Cynthia Nixon: But I'm bi

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She got the world talking when she suggested she ‘chose’ to be gay, but now ex Sex and the City star Cynthia Nixon has clarified, confirming what many of us suspected – she’s actually bi.

And being bisexual ain’t a choice.

The actress, who is in a long-term same-sex relationship, prompted concern last week when she told the New York Times: “I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me.”

This rattled many LGBTI equality group who promote the fact that being gay is not a ‘choice’ we make, but an orientation which is natural and innate to us which were should explore without prejudice.

Reacting to the concern, Nixon now clarifies to The Advocate magazine: “While I don’t often use the word, the technically precise term for my orientation is bisexual.

“I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have ‘chosen’ is to be in a gay relationship.

“As I said in the Times, I do believe that most members of our community – as well as the majority of heterosexuals – cannot and do not choose the gender of the persons with whom they seek to have intimate relationships because, unlike me, they are only attracted to one sex.

“Our community is not a monolith, thank goodness, any more than America itself is. I look forward to and will continue to work toward the day when America recognises all of us as full and equal citizens.”

Well that clears that up.

On a distantly-related note, see the reaction when Sex and the City’s Samantha explores her sexuality below…

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Marko

Marko said on the 5th Feb, 2012

If you read my other post I reference what I have observed are big differences between how man and women typically respond to this issue. In my experience sexual orientation is much more (although not exclusively) defined around the polar opposites of heterosexual or homosexual for men than it is for women. And it is true that a majority of guys I have met who claim that they are straight or bisexual, but demonstrate (or admit) attraction to men, most often turn out to be essentially homosexual.

Unfortunately it is this evident confused majority that create bad press for the much smaller number of guys who are truly sexually fluid / bisexual.

Identification as gay or lesbian is much more complicated & for some men and & many women is as much about lifestyle choice ('how I choose to live my life now') as it is about their sexual orientation.

Of course a big part of the problem is that as a society we love to categorize & box each other in. When it doesn't work, sometimes it is because we aren't being honest with ourselves. But at least as often it is because the boxes don't fit.

It still doesn't negate the fact that she was either born bi, gay, straight etc, and has said it's a CHOICE, clearly without even thinking before saying it publicly. She's single handedly given the religious zealots the chance to bring this up whenever they feel the need too. And remember at the end of the day if she say's she's bi, then she's still bi. Regardless of how she wishes to spend the rest of her time alive. She will always have been born bi.

flounder

flounder said on the 10th Feb, 2012

If you read my other post I reference what I have observed are big differences between how man and women typically respond to this issue. In my experience sexual orientation is much more (although not exclusively) defined around the polar opposites of heterosexual or homosexual for men than it is for women. And it is true that a majority of guys I have met who claim that they are straight or bisexual, but demonstrate (or admit) attraction to men, most often turn out to be essentially homosexual.

Unfortunately it is this evident confused majority that create bad press for the much smaller number of guys who are truly sexually fluid / bisexual.

Identification as gay or lesbian is much more complicated & for some men and & many women is as much about lifestyle choice ('how I choose to live my life now') as it is about their sexual orientation.

Of course a big part of the problem is that as a society we love to categorize & box each other in. When it doesn't work, sometimes it is because we aren't being honest with ourselves. But at least as often it is because the boxes don't fit.


"Identification as gay or lesbian is much more complicated" What a load of fucking bullshit, you try the confusion of being genuinely attracted to both sexes, thats so fucking disrespectful. We have as many complications as our gay and lesbial brothers and sisters.

"And it is true that a majority of guys I have met who claim that they are straight or bisexual, but demonstrate (or admit) attraction to men, most often turn out to be essentially homosexual". Here we go again, broad sweeping statements based on fucking what, you???

You really come across as someone who doesnt believe that bisexuality is a genuine sexual orientation, we are all just in denial about being gay. Build a fucking bridge and get over it! :mad: