for some reason.. a good one though! Just wanted to say hiya and introduce myself. Looking to making some friends on here. Hope everyone is well tonight.

Welcome all!

Hi all, I'm Claire. I'm a melbourne girl (eastern suburbs). Just joined and thought I'd say hi